Summary: <br> <a href="https://www.dailyevolver.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/fig5w600.jpg"></a><br> <br> Urge and urge and urge,<br> Always the procreant urge of the world.<br> Out of the dimness opposite equals advance, always substance and increase, always sex,<br> Always a knit of identity, always distinction, always a breed of life.<br> To elaborate is no avail, learn’d and unlearn’d feel that it is so.<br> Sure as the most certain sure, plumb in the uprights, well entretied, braced in the beams,<br> Stout as a horse, affectionate, haughty, electrical,<br> I and this mystery here we stand.<br> – Walt Whitman<br> THE EVOLUTION OF SEX<br> Creativity is the essence of the kosmos. The Big Bang itself was an act of mind-stopping fecundity that has continued to complexify, in material and mind, for the past 13.8 billion years.<br> The latest emergent appeared last week on Big Brother, the CBS reality show, where a straight man and a gay man began snuggling with each other. Even I am shocked and moved to ask: what’s going on here? What is Eros bringing on now, and is there no rest for the weary?<br> <a href="https://www.dailyevolver.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/tumblr_n7ya69HBvW1subidmo3_250.gif" target="_blank"></a> <br> Every stage of development expresses sex in its own way, including animals and bacteria. In fact sex itself is a relatively late emergent in the evolution of the universe. Life started out asexually. We had 2 billion years of single cells simply dividing, passing 100% of their genes on to the next generation.<br> But the kosmos, which is known for its big surprises (such as the advent of life itself) eventually presented a new means of reproduction that exponentially multiplied creativity: sexual union with other individuals. This is the point where life makes the deal that if each individual gives up 50% of his genes, the resulting variety of the offspring will more than make up for it. This brought forth a splendid new display of life into the kosmos and today virtually all plants and animals reproduce sexually.<br> PART CHIMP/PART BONOBO<br> We get our first glimpse of early human sexuality by looking at the animal kingdom from whence we’ve evolved. One of the most interesting lessons can be found in the difference in sex and gender behaviors between chimpanzees and their close cousins the bonobos. Chimps are aggressive and brutal, and the males dominate the females who are often isolated from each other. Over in bonobo land, on the other hand, it’s all “make love not war” and “love the one you’re with.” Bonobos have an inordinate amount of sex with themselves and with whoever is handy of either sex.<br> The difference? Chimps live in trees and hunt, which favors the physical prowess of the male. Bonobos forage for food on the ground, which is something the female can do in full partnership with the male. As a result the females affiliate with each other which creates a counter-force to male domination. This emergence of female power changes the entire system.<br> So are humans more chimp or bonobo? Theories differ as to the earliest human, and I have no problem imagining that dawning cultures could be both brutal and loving as life conditions varied. But one thing is clear: by the time we reached the red, warrior stage of development we were channeling our inner chimp. And since then we’ve been working our way toward bonobohood.<br> In fact, one of the great culture wars of our time is going on between pre-traditional cultures — where women are shrouded and girls’ schools are burned down — against a society where women have full partnership. Female empowerment is indeed lethal to the patriarchy.<br> One of the developmental themes of human sexual and gender relations as we develop is that women become more and more powerful as new cultural structures arise.<br> WHAT’S NEXT IN SEX?<br> So what is integral sex?
