Self-Mastery: Becoming a Leader of Light in a changing world - Co-Creator Network

Have you ever heard someone be asked for an observation and you proceed to listen to a judgment- filled diatribe? Do you realize one of the most important skills of advanced leadership is to know the difference between observation and opinion and how it affects everything you do each and every day. Listen in so you can learn the difference with us.

Lets not fool ourselves, rumors can distract even the most logical and dedicated of any employee. Also, rumors provide a vital role in your organization, If you are listening and know how to work with the information, you can get a pulse on the collective morale of your business. However, before you get to this point, you need to address those who feed off the fear and frustration that rumors incite. The question is how- and that is what we will be discussing.

The dreaded performance appraisal! It is like taxes; it comes all too quickly and so often is tedious. For so many, the performance appraisal process is hollow, meaningless. For managers, many of whom have never been trained properly in how to conduct one, it is a task they would rather avoid. However, no matter where you stand, there is ONE tendency that is CRITICAL to avoid in the meeting. If you work this approach, the results will be more accurate and your team more motivated. We will let you in on the big secret during the show.

Have you ever worked with someone that (most) everyone sees as a “nudge”? Have you ever been on a team with someone who just drives everyone crazy? Have you ever had to work closely with someone that just, literally, drains your energy? Wonder if that someone is you? It need not be a life-theme of yours. It could just be a “temporary” set back, when you are just not your buoyant self. However, regardless if it is you, someone else, long term or temporary, there is a core reason that creates “isolationism”. Tune in and listen to what you need to know.

We all complain that we are not being “listened” to. It comes from all directions- personally, professionally and one thing we definitely can count on: we cannot take ourselves out of the equation. Believe it or not, any exchange between two parties involves 2 parties! We tend to forget this when we perceive we are being left out of the loop; however, the responsibility for “whole listening” is everyone’s. We will cover what this means and provide you with a few specific actions you can take today to get the “air time” you really need.

It happens to all of us, usually when we least expect it. We are just not on the same page. As a matter of fact, we are not even in the same BOOK…Yes, we are all laughing because we know it to be true, but when you are in the middle of a performance evaluation, an important meeting, a public conversation, or any interaction, sharing the SAME outlook is critical. What is the source? Where does it all begin? You might not be surprised to know it is expectations…Have you shared yours? We will cover how to get the ball rolling and make sure you know the most important points to share with your employee.

Jealousy is a tricky thing- it comes up in the most unpredictable and inconvenient times. Are you jealous of co-workers when you least expect it? Would you know jealousy when you experienced it, or do you suppress it to a more “acceptable” internal emotional state? Just a reminder, when we chose consciously or unconsciously to push down unacceptable feelings, they WILL surface sooner or later. And when they do, they are more “viral” than ever! In this show, we will chat you up on how to manage the situation in a way that can not only relieve the pressure within yourself and help your colleagues transcend one of the more divisive emotions known on the planet!

It is our supreme pleasure to have our guest, Jonas Congelli, join us for this show. He has emerged as a strategic game changer by virtue of his ability and commitment to demonstrate courage, compassion and commitment. Recently surfacing from a 5 month team development experience, Jonas, once a self-declared skeptic to the integrated approach to leadership, now is choosing to embrace its power. Have you ever wondered how a leader can actually take the concepts and make them viable in the “real world”? If you find yourself curious, tune and listen to this conversation to learn how one intrepid leader became a uniquely confident and poised inspiration to his staff.

What you concentrate on, you will create. Thoughts are things, and like all “things” in the physical world, they have a vibratory frequency. Like attracts like, as we experience magnetism in both objects and relating. So, when you desire something and simultaneously fear you will not “get” it, you send mixed messages to the “universe”, as it were. Why would you care? Because if you are creating the possibility of a promotion, the quality of your thoughts as well as your deeds before hand is critical. They must be aligned to be successful. The problem most of us have, but do not realize, is the need to manage our creative mind-set as well as the emotional “fuel” which drives it. This will prove to be a very valuable show, one which will deliver you a new perspective altogetheron upward mobility.

Is it possible to truly forgive someone who has betrayed you? What if that person is just “someone you work with?” And frankly, why do we care to forgive them if they have sold us up the river? Does it really make a difference in the long run? This is a difficult subject and one which is sure to touch off strong opinions on either side of the issue. The important consideration, however, is one that is infinitely bigger than whether or not to let go of a painful betrayal. The bigger issue and your management of it in ANY capacity, has ripple effects that reaches its hand much deeper into the organization. If you are curious what we mean by that, please tune in live or pull up our archived show to hear how three words can change the future of your organization.

Who ever thought that a bully could be a good thing? Do you? What do you do and where do you go when the bully of the department or organization shows up? How do you make the correct choice when the bully pushes your buttons? Bullies are not what they appear to be and the greatest disservice we do for ourselves is relating to them in the same way we did when 8, 9 or 10 years old. When someone in your life takes a “position”, such as bullying, they can be a powerful teacher for you. That positional relating allows you to take a look at where your emotional intelligence gaps are and manage them better. Tune in so we can give you a few ideas that you can use right awa. Dissolve the hold bullies have on you, friends. It's as easy as listening.

There have been millions made on the re-training of individuals to open the doorway to diversity, the reduction of sexual harassment in the workplace and other dysfunctional and even illegal behaviors. The intention of the Human Resource community has been to educate employees in identifying the “ signs” of harassment, etc. What has not been a focus, however, is the underlying message and lesson that stands behind each of these experiences. Victimhood is a disease of great proportion in the human condition and workplace issues such as these are part of the evolution of employees and people, in general away from that mentality. We have a unique take on this issue from the perspective of self reflection. Please join us to see what we have to say.

Struggle is not a way of life if you know where to focus your energy. That means when you are face to face with anyone who is draining your energy you do have a choice. Most people are so involved in the drama, so exhausted by the tug of war that characterizes the day to day exchanges, they do not know where to begin healing the dynamic. In this show we will talk about the cost of the struggle to you physically due to stress as well as the most important thing to know to dismantle the dynamic of struggle in and of itself.

Passive Aggressive behavior and the people that use it are often totally unaware of this fact. Most often, Passive-Aggressive’s (PA’s), think of themselves as the victim in their relationships. They are masters of manipulation, superior at timing, spinning and reweaving what they say to create positional power in their conversations. They create divisiveness, stress and factions everywhere they go. It is their way to gain and hold power without taking responsibility for their own choices. In our radio show this week, we will discuss how to spot a true PA, the difference between aggressive and truly assertive communication and how to spot your own personal triggers

This is a tricky subject no matter whether you find yourself at work or at home. How do you resolve the age-old question, “if only he (or she) would change…” The easy out on this one is assuming everyone “else” is 100% correct or 100% wrong. It is human nature to be defensive and certainly when you get consistent or thematic feedback from 3 or more sources that the issue is “yours”…The truth is somewhere in the middle and that is what we will focus on in this show….How to sort through the defensiveness and determine if your behavior is causing a real business issue or the rumblings of a few disgruntled co-workers. This is a powerful issue for many and will prove to be a powerful show. Tune in.