Summary: In this episode, Marta alongside with a guest co-host Signe, receives two vulnerable testimonies from mothers moving through their child-related traumas. While Anna finally feels ready to open up to the world to reveal the story of baby Gaby’s traumatic birth, Fatema courageously unlocks her heart to share the story of her baby Kyler passing away just a few hours after he was born. Fatema in her humble, graceful and deeply vulnerable way tells us how she manages to move through the unbearable tragedy of losing your own child. About Fatema Fatema is a beautiful and inspiring woman with one of a kind presence. Despite the tragedy she is still moving through, she emanates love and grace. In her every-day life, she’s an artist, working as a Senior Art Director at Lego, married to another quite amazing human, her husband Arun. Our (undescribable) Conversation: Anna, who couldn’t be at the studio personally, in a recording, shares the story of Gabi’s birth and how it has changed her and her life Fatema shares the story of Kyler coming to life and soon after passing away Fatema puts words into the unbearable pain, shock and state that can’t really be described in words Fatema explains how her mind and her body attempt to cope with the trauma Signe shares her beautiful and deeply touching poem Fatema shares how the grief evolves with time and that it is not a linear process Fatema shares some of her fears of baby Kyler being forgotten and how she decides to honour his presence in her life We speak about the father’s grief and how we can sometimes forget that fathers feel the pain just as deeply Signe tells us about a beautiful concept of Kintsugi, which literally means to join with gold; to highlight the cracks instead of hiding them. It can also be an approach for life; a philosophy. How to get in contact with Fatema If you're a parent moving through grief you can contact her by Messenger: Fatema Barot Fatema's LinkedIn Signe & her beautiful Poem Signe’s Instagram “On Water & Grief” grief has a way of bringing you to your knees Again and again Without warning A wave crashing in Cracks your heart open Like sand exposed By the gentle touch of the aftermath Of silent waves that comes after, The tsunami Leaves you open, Raw, cleansed Completely surrendered And it whispers in your ear; Look at you, Look at you How beautiful you have become See, How you survived yet another wave sharp edges on rocks Water made you soft, Made you gentle Water from your tears Streaming through your body All the way down to your feet And back again Passing through trauma of you
