Summary: <p> There is an old joke about a mother who wakes up her son and says: Honey, you have to get up. It’s time to go to shul. The son resists. I don’t want to go to shul. I want to sleep. Honey, you have to go to shul. I don’t want to go to shul. I want to sleep. You can’t sleep. You have to go to shul. Give me one good reason. Give you one good reason? What about: you’re the rabbi!</p> <p> What do we do about the things we don’t want to do? It’s easy to respond to the things we <em>want </em>to do. Want to go to the Taylor Swift concert? Yes. Want to go watch the Patriots, Red Sox, Celtics or Bruins? Yes. Want to go away to the Berkshires or Cape or Martha’s Vineyard with your loved ones? Yes. But what about the stuff we don’t want to do? Two things are both true, and they cut in opposite directions.</p> <p> One, people like doing what they want to do when they want to do it, not what they feel they have to do. Like the rabbi in the joke who does not want to have to go to shul, we resist what we have to do and gravitate towards what we want to do.</p> <p> But two: <em>if all we do is what we want to do when we want to do it, that is an</em> <em>inconsequential life.</em> If you think about the people you really admire, if you think about the funerals you have been to that leave you inspired, it is never because somebody focused on their own needs. Rather we admire people who sacrifice their energy, time and peace of mind to pursue some greater good.</p> <p> Thus our dilemma. We like doing what we <em>want</em> to do. But a worthy life means doing what we <em>don’t </em>always want to do. How do we thread this needle?</p>
