Summary: <br> <br> HOW TO HANDLE THE SUPER-MOM <br> There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.<br> ~ Jill Churchill<br> <br> SPONSORSHIP NOTE: <br> This podcast is proudly brought to you by BEAUTYCOUNTER, the only personal care company committed information first, product second, transparency and performance. Their mission is to get safe products in the hands of everyone, because we all deserve better. BEAUTYCOUNTER is a company devoted to progress and to putting the truth back in beauty. Not only do I love their products and the positive change using them has made for wellness, but also I am proud to partner with them. Find out more about BEAUTYCOUNTER at <a href="http://www.trishblackwell.com/beautycounter">www.trishblackwell.com/beautycounter</a>.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <a href="http://www.trishblackwell.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/THE-CONFIDENTMOM-PODCAST-51.png"></a><br> <br> <br> <br> <br> LET’S GET INTO THE CONFIDENT CONTENT:<br> <br> <br> Comparison is the thief of joy. –Teddy Roosevelt<br> <br> <br> <br> This episode isn’t just about the supermom – or what I like to refer to as supermom syndrome – we’re actually going to devote an entire episode to that topic alone. What we are talking about today is the disease of comparison.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> WHY DO WE COMPARE OURSELVES SO MUCH? <br> <br> We engage in comparison because we are approaching life from a fundamentally flawed viewpoint: that we are in competition with others and that we must use them to measure and evaluate ourselves. Our connection to the cult of comparison is fed by our belief that our value is based on what we do, not who we are.<br> <br> Comparison is the by-product of criticism and self-judgment. Desperate to know we are enough, we judge ourselves and assess our value based off of how we see others are doing. Sometimes this leaves us feeling less than, other times we feel elevated and more than. Either outcome is dangerous.<br> <br> <br> THREE WAYS TO OVERCOME COMPARISON: <br> <br> <br> 1. Change your belief system.<br> <br> You must train your thoughts to know that your value as a human being does not lie in what you have accomplished, in the number on the scale, in your success at the office or in the size of your car or house. Your value is in who you are; in who God created you to be. It has nothing to do with performance and everything to do with character.<br> <br> This is a major mental overall – an entire cognitive reconstruction – and it will take time. Work to change your belief system by<br> <br> Deciding that your current value-system is flawed and you want to change it<br> Meditating on the statement that you are enough because of who you are, not what you do<br> Journaling and writing about this concept, what it has meant to you in the past and what it will mean to you in the future; write about what kind of freedom this new belief system might bring you<br> Pray and talk to God, asking Him to overhaul the flawed thinking of your mind and asking Him to empower you to see yourself and your value from His eyes.<br> <br> <br> 2. Actively pursue celebrating others<br> <br> <br> When we learn to celebrate and sincerely admire others, rather than looking to others as measuring markers, we can start to find freedom from the dangerously toxic cycle of self-judgment we put ourselves under.<br> <br> Do this by:<br> <br> <br> <br> Being the first to say hello<br> Being the friendliest and most generous neighbor on the block<br> Being affirming and complimentary to others<br> Being sincere in acknowledging someone else’s success<br> Being actually interested (yes, actually listening) to what someone else is really saying<br>
