Summary: <br> <br> <br> HOW TO STOP OVERANALYZING YOUR PARENTING<br> EPISODE #012<br> <br> <br> You know your life has changed when going to the grocery store by yourself is a vacation.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <a href="http://www.trishblackwell.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/001.-2-copy-5.jpg"></a><br> <br> <br> <br> <br> WHY DO WE OVERANALYZE?<br> <br> <br> We overanalyze because we self-doubt.<br> <br> We overanalyze because we fear that we aren’t enough.<br> <br> We overanalyze because we compare.<br> <br> We overanalyze because we lack trust and confidence in our capabilities.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> HOW CAN WE STOP OVERANALYZING SO MUCH? <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> There are five simple framing shifts that we need to do mentally in order to stop the habit of overanalyzing. Summed up, these are confidence markers and the stronger our innate self-confidence and understanding of our self-worth is, the stronger we will be in holding to our ability to trust these truths.<br> <br> <br> <br> * Trust your gut.<br> * Trust your capabilities.<br> * Trust your love.<br> * Trust your falability – know that you aren’t perfect and won’t ever be, nor do you need to be.<br> * Trust God’s design – you are perfectly matched with your child for a reason. When you think back on your parents, whatever your relationship might be or have been with them, there was a reason they were your parents. God could have put your child in the lives of any number of people or families, but He chose you.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> It’s important to know and remember that we will make mistakes, that we will fail our children and that we will have things we need to learn along the way – but the mark of truly successful parenting is not displayed through the accomplishments of your child, whether or not your family looks like it’s walked out of a J.Crew catalogue or whether you look like a good parent – the mark of great parenting are children who have hearts overflowing with love and kindness for others. I really believe that if we live with kindness as our compass, then our compassion and love for others will power us to follow our dreams and purposes and to be successful and contributing members to society at large…ultimately making the world a better place. And isn’t that what we desire as parents? For our children to live with happiness and to live in a world that is better than the world in which we abide? We can do and accomplish this by making our children’s character the most important focus of our parenting.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> * Write down your mission statement as a parent.<br> * Journal about your anxieties and then let them go and give them to God.<br> * Give yourself permission to relax<br> * Ask yourself when will enough ever be enough (the answer is that it won’t, so instead of stressing about every decision you make and everything your children do, just walk through life with confidence to know that as long as you are doing everything with love as your motivator, then you will be walking a walk of beauty and grace).<br> * Start a praise notebook at night – write down one thing you did well as a parent that day, one thing that you learned about or through parenting that day for which you are grateful, and one thing you absolutely love about the gift it is to be a parent.<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> <br> EDUCATIONAL ANNOUNCEMENT:<br> <br> <br> <br> <br> Moms with daughters, this announcement is for you, and it’s something, since I’m the mother of a daughter, I am passionate about educating about.<br> <br> <br> <br>
