Summary: It’s easy to take life for granted. We can pursue fame and fortune and success and totally forget to take care of ourselves. We miss out on things that bring us joy and happiness and wellbeing. Greg believes that we need to transform burnout into happiness by investing in ourselves so that we can be the best for those who need us most.<br> In this episode, Greg Hiebert, author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Give-What-Dont-Have-ebook/dp/B07CYC32WT/&tag=authorhour-20" target="_blank" rel="noopener">You Can’t Give What You Don’t Have</a>, shares the fundamental habits he’s learned as an executive coach and leadership educator to help you become more personally and professionally fulfilled. He also offers techniques to integrate these habits into any challenging busy life.<br> By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to create a more remarkable and fulfilling life and transform into your very best self.<br> <br> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Give-What-Dont-Have-ebook/dp/B07CYC32WT/&tag=authorhour-20" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>Get Greg’s new book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Give-What-Dont-Have-ebook/dp/B07CYC32WT/&tag=authorhour-20" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">You Can’t Give What You Don’t Have</a> on Amazon.<br> Find out more at <a href="http://leadershipforward.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">LeadershipForward.com</a>.<br> <br> Greg Hiebert: Most of us don’t get through life without some kind of psychological wound and I, right or wrong, I had mine. From a very young age, mine was that if you really knew me, the story of my life was “Greg the unlovable worthless failure.”<br> I’d carried that burden around with me for many years, and I had just gotten to a point where I needed to do something with it and as the beginning of the book says I was miserable.<br> <br> In my family, you don’t ask for help and you certainly don’t seek out therapy.<br> <br> But someone recommended that I should seek out this associate pastor at this progressive episcopal church. That associate pastor was kind and caring and he said, “Look, I really think you need to see professional help. I’m not it, and I’d love to refer you to this wonderful, counselor of mine by the name of Kempton Hanes.”<br> And I said yes.<br> Paradigm Shift<br> Greg Hiebert: I went to visit Kempton in this annex of a Presbyterian church in downtown Atlanta. He looked a bit like Santa clause, smiled a lot, didn’t say much, a bit uncomfortable of this warm compassionate, caring human being just brightly smiling at me.<br> I filled up the silence with my story.<br> As I began to share the story that I don’t believe I’ve shared with anyone, it was cathartic and I think by the fourth session though, he spoke very clearly and said, “Man, I’d hate to be your wife.”<br> “Wow, what do you mean you’d hate to be my wife?”<br> He says, “It’s clear that you don’t see your responsibility and being happy as yours. You’ve put all the burden of your happiness on her. She’s your only friend, she’s your lover, she’s everything to you. It must be a real burden to be her.”<br> <br> And that took me for quite a shock but there was something within me that said he was absolutely right. I went home that night and I said to Claudia, “Is it hard bearing all of, you know, the responsibility for your husband’s happiness?”<br> And she said, “Yeah, it’s real hard and it’s tiring. I wish you’d take responsibility for it.”<br> And that began the last 18 years of work. I’m a work in progress, but once I got cleared that my responsibility, my joy was my responsibility, in that I had it all wrong. The paradigm that I lived in was that one day, when I had enough, one day when I was enough, one day when you know, my ship came in, when I had enough money, when the kids were out ofcollege.Whatever it was, then I would get to be happy,
