Summary: <p>Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills<br> Interpersonal Effectiveness<br> Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes<br> Executive Director, AllCEUs counselor education<br> Podcast Host: Counselor Toolbox & Happiness Isn’t Brain Surgery</p> <p>CEUs are available for this podcast at https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/product/id/665/c/</p> <p>Objectives<br> ~ Define interpersonal effectiveness<br> ~ Examine the goals of interpersonal effectiveness<br> ~ Identify barriers to interpersonal effectiveness</p> <p>Definition and Goals<br> ~ Interpersonal effectiveness is the ability to ask for what you want and need, and say no to unwanted requests<br> ~ By getting your needs met and being able to set boundaries you:<br> ~ Will feel more respected<br> ~ Reduce anger and resentment<br> ~ Reduce stress<br> ~ Free up energy to help you meet your goals<br> Goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness<br> ~ Goals<br> ~ Get others to do things you want them to do<br> ~ Get others to take you seriously<br> ~ Effectively say no to unwanted requests<br> ~ Strengthen current relationships<br> ~ Find and build new relationships<br> ~ End hopeless relationships<br> Activity<br> ~ For each of the following statements, give 2 examples of how this has caused a problem for you in the recent past.<br> ~ Speculate about why you are not effective at doing these things.<br> ~ Get others to do things you want them to do<br> ~ Get others to take you seriously<br> ~ Effectively say no to unwanted requests<br> ~ Strengthen current relationships<br> ~ Find and build new relationships</p> <p>Barriers<br> ~ Lack of effective communication skills<br> ~ Lack of clarity about what you want from others<br> ~ Difficulty balancing your needs and the other person’s needs<br> ~ Emotions get in the way<br> ~ You sacrifice long term goals for short term relief/urges<br> ~ Other people get in the way<br> ~ Other people are more powerful than you<br> ~ Need for external validation<br> ~ Beliefs that you don’t deserve what you want</p> <p>Summary<br> ~ Interpersonal effectiveness is more than just communication skills<br> ~ It requires that you know what your wants and needs are<br> ~ Helps you effectively ask for those wants and needs<br> ~ Troubleshoot why you might not be getting your needs met<br> ~ Take action to improve the situation<br> ~ Develop healthy, sustainable (albeit not perfect) relationships.</p> <p>Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills<br> Interpersonal Effectiveness<br> Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes<br> Executive Director, AllCEUs counselor education<br> Podcast Host: Counselor Toolbox & Happiness Isn’t Brain Surgery<br> Objectives<br> ~ Identify ways to address the barriers to interpersonal effectiveness<br> Communication Skills DEAR MAN<br> ~ DEAR<br> ~ Describe in specific, objective terms<br> ~ Clean house<br> ~ Being supportive<br> ~ Dressed appropriately<br> ~ Irritable<br> ~ What terms do you often have disagreements about?<br> ~ Express feelings and opinions using “I” statements<br> ~ Describe a situation and notice and correct yourself each time you don’t use an “I” statement to express feelings and opinions.<br> Communication Skills DEAR MAN<br> ~ DEAR<br> ~ Assert<br> ~ Ask for what you want<br> ~ Don’t expect mind reading<br> ~ Reinforce by explaining the benefits to the other person ahead of time. (win/win)<br> ~ If I get/you do this, the benefit to you will be…<br> ~ Think about 3 occasions when you wanted someone to do something for you. How could you have made it a win/win?<br> Communication Skills DEAR MAN<br> ~ MAN<br> ~ Mindfulness<br> ~ Stay focused on your goal<br> ~ Ignore diversion techniques-blaming, magnif</p>
