The 5th mistake people make in relationships – handling conflict poorly (Episode 63)

Summary: In today’s show you will....discover the 2 worst ways you can respond to conflict and how to eliminate them from your relationship. SPECIAL OFFER And by the way, if you haven’t left a review yet in iTunes, don’t be shy, it’s easy to do and it really lets me know you’re listening (and other’s too). Show Notes Five Biggest Mistakes People Make in Relationships Last show were... 1. Poor Communication (not listening by reloading) Solution: Listen, understand, validate and empathize Listen and hear my voice; pay attention and hear what I say. (Is. 28:23) 2. Poor self-care…you end up empty and exhausted Solution: Emotional, spiritual, physical and mental self-care But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. (Luke 5:16) 3. Developing Negative Beliefs Solution: give each other the benefit of the doubt Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:7, NLT) “To see the best in others…” This does not mean that love is gullible, but that it does not think the worst (as is the way of the world). It retains its faith. Love is not deceived . . . but it is always ready to give the benefit of the doubt. 4. Trying to change each other Solution: Stop resenting the things that first attracted you to your partner (value the differences) For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living. You, then, why do you judge your brother? Or why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. It is written: “‘As I live,’ says the Lord, ‘Every knee will bow before me; every tongue will confess to God.’” So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God. {Rom 14:9-12 NIV} Today's show... 5. Avoiding conflict or poorly managing conflict (escalation, withdrawing) Solution: realize the value of conflict, time-out “An offended friend is harder to win back than a fortified city. Arguments separate friends like a gate locked with bars” (Prov 18:19). ARTIST HIGHLIGHT Matt Brouwer – Where's Our Revolution – Click here to view on iTunes BROUGHT TO YOU BY SMALLEY CENTER - IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ON LIFE SUPPORT, GIVE US A CALL AT 800-975-8748.