Episode 0031 Conversation with Carey Nieuwhof, parents and the mail bag Youth Ministry

Summary: Thanks to our partners at CIY!  Find Controlled Chaos Podcast on:| iTunes | Podbean | Google Play | Stitcher |YOUTUBE | Spotify  Intro done by: Gerald Fadayomi, Browns Bridge Church Leader Guide for your leader team (and this week parents).  Just send them this podcast, send them the leader guide and have discussion with them! Show Outline: We have Carey Nieuwhof here talking about everything parenting. Carey talks about the natural tendency for junior highers to withdraw from their parents. He gives some tips on how to be a present parent during that time and encourages parents to put the relationship with their kids before their work. Carey ends with giving practical tips on how leaders and youth workers can partner with parents. Some tremendous insight from Carey you will no want to miss! 1:18 Book Launch Emails1:40 Justin Intro’s Carey Nieuwhof’s older audio 3:44 Carey talks about middle schoolers withdrawing4:43 What parents freak out about 6:14 It’s a loss when kids withdraw7:02 Secret sauce for leaders who are parents8:04 “When your kids withdraw, don’t you withdraw as a parent.” -Carey Nieuwhof10:04 Not too late to re engage10:33 Encouragement for Dads12:07 “Every parent is on a journey from control to influence.” -Carey Nieuwhof 12:30 Build relationships with kids13:06 “If you have a healthy relationship, you still have influence over your child’s life.” -Carey Nieuwhof 13:52 What Carey did as a dad to build relationship14:47 “If you’re winning at work and you’re losing at home, you’re losing.” -Carey Nieuwhof 15:18 Why a resume is not important to kids16:36 “They need a father they don’t need a successful business person."" -Carey Nieuwhof 16:50 Carey talks about his son in high school 17:26 Justin explains how his kids mirror him18:20 Children need a quantity of quality time19:55 Cultivate marriage20:00 Carey explains how his age has given him energy21:02 Delayed gratification with an empty nest 23:05 How leaders can partner with parents 26:18 Carey talks about his blog careynieuwhof.com27:38 Carey’s leadership podcast 29:00 Forward podcast on to another leader and parent!29:25 MAILBAG Questions29:37 How leader guide has been helpful30:24 Controlled Chaos Book, will there be more writing?31:14 California youth ministry is unique   Whose on this episode?  Justin Herman- Sandals Church Carey Nieuwhof Blog Podcast  Things Mentioned: XP3 Orange curriculumCentral Christian College of the BibleCIY podcast partners Blog- careyniewhof.com Podcast- Carey’s Leadership podcast   Our Controlled Chaos Podcast Partner CIY, Christ in Youth. CIY- Christ in Youth   Our Sponsors.  Central Christian College of the Bible, Moberly Missouri (where Justin went to college) ORANGE- The XP3 Orange Curriculum     Be part of #ChaosNation Facebook Group | Twitter | Instagram   Meet the HOST! Justin Herman Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Email   Question or Show ideas? Email Justin at justinherman@controlledchaos.fun Controlled Chaos Podcast: A junior high ministry podcast for youth workers! Thank you for tuning in.  The work youth workers do is hard work, thank you! Thank you for taking time to get a little more equipped to do Junior High or Middle School Ministry in your Youth Ministry or Student Ministry at your church.  Keep it up!