155 -Helping Patients with Borderline Parents




Counselor Toolbox Podcast show

Summary: <p>Treatment for People with Borderline Parents<br> Instructor: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes<br> Executive Director, AllCEUs.com<br> Podcast Host: Counselor Toolbox and Happiness Isn’t Brain Surgery</p> <p>Counseling CEUs can be earned for this presentation at <a href="https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/375/c/">https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/375/c/</a></p> <p>Objectives<br> ~ Review the characteristics of BPD<br> ~ Compare and contrast BPD with addictive behaviors<br> ~ Examine ways to implement the activities presented in the book in a group format<br> Characteristics of BPD<br> ~ Poorly developed, or unstable self-image, often associated with excessive self-criticism<br> ~ Difficulty recognizing the feelings &amp; needs of others<br> ~ Interpersonal hypersensitivity (i.e., prone to feel slighted or insulted)<br> ~ Perceptions of others tend to focus on negative attributes or vulnerabilities.</p> <p>Characteristics of BPD<br> ~ Intense, unstable, and conflicted close relationships, marked by mistrust, neediness, and fear of abandonment<br> ~ Close relationships<br> ~ Viewed in extremes of idealization and devaluation<br> ~ Alternating between over involvement and withdrawal.</p> <p>Effects on Others<br> ~ Feeling inadequate despite best efforts to appease<br> ~ Lack of emotional boundaries<br> ~ Responsible for the parent’s happiness<br> ~ Guilt for personal happiness<br> ~ Difficulty trusting people due to alternations between feeling appreciated and condemned<br> ~ Anxiety because the parent was unpredictable<br> ~ Hypervigilance<br> I Never Knew It Had A Name<br> ~ Group Activity 1<br> ~ Discuss the function of each symptom for the parent<br> ~ Have participants identify any behaviors they have which may also resemble that symptom<br> ~ Review and refute the take-aways providing practical cognitive and interpersonal skills<br> ~ Group Activity 2<br> ~ Stop &amp; Think: The Lessons are Clear—Review and Refute<br> All Grown Up<br> ~ Examines the effects of the borderline personality on the living conditions<br> ~ Chaos<br> ~ Abuse and Neglect<br> ~ Boundary Violations<br> ~ Invalidation<br> ~ Role Reversals<br> ~ Looks are Everything<br> ~ Keen Perception<br> All Grown Up<br> ~ 6 Seeds to Grow a Healthy Child<br> ~ Support<br> ~ Respect and Acceptance<br> ~ Voice<br> ~ Unconditional Love and Affection<br> ~ Consistency<br> ~ Security<br> All Grown Up<br> ~ Group Activity 1<br> ~ Examine each effect of the Borderline Personality<br> ~ Discuss how each was present in the family of origin<br> ~ Discuss how each is manifested in the client’s current life<br> ~ Identify methods to eliminate those dysfunctional patterns<br> All Grown Up<br> ~ Group Activity 2<br> ~ 6 Seeds: Discuss how to use those 6 principles to<br> ~ Reparent/nurture self<br> ~ Nurture healthy relationships<br> ~ Group Activity 3<br> ~ Stop and Think: Resiliency Builders<br> Grieving a Lost Childhood<br> ~ Understand the grieving process<br> ~ Review messages received in childhood about dealing with losses<br> ~ Identif losses and feelings associated with the dysfunctional childhood<br> ~ Identify continuing issues with the borderline/addicted parent<br> Grieving a Lost Childhood<br> ~ Group Activity<br> ~ Describe what you would have liked your childhood to be like<br> ~ As a group, identify ways to translate that to present day.</p> <p>Guilt, Responsibility &amp; Forgiveness<br> ~ Identify potential guilt-triggers for the adult child<br> ~ Discuss how guilt works, and what the benefits/motivations for guilt may be<br> ~ Identify and discusses different origins of guilt<br> ~ Encourage identification of what can &amp; cannot be controlled<br> ~ Explore the issues of guilt and responsibility<br> ~ Encourage participants to examine their beliefs related to forgiveness</p> <p>Guilt, Responsibility &amp; </p>