Is gratitude enough?




The Morgan Harper Nichols Show show

Summary: <p>This is for the one who is patiently waiting to see things come together in your life, while simultaneously seeing things fall into place in the lives of others. You found yourself in a place where you're grateful for where you are and you're excited for those around you - and you also find yourself saying, <em>Congratulations! </em>And<em> I'm so happy for you! </em>so much to the point that you just wonder, when is anyone going to say this to you? When are you going to hear those words echoed back to you? <em>Congratulations, I'm so happy for you! I'm so glad to see things working out.</em></p> <p>Again, you're grateful for where you are. And it's not that you live for the approval of others or you live to acquire material things. But every now and then, you wonder what it would be like to finally see the fruits of your labor. To finally get that deep breath, that sigh of relief that so many others around you seem to receive.</p> <p>In that place, I hope you know, there is no shame in feeling frustrated or disappointed because you’re yet to see things fall in place. It's okay to feel impatient, because to feel impatient is to feel human. You can be the most grounded and grateful human being, and yet - you are still a human being. In the same way your physical body hungers and thirsts, this is also true of your heart.</p> <p>Whatever it is that you're craving right now shows that you are still in this life. You are still connected to the ground beneath your feet, even when it feels like your mind is miles and miles away. So allow yourself to wonder. Allow yourself to ask questions - to pray prayers about your longing. Having gratitude for where we are is a wonderful thing, but not when we're shaming ourselves into it.</p> <p>If gratitude becomes a way to ignore the gravity of what we are longing, then gratitude is not enough. Because the purpose of gratitude is not to make us get in line and forget everything that we've ever longed for. But it is to help us be grounded in the present moment as we continue to face new unknowns. Having gratitude for what you have doesn't mean ignoring your needs. If you are in need of love, belonging, acceptance, intimacy, affection - it's okay to name those things, even if you already have relationships that you're grateful for.</p> <p>You are allowed to be grateful and thankful for where you are - excited for your friends and your family. And at the same time, acknowledge wherever your needs are not being met. It is okay to long for more. It is okay to admit that you're tired of waiting. It doesn't mean you're ungrateful to admit that you are tired of waiting. At the very same time, as you exhale those words, may you remember that you are more than those words. You are more than those feelings. You are more than that expression. There is life beyond what you've just shared. Whether you're sharing it in your journal, with a friend, a therapist - allow yourself to feel. Allow yourself to express honestly, and allow yourself to trust that even here there is more to come.</p> <p><strong>Journal: </strong>What are you longing for right now?</p> <p><strong>How you can support this podcast:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Leave a review in the Apple Podcasts App!</li> <li>Download my app "Storyteller" for daily messages, wallpapers, and FREE push notifications: <a href="http://onelink.to/stapp">http://onelink.to/stapp</a> </li> <li>My shop: <a href="http://garden24.co/">http://garden24.co</a> </li> </ul> --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/morganharpernichols/message