Relationship Alive!

How does the way that you communicate affect your ability to connect? Can you change your communication style to become more effective? We don’t all use language the same way - today, we see exactly how those differences play out in our interactions with the people we care about most. Our guest is Deborah Tannen, author of You Just Don’t Understand, the classic book on gender differences in communication. Her latest, You’re the Only One I Can Tell, is about the language of friendships between women.

Is it ever a good idea to snoop? Do you suspect that your partner is keeping secrets from you? Or are you being "snooped upon" and wondering what to do about it? How do you rebuild trust? In today's episode, we're going to dive deep on the topic of snooping, and secrets, in your relationship. What do you do if you feel like snooping is the only way to get information about what's going on with your partner? How do you rebuild openness and honesty in your relationship? I'll answer these questions and more.

The way that you think creates the way you feel. If you have great thoughts then no problem, but if your thoughts are a little distorted, then...look out! In today’s conversation we are going to show you how to identify the kinds of thoughts that lead to depression, anxiety, shame, anger, and self-doubt - and how to eliminate those thoughts for good. Our guest is Dr. David Burns, author of the acclaimed bestseller Feeling Good and one of the leading popularizers of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

How do you bring playfulness, laughs, and lightness into your relationship? And why is it so important? This is the second episode of our "Core Relationship Principles" series. Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin cover exactly why it's so important to foster the fun in your relationship, and to not take everything so seriously. We also cover how to jumpstart this energy in those moments when it seems to have disappeared. You'll have some practical strategies for having more fun in your relationship.

When you start a relationship, something special becomes possible, something unique that the world has never known before. However - how do you figure out what that “something special” is? And how can your love be a vehicle for actually helping us evolve? This episode is an invitation to you to step into an experience of “shared consciousness” - and our guest is Patricia Albere, founder of the Evolutionary Collective and author of Evolutionary Relationships: Unleashing the Power of Mutual Awakening.

Does Valentine's Day create pressure, or problems, for you? How do you get past the expectation and celebrate love - in your own way - without falling victim to the cliché? And also - on a separate but equally important note - how do you handle uncertainty, in your life, and in your relationship? In today's episode we're going to cover strategies for successfully navigating Valentine's Day - and we're also going to reveal our top 3 ways to deal with uncertainty, and transform it into something positive.

How do you build an indestructible relationship? It’s all about how you welcome the challenges, magnify the good times, and build a web of support. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, though - because the way to do those things wasn’t something that you were taught in school. In today’s episode, we welcome Jayson Gaddis, fellow relationship coach, founder of the Relationship School, and host of The Smart Couple podcast. Jayson shares some of his favorite ways to work smarter in your relationship

How do you embody masculinity in a way that creates more connection and passion in your relationship? How do you avoid the stereotypes? Is there even a point to talking about “masculine” vs. “feminine” (and if so, what is it?)? Today’s episode is a conversation with Shana James, men’s coach and host of the Man Alive podcast. We take apart the myths of what it means to be a “real man” - and explore how you can get beyond what you’re “supposed to” be.

One of the most important things that you can develop in your life, and in your relationship, is your resilience - the way that you bounce back from the challenges that life throws your way. How do you recover in a way that leaves you stronger, more connected, more inspired than before? In today’s episode, we’re talking with Dr. Peter Levine, author of Waking the Tiger. Peter and I show you how to build your own resiliency - and how to also help your partner, and your kids become more resilient as well.

What makes the difference between a mediocre relationship and an amazing one? Your principles. They help you navigate the tough times, and excel in the easy times. In this 1st episode of the series, Chloe and Neil talk about how to move away from the script of what you're "supposed to do" so that you can find the energy of what is actually happening in your relationship. They also discuss principle #1, which gives you a recipe for how to support your partner in a way that doesn't invite codependence.

When you’re in a “Yes” brain state, everything seems possible. When you’re in a “No” brain state it’s nearly impossible to learn, grow, or interact in a positive way with others. So how do you cultivate a “Yes” brain state? How do you teach the children in your life to recognize a “No” brain state - and show them how to shift back into a “Yes” brain? Today we’re talking with Dr. Dan Siegel, founder of interpersonal neurobiology and co-author (along with Tina Payne Bryson) of the

Does jealousy affect you in your relationship? Or has it impacted you in the past? One thing is for sure, jealousy has a destructive impact on any relationship, leaving both partners feeling unsafe and under attack. Whether you're getting jealous, or on the receiving end of your partner's jealousy - this episode will lead you through the steps of discovering what's really going on - and how to reconnect in a healthy way.

How do you separate fact from fiction when it comes to creating and sustaining sexual desire? In this episode of Relationship Alive, our special guest is Emily Nagoski, author of the New York Times bestseller "Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life." Emily Nagoski and I dispel some modern-day myths about sexuality, and then we reveal some of the new science to help you create more pleasure in your life. And, as Emily says, "Pleasure is the Measure!"

We're all empathic. What this means is that you can catch emotions and states-of-being like a cold. But if you don't know that what you're feeling isn't actually yours, just something you caught from someone else, then you could be in trouble. Wouldn't it be nice to know that your all-important feelings and beliefs actually come from within you, and represent your own truth? In this episode we're going to talk about the science of empathy, as well as two quick, powerful ways to keep yourself clear.

There are some fears that are inherent to being alive. They might be big, they might be small, but they definitely are there, within you. Two of these fears that are closely-related to each other are the fear of loneliness, and the fear of abandonment. How are they impacting you in your life? And how can you find your way through the fear, so that your decisions aren't impacted by it? We are going to dive deep into the fears of being alone, and of abandonment, so that the path to the other side is clear.