Find The Magic

Stress is a fact of life, getting stuck in it isn't! When we are stuck in chronic stress or our stressors push us past our ability to cope we find ourselves in overwhelm. This episode we unpack Atlas of The Heart, the work of Brene Brown, as a guide to moving through stress and out of overwhelm. We touch on ways that we can identify the feeling in our body before it becomes overwhelmed and our favorite tips and tools for increasing our ability to cope with these often uncomfortable feelings. 9:00- Definition of Stress vs. Overwhelm 15:26 - Where do we feel stress/overwhelm in our bodies? 18:30 - Your body keeps the score 22:52 - Move through the tunnel 23:50 - Completion of the stress cycle 25:50 - Fight, flight, or freeze 28:30 - Using RAIN from Tara Brach as a tool 31:45 - Grounding 36:11 - Having a positive social interaction 40:06 - Creative expression --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It sometimes feels like we are being pulled in many directions, and it is hard to feel settled and aligned when that is happening. In this episode, Taralyn describes a few things she has learned lately in her wrestle for alignment.  The steps she has used to help her are: 1-Identify what parts of you are misaligned and intentionally give them all a seat in your council. 2-Set aside time daily to imagine what it would feel like to have that settled feeling of being aligned in your heart, mind, body, and spirit. Use that powerful brain of yours to try on the feeling of having all of the parts be in harmony. Tapping into this vibration helps you pull it towards you. Grounding is also a really helpful tool during this step. The shower is a great place to try this habit because its daily and the water is so conductive. 4-Think bigger. Zoom out your perspective and observe that YOU are not your body, your emotions, or your mind. Once you FEEL that, aligning all of them becomes easier--like a magnet rearranging metal shavings. If you try this, Taralyn would LOVE to know how it goes for you. Just DM her on instagram @taralyngriffin Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit. Breathwork Exercises for Daily Habit Building with Taralyn  203 // Meditation: Letting Fear Go Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Related EpisodesThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

"No one listens to me!" "I feel like the train engine running our whole home." "I am exhausted, will it always be this hard?" Finding the right parenting style for your family is hard. Information flies at us from all direction challenging us to "listen more", "be more strict." etc ... ultimately what we want is a dynamic, respectful and loving relationship with our children. In this episode Felica interviews Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions, about his work for his new book. They discuss how respectful parenting can be taken too far when we are respecting our children but they are showing no respect back and why this happens. Related Episodes ⁠⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠⁠ Books and Links We Mentioned ⁠⁠Fairplay⁠⁠ // Eve Rodsky ⁠⁠Raising Lions⁠⁠ // Joe Newman ⁠⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠⁠  // Janet Lansbury Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: ⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Do you ever feel parent guilt? We get so many questions from listeners about the torn feeling that comes while trying to balance being a whole person ourselves while still serving our families with love. In this episode, we answer this question as we discuss how we can set boundaries for ourselves, protect our own personal time (shower time, bathroom, etc.) and learn to coexist with more ease without young children. We also address questions about reinventing ourselves as our children grow, how to handle kids being sneaky and hiding things, and how to deal with our children being bossy and having public meltdowns. Related Episodes ⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠ ⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠ Books and Links We Mentioned ⁠Fairplay⁠ // Eve Rodsky ⁠Raising Lions⁠ // Joe Newman ⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠  // Janet Lansbury Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: ⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

​​This episode is a balm to stress and overwhelm. If you are feeling trapped in the storm of life this episode is for you. Felica shares her favorite quick tips for regulating her nervous system when things are just too much! If you liked this episode don't forget to share it and leave a review! We appreciate you so much. Review of the week *nicole0304h*, 10/03/2023 Can I be friends with them?I LOVE this podcast. As a mom, and a former therapist—they speak to my heart from such a real, empowering and practical perspective. I glean so many tips and tidbits from what they share and appreciate their honesty and ability to respect different points of views on topics. They truly do their research and have conversations that make me think, laugh and secretly want to be friends with them! Related Episodes  Tips for Overcoming Distraction --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Our favorite sex therapist is back and this time we are challenging the assumption that sexual desire dies with long term relationships. Felica interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and they dive into the challenges we face to "keep the fire alive".Esther Perel said " Eroticism is the antithesis to everything a healthy family life needs, ritual, routine and knowing. Safety and security. Eroticism is adventure" , in this episode we tease out the nuance in this and discover what eroticism TRULY means. Hint ** it isn't all about sex/ desire.We also touch on the fact that families are more child centered than ever with higher expectations for couples. All responsibility often falls on parents, not community, institutions or society. We set up play dates and take pictures of and talk about and invest in our kids yet our personal and couple relationships are left to shrivel up. How can we do better?We tackle all this and more! Don't miss this chance to bring more erotic energy into your life.  Links We Mentioned  https://www.goodinside.com/podcast/4759/sex-after-kids-tell-me-more-esther-perel/ Related Episodes How to Own Your Own Desires with Dr.Finlayson Fife  Discovering Self within Our Sexuality & Overcoming Betrayal  Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much! Each week we choose a winner to receive a FREE JOURNAL for leaving a review! Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In this mini episode Felica helps us think about how we take on our role as mother. It is a blessing for all the women we have been and a challenge to shed our over identification with our labels. ENJOY! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

So often in parenting, we find ourselves...losing our cool, to put it nicely. We respond with anger; we use bribing or coercion to make our kids behave, and we hurt our relationship with our kids and ourselves in the process. In this episode, we take a deep dive into individual steps we can take anytime we find ourselves triggered by our kids’ behavior. We start with ourselves, pause, attune to our child, and then respond, not react, by setting limits and allowing logical consequences by looking at the need being expressed by our child’s behavior. This conversation will help you reframe difficult parenting situations and allow you to focus on the priority of your relationship. Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions. Pay attention to what you fear and ask yourself why? Parenting helps us see ourselves more clearly. Don’t parent from a place of lack. The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children Use breath to bring yourself into the present moment and pause Sometimes bad behavior is a cry for connection. Time Stamps 8:00- How do we live from a place of authenticity when parenting 12:31 - Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions 18:15 - Parenting from a place of lack vs. wholeness 21:00 - Meditation practice to give your child self love and acceptance 24:33 - Journal out your fears with your kids to process them 29:00 - The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children 37:30 - Zone of zero reactivity 46:50 - Come to each situation with a response vs. a reaction 52:31 - Natural consequences vs. Cultivating consequences You can listen to this episode on most other platforms here :) Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE Related Episodes Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style  Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1 Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections Parenting with Unconditional Love  How to Embrace Childhood  Books and links we mentioned; The Awakened Family // Shefali Tsabary The Conscious Parent // Shefali Tsabary --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Original Post date 10/25/22 Fear is a powerful emotion. All of us face it at some point of another, and often, it really puts a damper on the way we live our lives. It can interfere with us loving wholeheartedly and doing things that inspire (and scare) us. In this episode, Taralyn dives deep into the concept of facing and processing our fears so they don’t hold us back in life. She addresses 3 different kinds of fear, and walks you through steps to free yourself from the fears that don’t serve you. Books Taralyn Mentioned: Gift of Fear // Gavin De Becker Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm // Thich Nhat Hanh Related Episodes: Escaping the Trance of Unworthiness and Finding Self Acceptance Within Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior. In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special.  From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year!  You can listen to this episode on iTunes here and many other platforms here. Books we mentioned: Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor Mate The Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard Eyre Food Nanny Rescues Dinner //  Liz Edmunds   Related Episodes: Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

There is nothing quite like parenting--it’s something we want to desperately do well at, and it is simultaneously one of the most difficult things that many of us will ever do. We face fears, failure, triggers of our own emotions, often while experiencing physical and emotional fatigue. However, because of this, children have the capacity to be our greatest teachers. They allow us the opportunity to truly look inside of ourselves when we are triggered, and wake up to our own nature.  In this episode, Felica had the incredible opportunity of discussing this topic with parenting expert and author, Susan Stiffelman, MFT. She explains how we can use the practice of being present to truly use this journey we have as parents to truly evolve ourselves as we face the daunting task of raising humans to do the same. Her books and her words are unbelievably inspiring and will help you as you navigate your own parenting experience.  You can learn more about Susan Stiffelman and her work and sign up for her newsletter on her website:  https://susanstiffelman.com. She is offering a webinar you can join her in about coparenting with a narcissist here. You can listen to this episode on iTunes here or on many other platforms here. Books we mentioned: Parenting with Presence // Susan Stiffelman   Parenting without Power Struggles // Susan Stiffelman  Loving What Is // Byron Katie  Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen  Related Episodes: Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us Janet Lansbury’s episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking. Books that inspired us: Atomic Habits // James Clear Deep Work // Cal Newport Essentialism // Greg McKeown Getting Things Done // David Allen The Power of Habit // Charles Duhigg Our Related Episodes: Habits for High Performance Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connection Make Your Morning Routine Happen! We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We often receive the message that we can have it all; we can do it all. Social media messages, societal expectations, and our own self talk often feeds the lie that we can do EVERYTHING. When we don’t live up to the unrealistic expectation that we can do everything and succeed at everything, there is a cost to our mental health.  In this episode, we discuss this topic with New York Times best selling author, Greg McKeown. He helps identify the lie that we can do everything, and instead offers a path of wisdom, balance, and priorities instead of the wild racing that we often indulge in when we are trying to say yes to everything. He gives us very applicable steps on how to make doing what truly matters to us easy.   BOOKS AND LINKS: Greg’s Website: https://gregmckeown.com Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most // Greg McKeown  Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less // Greg McKeown RELATED EPISODES  Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better Discovering YOUR Life Essentials --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Research indicates that preschoolers, on average, make three demands/requests per minute! Wow. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed. “Watch me!” “Get that!” “Where’s my dinosaur?!”  In this episode we talk about practical ideas and tools that have helped us navigate the barrage of daily requests, questions, and demands in a way that allows you to maintain calm and respect for your kids and yourself.  Books & Links we mention Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting // John Gottman with Joan DeClaire Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff  Mom Watch Compilation by Johnson Files Related Episodes 230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) How To: Create Pockets of Peace Time Stamps 10:00 How many requests our kids make per minute 13:15 Why we future focus and how inputs from our kids overwhelm us  14:15 Are our kids self centered? 23:18 Using body language and social cues 25:55 Mom watch this watch this!! 29:00 Do you have a hard time tuning out noise/ kids? 32:18 Good parenting does not mean responding to everything request  40:01 Ask, is my child seeking connection? Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to distill this one for you! In this episode we discuss how knowing your attachment style can guide you to a self awareness that enhances your ability to connect, repair and forgive. We also share our favorite tactics from the book for putting your relationship first, healing past wounds and supporting each other in parenting.  Related Episodes  Putting Connection With Our Spouse First How to own your desires with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Time Stamps 12:00 - Attachment styles 14:05 - Anchors 16:30 - Waves 20:01 - Islands 32:33 - The relationship as an entity should be the highest priority 35:35 - Conflicts within a relationship 44:30 - Am I putting my role as a parent, or my hobby over my primary attachment? 46:17 - Supporting your spouse in parenting 51:40 - Secret password for stressful parenting moments 57:50 - Bring issues up preventatively Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support