Summary: This is our first recording after Pantheacon Drama Fest 2012 and rather than commenting on the actual events like every other Pagan media outlet we're going to use this as a "teaching moment" for how to cope with being hurt. This is part 1 of a 2 part discussion. Regular Hosts:Dave of Pagans promoting Healthy Active Tendencies (PHAT), Joe "I'm not here" of Pagan Roadtrip Guest Hosts: Amanda, Barrett of Pagan Men, Myst, Nick of The Satyr's Thicket, NRia of Pagan Men 01:20The context of a conflict is very important 01:39Context: Many see the GLBT and Pagan community as a single community. How can something be anti-GLBT and still be Pagan is the implied question. 02:46How other Pagan conferences handle the GLBT situation 03:52Setting vs. Meeting expectations 01:39Context: Many see the GLBT and Pagan community as a single community. How can something be anti-GLBT and still be Pagan is the implied question. 02:46How other Pagan conferences handle the GLBT situation 03:52Setting vs. Meeting expectations 04:48How does full blown conflict begin? 05:15When individuals engage in conflict, ultimately it is the community that can get hurt 05:38The disappataing sphere of damage 07:11The art of being human is rising above being human 06:42People like taking sides when they become aware of a conflict 07:11The art of being human is rising above being human 07:53Objective observers can be useful in a conflict, become one. 08:46Unintended trolling 09:06Beware Ford-Chevy Debates 09:22Actually filter what you communicate 09:57Wasting stupid amounts of energy on the unwinnable or ultimately irrelevant 11:08What happens if you just have a stubborn person? 12:52If it's put in front of you and you can learn a lesson, do so. 12:59The Racist Paradox: All who hate racists are essentially racists 14:28Hate is a wasted effort, but is needed in small quantities 17:23A lack of critical analysis leading to unnecessary conflict 19:11How does this cost a group of friends? 23:30Making private matters public annoys people 19:32Some people have bad defensive mechanisms, be aware if you are one of these people 20:11Team mentality and conflict and how it causes more damage 22:42Let us know you deal with the derp in your life that you have to deal with, no violence please - joe@PaganCenteredPodcast.com 23:30Making private matters public annoys people 23:45Dragging more people into a conflict is unlikely to result in the conflict resolving to your satisfaction. 24:14Violating trust by means of not adhering to assumptions made about you 24:57Being the better person 25:42Being the better person matters most when you are speaking on behalf of others/an organization 26:32Another example of Scurvy's heavily abusive workplace 27:06Army ten point vets punch people in the back 27:42Don't let people get away with anything, too much compassion makes you a doormat. 28:27If you're going to say you're the better person, actually be the better person! 28:48When is being an ass being the better person? 30:14What about checking back occasionally? 32:25People having a chance to turn things around 33:42Scurv introspects on being hurt personally 35:02Shameless plug for PaganNewsFirehose.com 35:53The evolution of Pagan news towards having 50+ Pagan news articles per day that are interesting 36:39Lessons to learn from having a nervous breakdown 37:36Knowing what you should and should not do 38:07Method for avoiding trollbait 42:18Trust isn't something that if someone violates once, you should dump them. 38:17You are unable to conceal emotional issues 39:07Blacklisting people and permanent vs. temporary 45:56Tactics known not to work in community healing 40:08Thinking too much can create a problem that wasn't there in the first place. 40:43Can you sing? We need you for a PCP Music Video! pcp@PaganCenteredPodcast.com 42:18Trust isn't something that if someone violates once, you should dump them.
