Summary: Budgeting can feel like such a ball and chain. Why is it such a pain point for so many of us?<br> This is the first article in a mini series on Family Budgeting. Today we make a case for WHY you need to budget.<br> <br> Usually, every relationship has a spender and a saver. Caleb is our spender, and I am our saver/budgeter! It has taken us a while to negotiate that. For example, we both want a retirement fund. However, Caleb wants to create that wealth by generating revenue, and I want to create that wealth by saving. There’s a big difference there! One that has caused a bit of friction in our relationship…<br> Caleb and I also get stressed about different things. He stresses most about making an income and always wants more than he has. I get stressed about balancing our budget. Believe me, we’re still figuring this out as we go.<br> We’ve learned a lot along our fifteen years of marriage that is really helpful for us, and we want to see also what the research has to say so that you can really be together on this part of your marriage as well.<br> In 2000, Kerkmann conducted a study of young married couples that were students with modest financial resources. He found that “financial management behaviors (defined as budgeting expenses against income) and the perception of how well finances were managed were both significantly related to satisfaction with their marriages.<br> Financial problems (mismatch between financial resources and demands) as well as the perceived magnitude of financial problems showed a statistically significant correlation with how satisfied the chief financial manager was with his/her marriage.”<br> As a result of a regression analysis, Kerkmann found that 13-15% of marital satisfaction was explained by perceived quality of financial management and financial problems.<a href="#_edn1" name="_ednref1">[i]</a><br> It is interesting to note that perception is more important than reality. You have to believe you’re doing a good job. It is not you compared to others, it is just you that needs to be satisfied with how your finances are handled.<br> I questioned the fact that it was ok to have debt as long as both spouses were ok with it, so Caleb explained that all the research was saying was if the perception of the couple is that they were managing their debt well, they would be more satisfied. BUT, we need to look at more research to get the big picture.<br> Here is some background information about debt that Dew assembled in 2008:<br> <br> * the average American household has consumer debt equal to 20% of their yearly income<br> * recently married couples typically have high levels of debt and take on debt as they establish their new household (go out and buy a bunch of stuff using debt)<br> * debt generally predicts increases in marital conflict and that newlyweds rated debt as their second highest marital concern.<br> <br> Dew wanted to find out how change in debt predicted change in marital satisfaction for newlyweds. He found that as couples assumed debt, they were more likely to:<br> <br> * spend less time together<br> * argue more about their finances, and<br> * feel that their marriage was unfair.<br> <br> He points out that all of these findings suggest that consumer debt (debt incurred on the purchase of consumable goods/goods that do not appreciate<a href="#_edn2" name="_ednref2">[ii]</a>) may inhibit recently married couple’s attempts to form a new family unit.<a href="#_edn3" name="_ednref3">[iii]</a><br> Right at the point you’re trying to create this new happy, blissful experience, you go buy a bunch of things you think you need in order to support that happiness but you actually end up sabotaging the whole thing.<br> So, even if you’re both good with the debt you’re incurring, and believe it’s OK, there are other factors undermining the happiness you’re aiming for.<br> Later on, Dew looked at the relationship between debt and divorce.
