Summary: In Part 2 of our talk about deal breakers, we focus on the online deal breakers that have us clicking to the next profile without another thought. Joel talks a bit about Starcrossed hitting the one year mark as an online comic and has a chance to respond to a male listener contributing some of his deal breakers. How do education, cussing and Big Macs factor into dating? Listen and find out. We had another fantastic response from our DDP listeners for this episode. If you write the show, please feel free to mention where you're writing from! It's great fun for us to find out who is listening to the show, and where you are listening from. Keep those emails comin'! - Direct MP3 Download - iTunes Subscription - RSS Feed Tweet Show Notes for episode 9 below… DDP Ep. 009 Show Notes On DDP episode numero nueve we talk about… Lara’s been super busy as per usual, and Joel is celebrating the one year anniversary of his comic! He has fun plans for putting together a book of the comic and thinking about how to keep getting the word out about his art. Last week we talked about deal breakers when meeting someone for the first time in person. This week we talk about online deal breakers - what really doesn’t do it for you when you’re getting to know someone online, or even when you first just skim their profile - or even just first glance at their picture? Joel mentions some pet peeves to do with photos for online profiles - such as if a person doesn’t have one at all, or has five of pretty much the same photo, just taken seconds apart by a crummy built in laptop camera. He also points out that people who take the time to write that they’re looking for someone who will treat them well or who won’t be a jerk probably won’t avoid jerks by writing something like that. Mundane hobbies like shopping also tick Joel off - sitting on the couch or exercising your credit card are not hobbies! Lara reiterates her frustration with profiles that are poorly written. It’s so easy to check your grammar and spelling these days, and she’d prefer to go out with someone who pays attention to detail. Short messages with no substance are also pretty annoying. Try to make a connection, take the time to read the person’s profile before you write to them! It’s good to see not only some effort going into a first contact message online, but some effort put into the other person’s profile when you go to check them out after they’ve sent a message. EMAIL & COMMENTS We had lots of great email and comments on the blog! We heard from... Laura L., who writes that she is frustrated by people who are not honest on their profiles, and mentions someone she went out with who wrote on his profile that he didn’t have children, then revealed AFTER their first date that he’s divorced with a four year old. We talk about understanding that it may not be comfortable to put everything about your past social life on an online profile for people to read, but you do need to be thoughtful about not being misleading, and about bringing up important pieces of information (like children!) as soon as possible. Knowing yourself and what you can and cannot handle is important - if you absolutely cannot imagine being with someone who has kids, or if you have responsibility for a child, maybe it’s better to be absolutely clear about that on your own profile, to try to avoid disappointment and miscommunication. ------------------------- Andrea D. writes that she is very frustrated by guys who think it’s ok to flirt online and tell her they’d like to take her out, only to disappear completely rather than finalize a plan. Grrr! Both Lara and Joel have definitely been there. Unfortunately this happens often, and even though it should be easy to send a quick message saying that you can’t make it to a planned meeting, or are no longer interested in meeting at all,
