Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the impact of our family of origin (the family we grew up in) on our current day challenges and difficulties. He also talks about how the pathway out of our children’s struggles runs through looking at the ways we, as parents, hurt them and came up short. He talks about “emotional proximity” and how this is passed on in families. He talks about the need to balance our ability to hold our children psychologically (containing) and having a secure self with clear boundaries.

This book is a must read. Dr. Reedy reviews what he calls "the most important book on the subject of child development and parenting." He talks about the dynamic where a child is able to perceive what a parent needs and then gives it to the parent at the cost of the real self. He explains how many of our challenges are related to our childhood wounds and how it is only by discovering those early wounds that we are able to move past many of the pitfalls in our lives today.

Dr. Reedy talks about codependency and healthy detachment. He offers a definition of healthy detachment and describes the art of boundaries. He suggest healthy detachment is synonymous with healthy connection, attachment, and intimacy.

Evoke Therapy therapist, Judith Sadora, introduces the concepts of social graces and how it incorporates racial and cultural Identity in working with adolescents of color. She discusses the importance of normalizing and creating space to talk about concepts related to racial and cultural identity. This podcast also discusses a few strategies that adopted parents can incorporate when discussing race with their adopted children from different racial and cultural backgrounds.

Dr. Reedy talks about facing our fears & insecurities and how doing so reduces the power they have over our life. He talks about how doing so helps our children, our spouses, and our friends to feel safer. He talks about how sometimes we have to do things while we are still afraid and how therapy can help with that.

Brad talks about how decisions for length of stay are made and the kinds of things to consider. He challenges parents to avoid the mistake of thinking that treatment is a fix, but rather to approach it like it is the start of a life-long process. He talks about why so many clients go on to some residential programming after Evoke.

This broadcast is for parents new to the experience of wilderness therapy or residential treatment. Dr. Reedy discusses the benefits of experiential therapy. He talks about the adjustments families and siblings go through and where to look for support. He also discusses the benefits and ideas behind parental work in the therapeutic process.

Dr. Reedy talks about vulnerability, shame, and how we can focus on what is beneath the symptom to facilitate healing. He talks about how it can be difficult for all of us to lean into our work because we grew up in a culture of right & wrong, good & bad, blame, shame, and guilt.

Dr. Reedy discusses the stages of change for children and parents as they move through the therapy process at Evoke. He talks about regression, relapse, and how to let go of outcomes when it comes to your children's thoughts and feelings,

Dr. Brad Reedy, Clinical Director and Co-Founder of Evoke Therapy Programs, explains Evoke's wilderness therapy for those who have a family member or friend at Evoke. He talks about how you can support your loved ones as they navigate the difficult path toward healing from mental health and addiction issues.

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how communication skills can be used to gain clarity and transform a relationship from enmeshment and reactivity to clarity and connection. He talks about the fundamental tools of communication and listening and the ideas that they rest on.

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses "The Four Agreements," by Don Miguel Ruiz. He highlights how closely this book aligns with what we know about child development, attachment, and parenting. He talks about guilt and shame. He talks about learning to un-learn many of the things our parents taught us and their parents taught them. Brad recommends this book to parents and children alike as a spiritual guide to our psychological development.

Dr. Reedy talks about how fathers play an important role in the lives of their sons. He talks about being a mentor and learning to listen as keys to raising resilient and resourceful sons.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from siblings, family, and friends of Evoke Therapy Programs participants. He talks about how to support a loved one in treatment. He talks about honoring siblings struggle to reconnect to their sibling in treatment.

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how we communicate with our children reveals qualities of our relationship with them. He provides guidance for writing letters to your child and connecting those to the underlying ideas of intimacy, connection, and differentiation.