Summary: <p>Anger Management 1<br> Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes<br> Executive Director, AllCEUs</p> <p>Counseling Continuing Education Course can be purchased for this at <a href="https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/581/c/">https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/581/c/</a></p> <p>Objectives<br> ~ Explore the function of anger<br> ~ Identify the costs and benefits of anger<br> ~ Identify anger triggers<br> ~ Rejection/Isolation<br> ~ Failure<br> ~ Loss of control<br> ~ The unknown</p> <p>What is Anger<br> ~ Half of the fight or flight reaction<br> ~ Based on prior learning, the brain interprets a threat to person, property or self-concept<br> ~ Norepinephrine/adrenaline is secreted to prepare to fight or flee<br> ~ Heart rate and respiration increases, focus becomes singular (tunnel vision), sweating begins<br> ~ Urge to lash out verbally and/or physically<br> ~ Feelings: More than just anger</p> <p>Costs of Anger<br> ~ Social<br> ~ Pushes people away / Increases isolation<br> ~ Intimidates people (Respect vs. Intimidation)<br> ~ Perceived by children which increases their anxiety<br> ~ Physical<br> ~ Uses a ton of energy for what is often not a major threat<br> ~ Causes injury from others & self (ulcers, self harm, heart attack, high cholesterol)</p> <p>Costs of Anger cont…<br> ~ Emotional<br> ~ Reduces the amount of time to be happy (anger + time nurturing anger + time recovering from anger)<br> ~ Can lead to depression<br> ~ Environmental<br> ~ Broken stuff (hands, windshields, plates)<br> ~ Jail time<br> ~ Reduces your options (relationships, work, housing)<br> ~ Loss of employment<br> ~ Anger episodes at work<br> ~ Reduced productivity and increased illness due to anger</p> <p>Benefits of Anger<br> ~ Power: Pushes away or dominates a threat<br> ~ Punishment/revenge to make others feel the same pain<br> ~ Save face/reputation<br> ~ Hide emotional pain<br> ~ Get attention (alarm people, make a scene)<br> ~ Change other people’s behavior</p> <p>Origins of Anger<br> ~ Feeling of a Threat<br> ~ Society is less interdependent but we still need people (Barn Raising to Capitalism)<br> ~ Valuing power and success above compassion<br> ~ Harsh or disengaged parenting<br> ~ Primitive coping skills<br> ~ Low self-esteem / External validation<br> ~ Threat Categories<br> ~ Rejection/Isolation<br> ~ Failure<br> ~ The Unknown<br> ~ Loss of Control</p> <p>Origins of Anger<br> ~ Threat Categories<br> ~ Rejection/Isolation<br> ~ Failure<br> ~ The Unknown<br> ~ Loss of Control</p> <p>Anger Triggers<br> Anger & Irritability Vulnerabilities<br> ~ Lack of sleep<br> ~ Low blood sugar<br> ~ Too many stimulants<br> ~ Being sick or in pain<br> ~ Being mindless and letting little things build up (think dirty laundry or weeds)<br> ~ Depression<br> ~ Too much estrogen or testosterone<br> ~ Anxiety/stress (Bridezilla; Being spread too thin)</p> <p>Addressing the Anger<br> ~ Develop skills to tolerate distress and self-soothe<br> ~ Distract don’t react<br> ~ Journaling<br> ~ Urge surfing<br> ~ Develop mindful self-awareness for<br> ~ Vulnerabilities<br> ~ Anger warning signs<br> ~ Anger triggers<br> ~ Goals (make a goals card)<br> ~ Eliminate as many anger triggers as possible</p> <p>Emergency Anger Control<br> ~ Stop<br> ~ Breathe slowly<br> ~ Repeat your confidence phrase 3 times<br> ~ Take a walk<br> ~ Identify your courses of action<br> ~ Choose the course of action that is most in alignment with your goals card<br> ~ Better relationship with kids/family/friends<br> ~ More energy<br> ~ Less desire to use drugs/alcohol</p>
