Summary: Today’s guest used to suffer from crippling shyness that left him unable to have even basic conversations with strangers.<br> Today, he’s an expert in social theory and the author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Superhuman-Social-Skills-Likeable-Building-ebook/dp/B015QA1250" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Superhuman Social Skills</a>, a practical guide for anyone looking to increase their social circle and get comfortable socializing in any context — whether with friends, business partners, or complete strangers.<br> This episode isn’t just for those who suffer from social anxiety; it’s for anyone who wants to get more out of life by establishing deeper connections with the people around them.<br> Listen in as Tynan teaches us: <br> <br> * How anyone can overcome crippling social anxiety<br> * A simple method for winning over new friends and becoming a social superstar<br> * How to tell better stories<br> <br> <br> <a href="http://a.co/3SC91Wu" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>Get <a href="http://a.co/3SC91Wu" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Superhuman Social Skills</a> on Amazon.<br> Learn more at <a href="http://tynan.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Tynan.com</a>. <br> <br> How did you get superhuman social skills?<br> I was very shy and had social anxiety all the way from my early childhood to college. If one of my friends brought over one of their friends who I didn’t know, that would be a pretty uncomfortable situation for me, especially if that friend happened to be a woman, and especially if she was single.<br> I just had nothing to say, so that was very difficult for me.<br> As you can imagine, my dating life sort of followed suit which eventually led me to get involved in Pickup because I realized that if I didn’t fix my social skills, particularly around dating, my life wasn’t going to end up where I wanted it to be.<br> So, when I was first exposed to this whole Pickup thing, it was the first time I realized that social skills were a learnable skill.<br> Before that, I thought you were born with whatever social skills you had and that was that. <br> But I went really deep into Pickup (which you can read about in the book The Game) and it totally transformed my dating life but it also transformed my relationships with my friends, with my family members, and especially with new people.<br> My fear of talking to strangers was gone.<br> It’s funny because I now meet people and they find it hard to believe I was ever shy, but it’s true! I really started off pretty bad.<br> Can you give us an example of how your lack of social skills affected your life early on?<br> I have tons of those moments. That was my entire high school experience basically.<br> One that really stands out was the tipping point for me actually, and the reason that I eventually got into Pickup.<br> There was this girl the summer after my last year in high school, and for whatever reason we started hanging out. Almost every day that summer she would come pick me up in her car and we would drive around and basically just do nothing. I had a massive crush on this girl, but I had no idea what to do about it.<br> It wasn’t even that I was thinking about what to do. I knew that I had no idea what to do, so why even think about it?<br> Finally, the end of the summer is approaching and we’re at this party with all her friends, so I’m feeling very awkward. I’m not talking to anybody. But then this girl takes me into this hallway and she says, “You know Tynan, I have something to confess to you.”<br> I thought, “Oh my god, what could this be.”<br> She says, “Well, I have a huge crush on you” and I said, “Wow, that’s great, I have a huge crush on you, this is amazing” and we kissed.<br> <br> Wow, what a high point for me and I remember thinking, “This is great, this is my new girlfriend,
