Summary: Couples who have been through serious issues without ever finding a resolution in their marriages may be wondering if it's possible to move forward without re-visiting those past hurts. Is it possible to leave conflict unresolved and turn over a new leaf, even if there are issues that are still raw?<br> <br> Leaving conflict unresolved can be a risky strategy because the feelings of hurt and annoyance will always be there just below the surface and could boil over at any time. There are some strategies that couples can use to avoid conflict constructively, such as avoiding bringing up minor day to day issues and implicitly deciding that some topics should be declared taboo, but these strategies often have mixed results. Research shows that dealing with the past issues is almost always the better option, even thought it can be hard.<br> <br> Successfully confronting past issues and allowing them to heal is hard, but there are some questions and perspectives you can use to make it easier. You can't change what has happened, but by talking it through with your spouse you can work towards a resolution and figure out what needs to happen for you both to move on.
