Summary: Alanna Francom grew up outside of Blackfoot, Idaho, the oldest of seven children. She attended Brigham Young University–Idaho and then decided to become a massage therapist and went to school in Salt Lake City, Utah. She met her husband, Kurt, in a Young Single Adult ward in Salt Lake, and has served alongside him while he was a bishop and in a stake presidency. They have two children.<br> <br> If you are a former/current bishop's wife, consider <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf4guD255oZPrcsfGqU-dk94MNSBt4P59RY56ryC1K3HiBAig/viewform">TAKING </a><a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf4guD255oZPrcsfGqU-dk94MNSBt4P59RY56ryC1K3HiBAig/viewform">OUR SURVEY</a>.<br> Highlights<br> 3:00 How Kurt and Alanna met<br> 9:00 The need for content around being a bishop's wife<br> 11:15 The bishop's wife is an unofficial calling<br> 11:45 When Kurt was called as bishop<br> 13:50 Alanna's perspective on their marriage during Kurt's time in leadership positions<br> 16:40 Changes when Kurt was called to the stake presidency<br> 17:10 Dealing with situational depression<br> 20:40 Leadership principles: Advice for the bishop's wife<br> <br> * Share experiences: Grow in the experience together<br> <br> * It is helpful to know what he is doing and see the purpose of his service<br> * How to share and still maintain confidentiality (25:00)<br> <br> <br> * Make it a family calling (26:15)<br> <br> * Rewarding to participate in visits together<br> * Ask yourself: What sort of bishop's wife do I want to be?<br> * Stake presidents: Invite the family to stand when the bishop is called (29:00)<br> * Look for simple family traditions to incorporate into your service<br> <br> <br> * Finding connection (31:40)<br> <br> * Attended the wards Kurt visited as counselor in stake presidency<br> * Connected with ward members, stake presidency families, bishopric/stake presidency wives lunches<br> * Bishopric/presidency meetings as "guys night out" (35:40)<br> <br> * Possibility of feeling left out<br> * Go out of the way to seek that sort of connection for yourself<br> <br> <br> * Bishops: Allow your wife to have spiritual opportunities at church (38:00)<br> <br> <br> * Sometimes it's hard and that's okay (38:40)<br> <br> * "My wife has never complained" testimony (40:00)<br> * It's okay to give yourself permission to be sad, to want your husband there when he isn't<br> * Let yourself feel the feelings and be aware, and that will help dissipate it (42:45)<br> * Talk about what you're feeling and have real conversations with your husband<br> <br> <br> <br> 45:20 Sharing Leading Saints feedback with Kurt and meeting listeners<br> 45:50 Sharing growth experiences through callings has strengthened her testimony<br> Links<br> <a href="https://leadingsaints.org/leading-others-to-be-better-than-happy-an-interview-with-jody-moore/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Leading Others to be Better Than Happy | An Interview with Jody Moore</a><br> <a href="https://jodymoore.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Be Bold with Jody Moore</a><br> <a href="https://leadingsaints.org/how-i-lead-as-the-bishops-wife-interviews-with-jill-walker-and-kasandra-merrill/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">How I Lead as the Bishop’s Wife | Interviews with Jill Walker and Kasandra Merrill</a><br> <a href="https://leadingsaints.org/how-i-lead-as-the-bishops-wife-interviews-with-jordan-brown-and-amanda-fristrom/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">How I Lead as the Bishop’s Wife | Interviews with Jordan Brown and Amanda Fristrom</a>
