Summary: <p>Relationship Skills 101 for Teens:<br> Using DBT to Deal with Intense Emotions<br> Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes<br> Executive Director, AllCEUs</p> <p>Continuing Education credits for this podcast can be earned at <a href="https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/585/c/">https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/585/c/</a></p> <p>Objectives<br> ~ Looking at yourself<br> ~ Examining relationships<br> ~ How up and down emotions fuel the relationship rollercoaster<br> ~ Stop letting your emotions control you<br> ~ Reduce your judgements to improve your attitude<br> ~ Stop fighting reality and deal with it<br> ~ Don’t let your urges control you<br> ~ Improving your relationship with yourself<br> Looking at Yourself<br> ~ What are the problems in your relationships<br> ~ What are some of the behaviors you are engaging in that are causing these problems?<br> ~ Become Mindful—Live in the present<br> ~ The Past<br> ~ Remember the good<br> ~ Learn from and let go of the bad<br> ~ The Future<br> ~ Identify dreams<br> ~ Avoid creating catastrophes that haven’t happened yet<br> Mindfulness Exercises<br> ~ Pay attention throughout the day if you are focusing on the task at hand or …<br> ~ Dwelling on the past<br> ~ Fretting about the possibilities<br> ~ Practice acceptance<br> ~ When emotions are triggered, identify them and let them go instead of feeding them<br> ~ Try not to judge<br> ~ What does it mean to judge yourself? Thoughts? Others?<br> Examining Relationships<br> ~ Healthy Relationships<br> ~ Communication<br> ~ Acceptance<br> ~ Healthy boundaries and limit setting<br> ~ Compassion<br> ~ What do you want from your relationships?<br> ~ Examine your relationships<br> ~ What are they providing for you<br> ~ What is lacking<br> ~ Write a “My Best Friend” essay<br> Benefits of Healthy Relationships<br> ~ Provide validation and acceptance<br> ~ A sense of belonging<br> ~ Self confidence<br> ~ Social support<br> Relationship Rollercoaster<br> ~ Your interpretations of events are based on<br> ~ Your current state<br> ~ Your prior experiences<br> ~ The event itself<br> ~ When you are tired, sick, depressed etc. it is easier to focus on the negative or get irritable<br> ~ Emotional rollercoasters are caused by immediately reacting to every stimulus without awareness or acceptance</p> <p>Teens Lives Can Feel Overwhelming<br> ~ Teens have fewer experiences and skills against which to assess current experiences<br> ~ Developmentally teens are trying to figure out where they fit in the world, so they often feel vulnerable<br> ~ Teens have often been provided with acceptance and encouragement based on conditions of worth</p> <p>Exiting the Rollercoaster<br> ~ Keep a journal for a week of what upsets you<br> ~ At the end of the week, review the journal<br> ~ What, in retrospect, doesn’t seem so bad<br> ~ How could you have used that same energy to address the situation?<br> ~ What was going on that made you more vulnerable to getting upset?<br> Stop Letting Your Emotions Control You<br> ~ Emotions are a combination of feelings, thoughts and urges.<br> ~ They are a natural response based on what your brain thinks is happening.<br> ~ Your brain is not always right.<br> ~ Feel the feeling. Label it and let it go.<br> ~ OMG I am totally going to fail this test…<br> ~ Mark asked Samantha to prom instead of me…<br> ~ She is such a $#!@%</p> <p>Reduce Your Judgements to Improve Your Attitude<br> ~ Judgements often…<br> ~ Compare us to others instead of focusing on ourselves<br> ~ Tear down others to make us feel better about ourselves<br> ~ Tear down ourselves to protect us from disappointm</p>
