The Confident Marriage
Summary: The Confident Marriage’s mission is to making happiness your marriage story by offering advice, support, tips and tools to help you improve your marriage no matter what your current situation is! I am working from personal experience, education and proven methods that work. I have firsthand experience with relationships from communication problems, parenting disagreements, sex, infidelity, emotional cheating, pornography use/addiction, drug addiction, alcoholism, intimacy and the list goes on. About Jessica: I have been married twice, my first marriage was for 16 years and my second has been for 4 years, both marriages have had their share of major problems. I come from a long family history of addiction, abuse (sexual, physical and emotional), and dysfunction. I was defiant as a teenager and rebelled in ways that should have left me dead. It’s because of my journey and the hard work I have done on myself as a person, wife and mother that has given me tried and true knowledge and experience. Now, my heart is in teaching and helping others achieve success and transformation. I believe that husbands, wives and their marriage need love, guidance, support and tools to maneuver though the dips we face in all the different seasons we will encounter. Are you ready to turn your marriage around and experience something you never knew you and your spouse could have?
Regardless of the definition you give respect when it comes to marriage, when you break it down, respect is trust, being truthful and trustworthy. Without that component in a marriage, you can not have love. Love is widely mistaken as a feeling. Love is not a feeling. It is a choice, a choice to respect your spouse.
Today's topic is expectations. Expectations come from inside of you and they can ruin your relationship. They create turmoil where it's not necessary and they put boundaries and guidelines on your spouse that they didn't even know existed. Expectations is setting you and your spouse up for failure.
The internet over the last several decades has become more and more accessible making it so easy to fulfill our fantasies in a discreet way without going outside of our marriage. The effects have been overlooked for so long, until specialists started seeing trends in people and their behavior associated with pornography. The dash to figure out what was going on started and they have discovered some pretty scary shit.
Today we are talking about conflict, arguments, disagreements and why they are so very, very important to have in your marriage. The idea that when you are happy in your relationship….arguing doesn't happen, or it doesn't happen much...This is a misunderstanding and as I talked about in Mythical Marriages, it's a myth.
I want my audience to know who I am because understanding what I have experienced and where my knowledge comes from better helps you to know that I understand what your going through on a much deeper level. More couples succeed faster and at higher rates when working with peers who have experienced the same problems and overcame them than years of therapy ever did. There is just something to be said about someone who KNOWS what you are going through on a deep, experiential level.
Today I am going to talk about when you lose love in your marriage. What happened to your love. Has it changed so much your left confused? Have you lost it? What does that mean anyway? Maybe your partner has lost it and you don’t know what to do. How do we bring it back? Maybe you haven't lost it but things are not as exciting and spunky as they once were. We are going to dive deep into this hard topic and discuss what you can do to bring your marriage back to a place of love and happiness.
Foreplay before the foreplay. Let's talk about sex, baby! Not feeling the flame? Wondering what's the source of sexual disconnection? It's not rocket science and it’s not as complicated as you think! The two of you are not having emotional sex...thats right...its the foreplay before the foreplay and when sprinkled into your marriage the end result is mind blowing!
This is the Confident Marriage podcast. This is episode one, Mythical Marriages, I will be talking about is a healthy and normal marriage anyway? In this episode I address many of the common beliefs, myths, misconceptions, and ideas about what a marriage SHOULD look like.