Controlling Anger




Nouman Ali Khan show

Summary: Dua<br> Passage narration from the Quran (Surah Luqman 17-19)<br> Ya bunayya Aqimissalata wa’mur blimaroofi wanha anil munkari wasbir ala maa asabaka Inna zalika min azm il umoor. Wala tusa’ir khaddaka linnasi wala tamshi filardi marahan InnaALlah la yuhibbu kulla mukhtalin fakhoor. Waqsid fi Mashyika waghdud min sautika Inna ankaral aswaati lasautul hameer<br> Dua<br> <br> In Sha Allah Taala in today’s reminder I’d like to share some thoughts with you that I hope to benefit from myself and hope that they are of benefit to all of you as well in regards to a very dangerous, and at the same time a very natural, sentiment all of us have and that is Anger.<br> Anger is very natural. It’s not an unnatural sentiment for you to be angry. There are many occasions that make you angry and make me angry. Sometimes those things are small and sometimes they are big. But this feeling is rooted in something else. It’s rooted in something else and if it’s not rooted in something healthy it can become very dangerous. It’s really a symptom of a much larger disease.<br> I chose this passage to share with you because this is a passage in which Luqman Razi Allaho Anho is giving advice to his son and there are other occasions in the Quran where a father is talking to his son. Yaqoob ah talks to his sons you know “ya bunayya___” . gives advice to his sons also. So this idea of a father giving advice to his son is not unique in the Quran. It’s something Allah iterates multiple times. So it’s something you should pay attention to. And if you think of this picture, you see them, an older man of wisdom, Allah has given him wisdom “wa laqad aataina Luqman Al hikmah” he’s giving advice to his young and you can call inexperienced son. A lot of us are in the position. A lot of you got older and you try and give advice to your son and you’ll notice something. As you get older and wisdom kicks in or if you are fortunate enough to benefit from wisdom, what it brings also is patience. And what you’ll notice in your sons, in your young men that are growing up is impatience. And they are repulsing. They get angry very easily.<br> So one of the very important pieces of advice for a young man to get from someone who has wisdom above him like his father is for him to calm down, to keep himself in check, to control himself. So with that in mind, you’re keeping in mind that this is a father giving advice to his son, let’s see some of the things he tells him to do. First, “Ya bunayya aqeemis salat” “my son, establish salat” and the word salah interestingly, this is of course preIslamic conversation, pre the Messenger of Allah SAW, so this salah is not just using the official sense of five daily prayers. That was given to our Messenger Alaihi salatu wassalam. Every messenger was given their own form of salah and finally the perfection of it is in our Messenger’s Sunnah (SAW). But in the original sense what the word salah comes from is “sila” which means “connection”. Maintain a connection with Allah. You know, practically this discussion from father to son this counsel began with “la yushriku billah” “do not do shirk with Allah”. Don’t associate partners with Allah. Don’t do the ultimate crime of distancing yourself from Allah by putting someone else between yourself and Allah. That’s shirk. And practically, to not do shirk. Practically. Not just theoretically, philosophically, ideologically. Practically to not do shirk one has to be connected to Allah and not connected to anything else. And the device, the mechanism by which a believer gets connected to Allah is salat itself. It literally protects our Tawheed. This salat, this connection with Allah. It doesn’t let anybody else come in between. When you and I are making salah it’s just us in conversation with Allah Azza wa jal directly. Allah azza wa jal responding to every part of the Fatiha that we recite. It’s a direct method. Aqeemis salat<br>