Summary: <p>Conquering the Critical Inner Voice<br> Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes<br> Executive Director, AllCEUs</p> <p>CEs can be earned for this presentation at: <a href="https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/611/c/">https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/611/c/</a></p> <p>Objectives<br> ~ Define the critical inner voice<br> ~ Explore common messages from The Voice<br> ~ Identify helpful responses to The Voice<br> ~ Reflect upon why positive affirmations and prior interventions may not have worked.</p> <p>The Critical Inner Voice<br> ~ It is the defended, negative side of our personality that is opposed to our ongoing development.<br> ~ The voice consists of the negative thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that<br> ~ Oppose our best interests<br> ~ Diminish our self-esteem<br> ~ Warns us about other people<br> ~ Promotes angry and cynical attitudes<br> ~ Creates a negative, pessimistic picture of the world<br> The Voice cont…<br> ~ It edits our thoughts, controls our behavior, and inhibits our actions.<br> ~ It thinks it is protecting us from being hurt or feeling abandoned<br> ~ It reinforces our feelings of shame and guilt and insufficiency.<br> ~ When managed effectively, the barbs of your inner critic prevent complacency and boredom while nudging you to improve your life<br> Common “Voices” in Yourself</p> <p>~ You’re stupid.<br> ~ You’re unattractive.<br> ~ You’re not like other people.<br> ~ You’re a failure.<br> ~ You never get anything right.<br> ~ No one will ever love you.<br> ~ You’re fat.<br> ~ You’re such a loser.<br> ~ You’ll never make friends.<br> ~ You’ll never accomplish anything.<br> Common “Voices” in Your Career</p> <p>~ You don’t know what you’re doing.<br> ~ Who do you think you are? You’ll never be successful.<br> ~ You’re under too much pressure. You can’t take it.<br> ~ You’ll never get everything done. You’re so lazy.<br> ~ You should just put this off until tomorrow.<br> ~ No one appreciates you.<br> ~ You’d better be perfect, or you’ll get fired.<br> ~ Nobody likes you here.<br> ~ When are you ever going to get a real job?<br> ~ No one would hire you.<br> Common “Voices” in Relationships</p> <p>~ You’re never going to find another person who understands you.<br> ~ Don’t get too hooked on her.<br> ~ He doesn’t really care about you.<br> ~ She is too good for you.<br> ~ You’re better off on your own.<br> ~ As soon as she gets to know you, she will reject you.<br> ~ You’ve got to be in control.<br> ~ It’s your fault if he gets upset.<br> ~ Don’t be vulnerable or you’ll wind up getting hurt.<br> Responses<br> ~ So what?<br> ~ Who says?<br> ~ Who cares?<br> ~ That doesn’t matter.<br> ~ Prove it!<br> ~ Positive affirmations only help when you actually believe the message.<br> ~ Trying to substitute positive words for negative feelings can delay your self-discovery<br> More Responses<br> ~ Cognitive restructuring is only effective when you have no subconscious desire to hold onto a negative thought.<br> ~ What is the motivation for holding on to a negative thought<br> ~ Fear of failure, rejection, the unknown?<br> ~ Replace negative thoughts with realistic ones.<br> ~ I have to be the best//impress…<br> ~ I will DO my best.<br> Identifying Your Critical Inner Voice<br> ~ Recognize the events that trigger your critical inner voice<br> ~ Recognize the specific outside criticisms that support your critical inner voice<br> ~ Become aware of times you may be projecting your self-attacks onto other people<br> ~ Notice changes in your emotions, thoughts, sensations or urges<br> Visualizing the Real You/Developing Self-Esteem<br> ~ My positive qualities and Abilities<br></p>
