Summary: Learn 4 ways you can handle difficult people. (Of course I got this from an original list of 7 ways at PsychologyToday.com....but that is what the Smalley Podcast is all about, making things simpler!) LEAVE A REVIEW ON ITUNES - (IT REALLY HELPS PEOPLE FIND THE SHOW) BROUGHT TO YOU BY SMALLEY CENTER - 96% OF OUR FORMER COUPLES WOULD RECOMMEND OUR PROGRAM TO YOU IF YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDED HELP! SMALLEY CENTER OR CALL US AT 800-975-8748 THAT’S 800-975-8748. 7 Ways to Defuse a Difficult Encounter Having learned the hard way, Vancouver physician (and PT blogger) Susan Biali offers concrete steps for dealing with unreasonable person. (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prescriptions-life) Minimize time with problem people. [I always say “short and simple”] Give up the dream that they will one day be the person you wish them to be. There are people in our lives who have moments when they seem to be the parent/partner/spouse/friend/whatever we've always wanted. Yet they end up disappointing or hurting us. Accepting the person as is can be a remarkable relief. Avoid topics that get you into trouble. Before any interaction with a difficult person, mentally review the topics that invite attack and make an effort to avoid them. If your in-laws always demean your choice of career, change the topic immediately if they ask how your work is going. Don't try to get them to see your point of view. Don't try to explain yourself or get them to empathize with you.They won't. And you'll just feel worse for trying. The problem with difficult people, for me, is that they don’t want to change. Please pay attention to #1! I was speaking to a group of youth pastors....when out on a date with your spouse, how do you tell someone who’s called you and has an emergency that you can’t come and help them? Don’t answer the phone! BROUGHT TO YOU BY THE SMALLEY CENTER - 8 OUT OF 10 COUPLES ARE STILL TOGETHER AND HAPPILY MARRIED...EVEN WHEN THEY THOUGHT THERE WASN’T A CHANCE FOR THEIR MARRIAGE! FIND OUT HOW HERE OR CALL US AT 800.975.8748 THAT’S 800.975.8748. FEATURED RESOURCE FROM THE SHOW Buy Now ARTIST HIGHLIGHT FOURTEEN40 - Lucky Number 13 - Click here to view on iTunes
