Summary: Now, for most women, it may seem like being a home maker and climbing the corporate ladder are two mutually exclusive goals. According to Julie-Anne Lutfi, author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Diapers-Date-Nights-Deadlines-Survival-ebook/dp/B07KSGSVHN/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Diapers, Date Nights and Deadlines</a> as well as wife, mother, and corporate attorney, you don’t have to choose. You can achieve a successful career and a happy personal life.<br> That’s what this episode is all about. If you’re a woman who believes it’s possible to excel at work and at home, this episode will show you how it’s done.<br> Just a quick note, there is some adult themed content in this episode so if you’re listening in the car with your kids, you might want to hold off until you get some headphones in.<br> <br> <br> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Diapers-Date-Nights-Deadlines-Survival-ebook/dp/B07KSGSVHN/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>Get Julie-Anne’s new book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Diapers-Date-Nights-Deadlines-Survival-ebook/dp/B07KSGSVHN/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Diapers, Date Nights and Deadlines</a> on Amazon.<br> <br> Julie-Anne Lutfi: I really just wanted to share my experience about being a working mom who is from a very traditional background. I’m expected to stay at home. My husband is a very traditional Lebanese guy, and when he married me, he knew I had a career but he didn’t know to which extent I would want to develop my career. He may have thought I would eventually lower my hours and have a couple of kids and cook in the evenings and clean on the weekends and maybe during the week.<br> It just hasn’t turned out that way.<br> We laugh all the time about people who look at us and ask us, how does this work? You guys are both super traditional but Julie’s out at work every day, she’s gone early in the morning and comes home in the evening and works all night, every night on the weekends, on vacation if I even take vacations, which frankly I don’t.<br> People are always asking me, how the hell does it work? How are you still married after five years and how do you look like you still like each other?<br> Just how does it work?<br> That’s why I wanted to write the book. I wanted to share my experience, and it may not suit everyone. My ideas and the way I function may not please everyone either, but that’s okay. If somebody can just get a few ideas from the way we do it, then that’s great.<br> <br> Having It All<br> Charlie Hoehn: How the hell does this work?<br> Julie-Anne Lutfi: Well, it works with a lot of gratitude, and that’s the one thing that I can’t stress enough. The only way that we really are able to preserve our marriage and to make everything work is to be in a constant mode of, “I’m grateful for you.” And to always feel like you have the better end of the stick.<br> Even though I want to do the dishes and I want to do the laundry and I want to cook, I just can’t.<br> Right now, I’m the one who makes more money and my husband is the one who has more time, so while he would be expected usually to, as tradition would want it, be the breadwinner and to bring home the money, right now, I’m the one doing that.<br> We’re both always grateful for the other one picking up the other’s slack, and that’s really how it works.<br> Charlie Hoehn: What do your families think of your dynamic?<br> Julie-Anne Lutfi: It was definitely an adjustment. My mom for example, she’ll come to our house to visit the kids on vacation or doing a holiday. She lives in France, so she’ll stay with us, and I’ll undoubtedly be on my computer late at night and she’ll take care of the kids and my husband will be playing with them.<br> She’ll see my husband carrying a load of laundry downstairs, and my mom will legit apologize for the way in which she raised me.<br> She’ll say, “I’m so sorry. I’m so embarrassed,
