HealingLives with Corey Gilbert

Gilbert, C. (2019). I can't say that: Going beyond the talk: Equipping your children to make choices about gender and sexuality from a biblical sexual ethic.  In this episode, Dr. Gilbert addresses that we are not meant to live life alone, but that we are meant be involved in community so that we can be supported in our times of need and then in turn support others.  In Titus 2: 3-5, Paul encourages those that are older men and women to come alongside those younger than them and model how we are to live in this world.  Are you involved in a community of believers?  Do you have others that you can go to with your questions or for prayer?  Do others know that you care for them?  By being involved in an intentionally chosen community, you put others in place to speak into the life of your children and you are able to speak into the lives of others. When our children leave home, if we have simply used the years they had with us to "protect" them from the world, then they are not prepared to make choices from a Biblical sexual ethic when they are confronted with issues like sexting.  Our silence on these issues is deadly.  We need to be willing to enter into the difficult micro-conversations and disciple our children when they are still willing to listen to us.   We need to be honest about our mistakes and seek forgiveness when necessary.   George Barna's excellent book, Revolutionary Parenting, details the research he conducted and the conclusions he came to on the "secret" to raising children who were still walking with Christ as young adults.   Order my new book by clicking here:    www.drcoreygilbert.com/books   Join my Free Facebook group on Marriage, Family, Parenting, and all from a Biblical Worldview: https://www.healingmarriagecommunity.com/fbgroup  (The Healing Marriage Community) Courses, Coaching, & Speaking  www.HealingLives.com Podcast www.healinglivespodcast.com YouTube www.youtube.com/c/drcoreygilbert

Gilbert, C. (2019). I can't say that: Going beyond the talk: Equipping your children to make choices about gender and sexuality from a biblical sexual ethic.  TAKING INVENTORY  In this episode, Dr. Gilbert speaks to parents who are walking with their children through "normal" developmental issues as well as more complex issues such as gender, sexuality, and body issues.  Deuteronomy 6:6-7 instructs parents on the importance of having regular, consistent times of instruction with their children on the as they are going about the routine schedule of their day.  Much of this instruction will be planting seeds that take root as they listen to our words and observe our own behavior.  When the time comes for your children to make their own choices, will you have prepared them to make a decision from a biblical sexual ethic or will their decision come from what they have been taught by peers and the media they consume?   Parents, our children are watching us all the time and they are silently observing they way we relate to work, interact with other people, engage in a higher purpose, and take care of our physical and mental health.  We must first take inventory of where we are in relationship to these things so that we can be a model of consistency and integrity.   Your Health             Are you taking care of yourself?  Physically, mentally, emotionally?  Order my new book by clicking here:    www.drcoreygilbert.com/books    Join my Free Facebook group on Marriage, Family, Parenting, and all from a Biblical Worldview: https://www.healingmarriagecommunity.com/fbgroup  (The Healing Marriage Community) Courses, Coaching, & Speaking  www.HealingLives.com Podcast www.healinglivespodcast.com YouTube www.youtube.com/c/drcoreygilbert

In this episode, Dr. Gilbert outlines his new book and workbook that equips parents to learn and instill in others a Biblical Sexual Ethic.  Having "The Talk" with our children is often too little too late, but engaging in hundreds of micro-conversations can be life changing.     Gilbert, C. (2019). I can't say that: Going beyond the talk: Equipping your children to make choices about gender and sexuality from a biblical sexual ethic.  OUTLINE: Chapter 1 - Your Story: Taking InventoryWhy Is This Book Different? Why Do You Need This Book? My Promise To You Chapter 2 - Stop The Chain Of IgnoranceYou Are Not Alone The Change Begins With You The Student Has Become The Teacher! Chapter 3- Sex Ed For Parents A Theology Of SexA Theology Of MarriageLove, Sex, And NeuroscienceAnatomy Chapter 4 - Talking To Your Kids Birth To Age FiveKinder To Elementary Age (6–10)Middle School To High School (11–17) Chapter 5 - Questions About Gender, Homosexuality, And Same-Sex Attraction Gender QuestionsHomosexuality Same-Sex Attraction Chapter 6 - What My Child is Facing TodayPornography Bullying Influence And Idols Chapter 7 - Raising Sexually Healthy ChildrenIt Starts With You—The Parent Boundaries And ChoicesManaging Hurts, Failures And Disappointments Chapter 8 - Singleness, The “M” Word, And TraumaSingleness, Sexuality, And DatingThe “M” WordAddressing Past Trauma Chapter 9 - Building Your Personal EthosBuilding My Personal ETHOS I Have A Plan I Commit To Living By A Plan Chapter 10 - The Power And Importance Of Community Reminders And ChallengesCommunityWhat’s Next?       Go Beyond the Book with the WORKBOOK where you can benefit from a walkthrough of Scripture and the book "I Can't Say That!" to build YOUR Biblical Sexual Ethic and prepare to lead and teach your children intentionally and with a plan. Order my new book by clicking here:    www.drcoreygilbert.com/books   Join my Free Facebook group on Marriage, Family, Parenting, and all from a Biblical Worldview: https://www.healingmarriagecommunity.com/fbgroup  (The Healing Marriage Community) Courses, Coaching, & Speaking  www.HealingLives.com Podcast www.healinglivespodcast.com YouTube www.youtube.com/c/drcoreygilbert

Backstory I’m an Licensed Professional Counselor and college professor talking to young adults who are away from home for the first time As I spoke with college students I saw…. (what is going to connect to the heart of parents) Basically let us hear something about how they are hurting, lost, making bad choices. (Make us think this could be our kid) Desire External I wanted to see these students making choices that honored God and treated themselves and others as God’s beloved creatures External struggle - too much pain and only one of me - time constraints money….. Desire Internal Internal struggles - the realization that for most the sexual ethic was set long ago and it was a done deal - unless God …. but we have hope because God does often…. These conversations need to be had when younger Wall money is most often the barrier that kept students and their families from getting the help they need still time Epiphany membership site & mastermind - provide these resources, trainings, help to parents in one place at a price families can afford before their kids are grown Plan create resources parents, pastors, individuals can get training videos, links to helpful resources, and be a place to ask questions and get answers from a Christian professional for acute needs - counseling and coaching available Coach, Counsel, Community - to meet individual’s needs at a price they can afford and at level of need Conflict people not wanting to talk about these issues: -we’re putting ideas in their heads -too young -parents too uncomfortable -too controversial subject matter