Summary: “We are highly focused on promoting favorable youth outcomes, things like positive identity formation, character development, leadership, civic engagement, social entrepreneurship, media and financial literacy, conflict resolution…. and we’re focused on prevention, working on issues like youth suicide, prescription drug use by young people, the opiod epidemic, those types of things.”<br> Stephen Wallace<br><br> <a href="https://ecareforkids.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Center for Adolescent Research and Education (CARE)</a><br> About Stephen Gray Wallace<br> In Episode 27, I’m talking with <a href="https://ecareforkids.org/about/director/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Stephen Gray Wallace</a>. Stephen has broad experience as a school psychologist and adolescent/family counselor. He is president and director of the <a href="https://ecareforkids.org" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Center for Adolescent Research and Education</a> (CARE), a former associate research professor at Susquehanna University, and the past national chairman and chief executive officer at SADD (Students Against Destructive Decisions/Students Against Driving Drunk). Stephen also works with the American Camp Association (ACA) as a feature magazine writer, media spokesperson and faculty member at its e-Institute for Professional Development.<br> In addition, Stephen is a resident camp director and the director of counseling and counselor training at <a href="https://www.capecodseacamps.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Cape Cod Sea Camps</a>. Stephen was also appointed to the professional development faculty of the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP) and serves as a parenting expert for <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">kidsinthehouse.com</a>. He previously served as an adjunct professor at Mount Ida College in Newton, Massachusetts. Most important, Stephen is a high-profile participant in, and commentator on, the modern-day adolescent experience.<br> Reality Gap<br> Stephen is the a<a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1402753047/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1402753047&linkCode=as2&tag=sunshineparen-20&linkId=b055367d9f08e04f692b7c058f376afb" target="_blank" rel="noopener"></a>uthor of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1402753047/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1402753047&linkCode=as2&tag=sunshineparen-20&linkId=e92f99367b403ed0b26ccd4eb9339775" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reality Gap: Alcohol, Drugs, and Sex–What Parents Don’t Know and Teens Aren’t Telling</a>.<br> Reality Gap is a book that talks about what teens are doing in real life compared to what parents think they’re doing. The chart in his book (see image on right), helps parents think about preparing kids to take responsibility for themselves. As your child matures, you should see decision making moving from left to right. When kids are young, parents decide, then as they get older, you make joint decisions on some issues. Finally, by the time they are in late high school, entering college, they need to learn to make good choices and decisions for themselves. <br> Authoritative parenting is the most effective with all ages of children, including teens. Authoritative parenting is high on expectations and high on warmth. <br> In our interview, conducted live at the American Camp Association Conference in Orlando in February, we talk about providing teens with both the structure and freedom they need to thrive.<br> Key Issues we Discuss <br> • Importance of staying involved (but not overbearing) in your teens’ lives–slowly giving them more responsibilities/freedom/choices.<br> • Issues teens face in the first semester of college and how to help with that transition. Directly communicating with teens about values rather than making assumptions abo...
