Summary: <p>Acceptance Tools<br> Instructor: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes<br> Executive Director: AllCEUs Counselor Continuing Education<br> Podcast Host: Counselor Toolbox and Happiness Isn’t Brain Surgery</p> <p>Counseling CEUs for this presentation can be earned at <a href="https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/search?q=acceptance+tools">https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/search?q=acceptance+tools</a></p> <p>Objectives<br> ~ Accepting Failure<br> ~ Accepting Isolation & Rejection<br> ~ Accepting Loss of Control<br> ~ Accepting Loss & Death<br> Warm Up Practice<br> ~ The Weather<br> ~ The News<br> ~ You wake up sick</p> <p>~ Answer the following questions<br> ~ What are the positives<br> ~ What are the negatives<br> ~ What is within your control<br> ~ The situation<br> ~ Your reaction to the situation<br> Failure<br> ~ When you try to do something but do not succeed<br> ~ Identify what caused the failure:<br> ~ Lack of realistic planning<br> ~ Lack of knowledge<br> ~ Lack of skills<br> ~ Lack of focus<br> ~ Actions of someone or something else<br> ~ Identify what went well<br> ~ Identify what you can learn<br> ~ Explore the failure in terms of the big picture<br> ~ Walk the middle path<br> ~ I did not succeed AND I am going to be okay<br> Failure<br> ~ What does failure mean to you?<br> ~ Failure is a loss<br> ~ In what ways does failure cause you to feel<br> ~ Angry<br> ~ Hopeless and helpless<br> ~ How can you integrate this loss into your life narrative?</p> <p>Isolation and Rejection<br> ~ We all need to feel loved<br> ~ By ourselves<br> ~ By others<br> ~ When you feel rejected<br> ~ Who is rejecting you?<br> ~ Other people<br> ~ Yourself<br> ~ Someone from your past<br> ~ What are they rejecting?<br> ~ You as a person<br> ~ A particular behavior? (What is your part)</p> <p> </p> <p>Isolation and Rejection<br> ~ Combat Isolation<br> ~ Define what it looks like to not feel isolated and make a plan<br> ~ Tear down the walls / Allow other people in<br> ~ Find common ground<br> ~ Synergize<br> ~ Combat Rejection<br> ~ Know your worth<br> ~ Separate rejection of ideas or behaviors from rejection of you as a person</p> <p> </p> <p>Isolation and Rejection<br> ~ When you feel rejected or isolated<br> ~ Accept the feeling<br> ~ Observe the facts<br> ~ Appreciate differences<br> ~ Remember that many times it has to do with the other person</p> <p>Loss of Control<br> ~ You cannot control everything nor would you want to<br> ~ Acceptance doesn’t mean you like it, just that you recognize you cannot control it<br> ~ When you have a problem, you have 4 options<br> ~ Change the situation<br> ~ Change your response to the situation<br> ~ Accept and tolerate the problem<br> ~ Stay miserable<br> Loss of Control<br> ~ Make a list of all of the things that aggravate you because you cannot control them.<br> ~ Circle each thing that is the results because of someone else’s thoughts or actions (Traffic, poor group performance at work, rude people…)<br> ~ Highlight each thing that is an “act of God” (time passing, holidays, weather…)<br> ~ Identify how you can radically accept or mitigate these things<br> Loss and Death<br> ~ With each loss comes some element of denial, anger, depression and acceptance.<br> ~ All of these are normal emotions to feel, acknowledge and let go.<br> ~ Losses come in all forms: Loss of childhood, loss of optimism/hope, loss of possessions, loss of/change in friendships (even after a move), and deaths<br> ~ Some losses are voluntary, like moving or changing jobs.<br> ~ Some are involuntary like death, graduation, divorce, layoffs<br> ~ Think of losses as end-of-season cliffhangers when an actor leaves. How is the next season going to play out?</p> <p>Loss<br> ~ Addressing Loss: Anger<br> ~ Anger is a response to a perceived threat.<br> ~ Identi</p>
