Find The Magic

In this episode, we indulge in talking about one of our favorite subjects—birth. Many of our listeners have asked us about our birth stories and for advice on how to approach the birthing process with joy instead of fear. We share our own personal stories, and what we found helpful in preparing for the birth of each of our children. Books we mention: Hypnobirthing// Marie Mongan // https://amzn.to/33xoSnM Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth// Ina May Gaskin // https://amzn.to/33v5cB0  Links:  This is the organization both of us took our classes from: https://www.hypnobabies.com This is a preview for an awesome show about birth (there will be actual births in this); https://vimeo.com/47116003 Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Grit has become a buzzword in the self-help world thanks to some amazing research that has linked it to success. Grit is connected to courage, resolve, and strength of character. We believe grit is worth cultivating in our society as everything gets easier and our perseverance and commitment to go deeper in tasks can easily wane with our attention span. Angela Duckworth's book, Grit: The Power of Passion ad Perseverance, explores what makes someone "gritty,” why it is important, and how we can cultivate it. We are breaking down her theories in this episode and going specifically into how we can help encourage grit in ourselves and our kids! In this episode, we explore the research in Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Books we mention: Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance // Angela Duckworth https://amzn.to/2nqT70z How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results // Esther Wojcicki https://amzn.to/2nqT70z Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

As parents, many of us feel guilty that we aren’t engaging in play enough with our kids. Or, we feel guilty that our kids aren’t playing enough on their own to develop their imagination and instead spend lots of time in front of screens. Either way, there is lot of guilt to choose from. There is a reason mom guilt is such a popular term! We are here to suggest there is a better way:). In this episode, we address a few individual listener questions and explore how we can, by focusing first on connection and meeting their attention needs, create a secure setting or them to explore their own world of independent play. We also discuss how we can successfully let go of that parent guilt so you can actually enjoy that time you get to yourself while your kids are developing their imagination on their own. Books we mention: Magda Gerber // Your Self-Confident Baby // https://amzn.to/2ozGIY9 Janet Lansbury // Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting // https://amzn.to/2n7IkrU Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Have you ever been in the rut of the everyday? It can feel like a slog at times moving from one mundane task to the next. This shows up magnified in parenting when we are stuck on the treadmill of cleaning up spills, changing diapers, driving carpool, planning meals only to fall asleep exhausted and enter the next day that way! We easily catch ourselves living for our next date night, weekend away or perhaps even that day when “life will be easier, our kids will be older, we will have more money” etc. This episode we want to challenge that status quo. We want to share a concept with you that can awaken you to each of these moments and help you find the acceptance, joy and perhaps even enthusiasm in all of the parts of this life, small and big. We also chat about this weeks high fives including Taralyn being on Instagram! here- https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ and Felica confirming one of our truths, letting kids discover their passions and removing your ego from your kids education and extracurricular drive!  BOOKS WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE The concept of these three modalities is from Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth. - https://amzn.to/2LDI2Co Oprah’s feature on Elkhart- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprah-and-eckhart-tolle-a-new-earth/id1458654443 Find Felica on Instagram here- https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

We are so excited to review Essentialism by Greg Mckeown on this episode! We thought this book and giving our take on how to live true to your essentials would be a perfect follow up to the digital detox / finding solitude episode as creating that white space is really the first step in having mental clarity and presence with what you truly want for your life! Essentialism is the art of designing your life to include what is truly important to you. It is the discipline of separating the vital few from the trivial many. In this episode we chat about how we find mental clarity to do just that and what tools you can use to create space for your essentials.  THINGS / BOOKS WE MENTION Essentialism, The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown https://amzn.to/2O16IXf Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport https://amzn.to/2ZNWMHM Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist https://amzn.to/2LwD0Yv OUR WEBSITE  FIND US ON INSTAGRAM - @felicaallen and @taralyngriffin --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Sweet sweet SWEET solitude. Sometimes I classify solitude as going to the bathroom alone or hiding in my closet for a couple extra minutes! As people of this social connected, news blasted time in history we rarely find quiet moments of PEACE to ourselves and our minds are craving them. On the flip side we also struggle to make deep meaningful connections with those around us resulting in anxiety and depression. How can we counterbalance this teeter totter? SOLITUDE. Time for our minds to rest, relax and reboot. In this episode we are discussing our experiment with a digital detox inspired by the book Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. Did we find more solitude and rest by simplifying how we use screens and technology? CAN YOU?   THINGS / BOOKS WE MENTION Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport https://amzn.to/2ZNWMHM Note to Self Podcast  Collin Kartchner on Instagram  OUR WEBSITE  FIND US ON INSTAGRAM - @felicaallen and @taralyngriffin Taralyn’s High Five: her fave yoga studio, Root to Rise --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Today we answer questions from our awesome listeners! We address how to stay present and wholehearted while in the midst of parental sleep deprived exhaustion, how to survive with toddlers at the park while trying to feed a newborn, and how to help cultivate imaginary play in children who have become accustomed to screen time. Links to books we mentioned: Your Self Confident Baby // Magda Gerber Elevating Childcare // Janet Lansbury Simplicity Parenting // Kim John Payne Here are the podcast episodes we referred to: The Pause (this is our best advice on sleep:) Tantrums, screen time, and breaking out of a funk Curbing Our Own Screen Attachment --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

We can get lost in parenting. One more diaper, another meal to clean up, another practice to run to. How can we connect with our spouse while parenting? Today we talk about both emotional and physical intimacy and give a few tips on how to cultivate it. Here are the professionals we refer to (as well as a hilarious YouTube video we laugh about:): Esther Perel’s Website  and one of her books “What Turns You On” from the Goop podcast: Love Warrior // Glennon Doyle This is the hilarious parenting video about how sometimes bedtime can be a reverse hostage negotiation by Michael McIntyre. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

We all know connection is important, but sometimes we have a hard time knowing what we are doing to either foster of break our connections with the ones we love most. Today we explore what connection looks like, and how our ability to nurture connection is what gives us meaning. As with most things, it starts by looking inward. In this episode, you’ll find tips on how to set limits while still maintaining your relationships and how to give from a place of wholeness instead of resentment. The books that inspired this episode: Peaceful Parenting, Happy Kids // Dr. Laura Markham Soul of Discipline // Kim John Payne --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Today we are posting at the beach at the Oregon Coast! We have two special guests, and we talk about the best parenting advice we have ever received. Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Eating is part of everyone’s life, and yet so many people struggle with having a healthy relationship with food. Before we can hope of helping our children grow into adults who are at peace with food, it is so important to model it ourselves. In this episode, we discuss our own personal relationship with food, which centers on mindfulness.  We share insights from authors who have plenty of research to back up this mindful method. The goal with this approach is a life that is at peace with food and a body that is healthy and balanced. We hope you find it helpful!  Books we refer to:  Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch Love Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon Doyle Also, here is the wireless ear bud that both Taralyn and Felica are obsessed with and that Taralyn was so sad to lose:) It is a GAME CHANGER! It’s really the key to how we listen to so many books.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Do your kids have trouble sitting for meals? Trying new foods? Are they constantly snacking and refusing to eat at meal times and do you find yourself cooking extra meals just for them? Sometimes food power struggles run our home and created unwanted anxiety and tension in our relationship with our kids. This episode we are breaking down one of our favorite parenting books "French Kids Eat Everything". It is on our list of recommendations to every new parent or caregiver. We are reviewing the French Food Rules that are applicable from the early days of infant eating all the way through childhood. And if you already have habits in your home that you are hoping to break this episode is for you as well! We have practical mutually respectful tips to create peaceful mealtimes in your home!  Books we refer to: French Kids Eat Everything: How Our Family Moved to France, Cured Picky Eating, Banned Snacking, and Discovered 10 Simple Rules for Raising Happy, Healthy Eaters // Karen Le Billon Happiness Project: Or, Why I spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have Mor Fun // Gretchin Rubin We also mentioned Kodiak Cakes as one of Taralyn’s family’s favorite breakfasts. Her favorite flavor is the buttermilk and chia superfood packed one:). --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Do ever just wish for a simple breakdown of how to be the most effective parent? Parenting is so tricky and unique to each family situation but there are some tried and true rules that can help guide you. This episode we are breaking down the four basic parenting categories that most of us fall into. We loved seeing each laid out in this way to really simplify how we can approach parenting. Each style hinges on DEMAND and RESPONSE and the level at which we show both to our children. We know you will find some useful insight into how you are currently parenting and how you may be able to sweet your expectation (that tricky word!) and warm responsiveness to create an environment of growth and respect in your home! Books we mention in this episode are-  How To Raise an Adult - https://amzn.to/2K0sJ4G  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

In this episode, we talk about how to approach our life from a place of abundance instead of scarcity by tapping into the emotions we all have access to.  What is it that we feel like we truly want? A certain amount of money? A better marriage? And organized house? Kids who don’t sass?;) This episode is about tapping into the reserve of what we already have inside of us. By asking yourself some important questions about why you want any particular thing, you discover your true WHY. This discovery is a game changer because then, you can tap into that why at any time!  It is LIBERATING to realize that you have the capacity to feel anything you want. It’s like you are stoking up a fire—it is awesome! Then, you come at your goal without the desperation and scarcity that you might have had before. You come at it from a place of confidence. We share details of how to use this technique, and share examples of how we have used it in our own lives. Thanks for listening! We mention the book Thrive by Arianna Huffington. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Summer is here! This beautiful season can be exhausting. In today’s episode we are talking about simplifying in this season as well as some tips to find peace in less that ideal circumstances. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support