Summary: <br> How to Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself<br> Podcast #407<br> <br> <br> <br> Putting pressure on yourself doesn't work. In fact, it's a surefire way to wreck your confidence, spiral in overthinking, and lose your joy to comparison and jealousy. Putting pressure on yourself is a false prophet that we have convinced ourselves will lead us to the success crave. But maybe our definition of success is skewed? Maybe there is a way to live free from the pressure, the guilt, the anxiety, the comparison, the feeling behind, and feeling inadequate? This podcast episode will dive into exactly that and more. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/407<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Why we put pressure on ourselves in the first place, and why it's not just not working, but reverse workingThe connection between pressure and guilt5 things you can do today to start shifting the internal conversation in your mind<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> REVIEW OF THE WEEK:<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> One Step at at Time - 5 Stars<br> <br> <br> <br> Miss E Room 135<br> <br> <br> <br> Trish1 I am a teacher and thoroughly enjoy the luxury of having summers off. However, as much as I look forward to summer break I always find myself in a weird place as it forces me to process my emotions and face myself. That began as reading my Bible daily and lifting weights consistently. Early on in June I stumbled upon your podcast and am SO THANKFUL for it. I binge listened to the first couple of weeks and now have made the College of Confidence and Tuesday podcast part of my weekly routine. I often say Amen girl! Am feeling so uplifted as I hear your words! <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> WHY WE PUT PRESSURE ON OURSELVES IN THE FIRST PLACE<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> We think we aren't motivated if we don't.<br> <br> <br> <br> We think we're behind or not enough.<br> <br> <br> <br> We think our feelings dictate ours lives, not vice versa.<br> <br> <br> <br> We aren't doing the thought work we need.<br> <br> <br> <br> We aren't making time to think and journal and be coached.<br> <br> <br> <br> We aren't stretching our belief systems to believe in change. <br> <br> <br> <br> Ultimately, we are in a constant state of dissatisfaction. <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> How do you know if you're putting too much pressure on yourself?<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> -you wake with anxiety<br> <br> <br> <br> -you let your failures or fears keep you from trying<br> <br> <br> <br> -you don't think you're good enough<br> <br> <br> <br> -you feel stressed out all the time.<br> <br> <br> <br> -you have unrealistic expectations<br> <br> <br> <br> -you always want more or feel like you should do more<br> <br> <br> <br> -you can't relax <br> <br> <br> <br> -you think your life will be better when you just achieve the next thing<br> <br> <br> <br> WHY DOES THE PRESSURE NOT WORK?<br> <br> <br> <br> It chokes our confidence. <br> <br> <br> <br> It directs us to chase the wrong definition of success.<br> <br> <br> <br> It subconsciously communicates to us that we aren't naturally motivated - we don't trust ourselves. <br> <br> <br> <br> It speaks more of pessimism than of optimism. <br> <br> <br> <br> It makes us feel like we're behind where we should be. <br> <br> <br> <br> HOW DOES IT ACTUALLY REVERSE-WORK?<br> <br> <br> <br> It tarnishes the real definition of success - and our ability to live life well.Success is not found in achievement or accumulation - not even in status.
