Summary: David Glass, author of Moving On, has worked both as a therapist and a divorce attorney in a career spanning more than two decades and what we talk about in this episode is the year after divorce—how do you move on with your life?<br> So once the papers are signed and all the legal issues are settled, a lot of divorced individuals really struggle with this insecurity about what comes next in their life. David really believes and has seen that divorce can be your second chance at happiness.<br> This episode is going to help you get on the path to a more fulfilling future. David shares his experiences both from his career as a family law attorney with a PhD in psychology but also his personal experiences with his own divorce.<br> He’s going to walk you through exactly how to rebuild your life, including finding a new home, redesigning your family and your social life, reentering the dating scene and strengthening your social support. Even though a divorce is really challenging, it is also an opportunity and in this episode, you’ll take your first step to leaving your past behind in starting your new life.<br> <br> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Moving-Redesigning-Emotional-Financial-Divorce/dp/1544513240/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>Get David’s new book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Moving-Redesigning-Emotional-Financial-Divorce/dp/1544513240/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Moving On</a> on Amazon.<br> Find out more at <a href="http://www.glassfamilylaw.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Glass Family Law</a>.<br> <br> David Glass: I was finally deciding to get divorce to myself about a decade ago. I had been married for almost 15 years, but the last two or three years had not been the best years of the marriage. Me and my ex-wife didn’t argue in front of the kids and didn’t fight about things, but we weren’t very close. We had lost intimacy, and neither of us was completely happy.<br> But I was still reticent about starting off on my divorce because I was mainly concerned about what’s going to happen next.<br> Even with my background, I have a PhD in clinical psychology and practiced as a therapist, and by then I’d been practicing as a divorce attorney for over 15 years. I still had these issues that were holding me back from moving on to the rest of my life.<br> I talked to a bunch of friends, divorced and married and single, and tried to figure out what would come next and how could I maximize it. I figured my way through the process, divorce was relatively easy for me. The year after divorce was much more difficult and just keeping those ideas in mind for the last 10 years.<br> <br> I turned around how I started counseling my own divorce clients, trying to get them to focus on what comes next. Rather than continuing to focus on the unsuccessful relationship in their backgrounds.<br> Charlie Hoehn: You said the year after divorce was much more difficult. What made it so difficult? Was it just the nature that you’d been through a trauma or what was it?<br> David Glass: There weren’t legal proceedings, my ex-wife and I were both smart and level headed and we worked out a deal right away. There wasn’t a lot of fighting about it, but still, getting divorced is a psychological injury. It’s an injury to your ego, you tried something, you picked someone, you tried in marriage and developed a family, but ultimately it didn’t work out.<br> <br> It’s admitting failure to everyone.<br> <br> Everyone’s going to know that you failed in this thing. It turns out that with 50% of the population getting divorced, it’s not an unusual failure but for each person going through it, it’s very personal. For me, up to that point, I had gotten into the college I wanted to get into, I got into the graduate school I wanted to get into. I got the jobs I wanted, I’d never been fired from a job.<br> So, luckily for me,
