Summary: Interview Transcript Available Below<br> <br> In this episode we interview <a href="http://drjillmanning.com/about/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Dr. Jill Manning</a>, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and Anne Blythe, Director of <a href="https://www.btr.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Betrayal Trauma Recovery</a>. <br> <br> Jill Manning is a PhD level marriage and family councilor and has been practicing for 17 years. She is on two national boards, Enough is Enough and App Status. She lives in Colorado. <br> <br> Anne Blythe spent seven years trying to save her marriage as her husband battled a pornography addiction. She currently coaches women online who are going through a similar situation. She has a website and hosts a podcast, Betrayal Trauma Recovery. Her website and podcast are dedicated to helping support women through this trauma. <br> Episode Highlights<br> <br> * 2:26 Betrayal trauma is when someone who loves you violates your trust in a critical way. This betrayal can happen to these victims multiple times. <br> * 9:36 Anne struggled to put the pieces together in the midst of her trauma and recognize this was in an abusive relationship. <br> * 11:13 Sometimes Bishops can have a hard time helping couples through these pornography addictions as two different perspectives are shared, ”he said, she said” <br> * 12:11 For Anne going to church during this time was extremely difficult. She kept going because she knew it was right. <br> * 13:51 As a Mormon culture we are a trusting people. That can make it hard dealing with addicts who are not always honest due to shame and minimizing the situation. They can also gas light the situation and manipulate reality. <br> * 14:36 When helping in the “he said, she said” situations step back and evaluate who is motivated by what. <br> * 15:41 It can take women some time to realize they are in an abusive relationship<br> * 18:50 It can take months or years to get the full story from the addict. Help teach them that it is ok and normal to spotlight the situation. <br> * 21:52 The addict is not mentally capable of divulging everything at once. <br> * 22:13 The spouse can be the barometer for what is really happening. <br> * 24:21 Secondary Trauma is trauma that comes from asking for help and feeling dismissed. <br> * 26:19 For the victims it can help to see action being taken and the addict held accountable. <br> * 30:44 Consuming pornography is unrighteous dominion. <br> * 31:29 Emotional, spiritual, and financial, abuse is real and often linked to pornography addiction. <br> * 34:11 Studies have shown that 2/3 of people struggling with pornography addiction have been found to have a mood disorder. Those studies also show that 44 percent have a personality disorder and narcissistic traits. <br> * 34:14 Three studies have shown that 71 percent of women meet the criteria for PTSD as victims of their spouses pornography addiction. <br> * 35:29 Zoom into helping the victims with safety first. That includes being physically and spiritual safe.<br> * 37:35 Lean on Heavenly Father to help you through this and always establish emotional safety. <br> <br> Resources and Links:<br> <br> * <a href="http://enough.org" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Enough is Enough</a><br> * <a href="https://www.btr.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Betrayal Trauma Recovery</a> <br> * <a href="https://leadingsaints.org/the-atonement-works-for-me-one-couples-recovery-from-sexual-addiction/">Steve and Kayla's Story of Sexual Addiction and Recovery</a><br> * <a href="http://drjillmanning.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Jill Manning's Website</a><br> <br> Interview Transcript:<br> Kurt Francom: Today we are welcoming into the podcast Jill Manning and Anne Blythe.<br> <br> Dr Jill Manning: Doing well.<br> <br>
