The Durenda Wilson Podcast

Is your child struggling with whining, but you aren’t sure how to address it? Then we’re glad you’re joining us today as Ginger Hubbard talks about how parents can address whining from a heart-oriented, biblical perspective and teach their children to be better communicators.  We will be tackling questions like: How can parents help children understand the heart-issue behind whining and teach them to be better communicators? Can you identify some of those ineffective methods and talk about why they’re not beneficial? How would you address the issue differently with older children who whine? AND MORE! Ginger is the bestselling author of Don’t Make Me Count to Three, Wise Words for Moms, and I Can’t Believe You Just Said That. She speaks at women’s events, parenting conferences, and homeschool conventions across the country, and co-hosts the Parenting with Ginger Hubbard podcast. You can check out her parenting resources and find out when she’s speaking in or near your area at GingerHubbard.com.  (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)

One thing we can be sure of is that we will walk through trials. The question is how will we walk through them? So much of that is determined by what we believe about trials. Do trials serve a purpose or are they just there to irritate us? Do we simply see them as problems to be solved or is there more to consider? Today I'll be sharing what a trial is, how/why they come, what our response should be and why. (Hint: not easy, but simple) Scriptures, podcasts, and resources mentioned: Romans 12:7-11 1 Peter 1:6,7 Ephesians 6:10-17 James 1:2-4 Romans 8:1-4 Philippians 4:4-7 1 Corinthians 10:13 Listen to Nancy Leigh Wolgemuth on The Wonders of His Name: https://www.reviveourhearts.com/podcast/revive-our-hearts/season/wonder-his-name/ (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)  

Family life is a spiritual calling and involves spiritual warfare and often that warfare simply involves being faithful to our duties each day without wavering.  Discipline is one of those very important parental duties and requires discernment, fortitude, and perseverance to do well.   We live in a culture that doesn’t value children or the raising of children. God’s perspective is the polar opposite.  He tells us we are investing in eternal souls and not just those of our children, but our grandchildren and great-grandchildren and all those whose lives they touch. Let’s roll up our sleeves and get to work! Listen in for encouragement and some examples of practical discipline! Podcasts, scripture, and resources mentioned in the podcast: homeschoolingtoday.com Creating a Healthy Environment for Character Training: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/bb0fac96/creating-a-healthy-environment-for-character-growth-podcast-282 Let’s Talk About Discipline: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/ca27cfb2/lets-talk-about-discipline-podcast-290 Taming the ‘Tude in Your Kids: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c362e6a1/taming-the-tude-in-your-kids-podcast-288 Tomato Staking: A Relationship Based Parenting Tool: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c788594f/the-homeschool-life-tomato-staking-a-relationship-based-parenting-tool-podcast-163 Dealing with Disrespect in Our Kids: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c334d8f5/dealing-with-disrespect-in-our-kids-podcast-263 Retraining the Kid Who Thinks They Are in Charge: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/ba8a1b4b/tips-for-retraining-the-kid-who-thinks-they-are-in-charge-podcast-274 When Character Training Feels Like an Obstacle: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/1a8032c8/when-character-training-feels-like-an-obstacle-podcast-52 1 Samuel 2:12-35-The story of the disobedience of the sons of Eli 1 Samuel 3:11-14 Naming and knowing sin: https://www.gingerhubbard.com/collections/all/products/wise-words-for-moms (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)

This is another episode in a series that I’ve been doing where I share a bit of truth and the simple, unhurried word of God. The purpose is to give you a tool that helps you and your family to meditate on God’s word. You can listen as soon as you get up, before bed, if you’re feeling anxious, during quiet time with the kids, or having a hard time sleeping, whatever works for your family! I like to share some simple truths before we dive into the main topic verses. I’m trying to do it in a way that is easy for the kids to understand as well! Sometimes it’s hard to slow down. I know I love to be productive but meditating on God’s word IS productive, in the most important way!   (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)   One mom suggested including many of the passages in the show notes because her son likes to use them for copy work!   Hebrews 4:12,13  For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable.   Isaiah 55:10, 11   The rain and snow come down from the heavens     and stay on the ground to water the earth. They cause the grain to grow,     producing seed for the farmer     and bread for the hungry. It is the same with my word.     I send it out, and it always produces fruit. It will accomplish all I want it to,     and it will prosper everywhere I send it.   Joshua 1:8 Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.   Isaiah 26:3  You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you because he trusts in you.   Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.   Philippians 2:14 Do all things without grumbling or questioning, James 5:9 Do not grumble against one another, brothers, so that you may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing at the door. 1 Peter 4:9 Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.   Psalm 100:4-5 Enter His gates with thanksgiving And His courts with praise. Give thanks to Him, bless His name. For the Lord is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting And His faithfulness to all generations.   1 Chronicles 16:8 Oh give thanks to the Lord, call upon His name; Make known His deeds among the peoples.   2 Chronicles 3-4 All the sons of Israel, seeing the fire come down and the glory of the Lord upon the house, bowed down on the pavement with their faces to the ground, and they worshiped and gave praise to the Lord, saying, “Truly He is good, truly His lovingkindness is everlasting.” Ezra 3:10-11 Now when the builders had laid the foundation of the temple of the Lord, the priests stood in their apparel with trumpets, and the Levites, the sons of Asaph, with cymbals, to praise the Lord according to the directions of King David of Israel. They sang, praising and giving thanks to the Lord, saying, “For He is good, for His lovingkindness is upon Israel forever.” And all the people shouted with a great shout when they praised the Lord because the foundation of the house of the Lord was laid.   Psalm 68:19 Blessed be the Lord, who daily bears our burden, The God who is our salvation   Psalm 106:1 Praise the Lord! Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; For His lovingkindness is everlasting.   1 Thes

Today we're going to be talking about disciplining our kids! I’ll be talking about what biblical discipline is, why it's so important, and I'll be addressing the issue of mom-guilt. Next week, I’ll be talking about practical parenting in hopes that you will be able to catch a vision for what it might look like in your home! Podcasts, sermons, and links mentioned in this episode: Taming the 'Tude in Your Kids-https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c362e6a1/taming-the-tude-in-your-kids-podcast-288 A Call Home: The Biblical Importance of Family-https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c047db34/a-call-home-the-biblical-importance-of-family-podcast-279 Hindering Our Children Part 1: https://christchurchnc.org/sermons/2021-07-04-elder-wesley Hindering Our Children Part 2: https://christchurchnc.org/sermons/2021-07-11-elder-wesley Creating a Healthy Environment for Character Growth- https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/bb0fac96/creating-a-healthy-environment-for-character-growth-podcast-282 Let's Talk About Growing Character \https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/ac422ab0/lets-talk-about-growing-character-podcast-286 Got questions:https://www.gotquestions.org/raising-children.html) (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)      

Welcome to another episode of the Durenda W podcast. This episode is one in a series that I’m doing to help you and your family get to know God’s word and learn to meditate on it.  A mom suggested that I include the passages in the show notes because her son sometimes likes to write them out! (Copywork for the win!) Last week we focused on the sovereignty of God. One thing I have said over and over again is this: If God were sovereign but not good, we would be in really BIG trouble! But the fact is that HE IS GOOD. This can be challenging to remember when we are facing trials and afflictions, but even those, God promises to use for OUR GOOD…for the good of our souls. So let's see what God's word has to say about his goodness and meditate on that! The Lord, the Lord God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abounding in goodness and truth. Exodus 34:6 Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever. 1 Chronicles 16:34 And they sang responsively, praising and giving thanks to the Lord: “For He is good, for His mercy endures forever toward Israel.” Ezra 3:11 Good and upright is the Lord. Psalm 25:8 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. Psalm 23:6 The Lord is good to all, and His tender mercies are over all His works. Psalm 145:9 No one is good but One, that is, God. Mark 10:18 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning. James 1:17 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him! Matthew 7:11 I would have lost heart unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Psalm 27:13 I will meditate on the glorious splendor of Your majesty, and on Your wondrous works. Men shall speak of the might of Your awesome acts, and I will declare Your greatness. They shall utter the memory of Your great goodness, and shall sing of Your righteousness. Psalm 145:5-7 He loves righteousness and justice; the earth is full of the goodness of the Lord. Psalm 33:5 Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the man who trusts in Him! Psalm 34:8 Be thankful to Him, and bless His name. For the Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting. Psalm 100:4-5 Oh, that men would give thanks to the Lord for His goodness, and for His wonderful works to the children of men! For He satisfies the longing soul and fills the hungry soul with goodness. Psalm 107:8-9 As a father pities his children, so the Lord pities those who fear Him. For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust. Psalm 103:13-14 Teach me to do Your will, for You are my God; Your Spirit is good. Lead me in the land of uprightness. Psalm 143:10 The Lord is upright; He is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in Him. Psalm 92:15 You are good, and do good; teach me Your statutes. Psalm 119:68 You also gave Your good Spirit to instruct them, and did not withhold Your manna from their mouth, and gave them water for their thirst. Nehemiah 9:20 Hear me, O Lord, for Your lovingkindness is good; turn to me according to the multitude of Your tender mercies. Psalm 69:16 The Lord is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble; and He knows those who trust in Him. Nahum 1:7 Oh, how great is Your goodness, which You have laid up for those who fear You, which You have prepared for those who trust in You in the presence of the sons of men! You shall hide them in the secret place of Your presence from the plots of man; You shall keep them secretly in a pavilion from the strife of tongues. Psalm 31:19-20 Unhurried Grace for a Mom's Heart Devotional:https://www.amazon.com/Unhurried-Grace-Moms-Heart-Days/dp/1983403962/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3QTJ8PZXRR5L6&keywords=unhurried+grace+for+a+mom%27s+heart&qid=1645201004&sprefix=Unhurried+G%2Caps%2C132&sr=8

I frequently get questions from moms and recently I received an email with some concerns a mom had about her 9-year-old son who is giving her and her husband a lot of grief. So today I’m going to dive into her concerns and questions and I think you’re going to find a lot of encouragement here! Next week I will continue the conversation about child training and discipline because the truth is that unless we are really engaging that part of our role in our kids' lives, we will find our homeschooling journey much, much more difficult. It really can make all the difference! By training and teaching our kids what God thinks about everything, we are giving them a biblical worldview and helping them get to know who God is so that they can learn to hear his voice when he speaks to them. So whatever situations they are in throughout their lives they can stop and ask “How would God want me to respond to this?” and they’ll know the answer because they know their God! Podcasts on Discipline Why Discipline? https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/3acc1f6e/why-discipline-podcast-65 6 Discipline Mistakes Parents Make https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/af6560eb/on-the-porch-6-discipline-mistakes-parents-make-podcast-189 Homeschooling: Be the Parent https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c1b2508b/homeschooling-be-the-parent-podcast-221 Tomato Staking: A Relationship-Based Parenting Tool https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c788594f/the-homeschool-life-tomato-staking-a-relationship-based-parenting-tool-podcast-163 Recommended Book: Parenting by Paul David Tripp Check out Homeschooling today: homeschoolingtoday.com (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)

Last week I tried something a little new. I did an episode that included me reading the word of God slowly and quietly. The purpose of this was to encourage you and your family to slow down and get to know your God by meditating on His word. We cannot live authentically as Christians if we do not know the truth about our God and we get to know Him by reading and studying His word. We make decisions every day both big and small based on what we believe about Him so it’s imperative that we actually know who He REALLY is. Every day brings challenges, frustrations, and disappointments. It's part of living on this earth. So when those situations arise, we can ask ourselves, “How does God want me to respond to this?” and we will know the answer because we KNOW Him. The things that are happening in the world are unsettling, but the truth is that unsettling things have been happening for thousands of years. As believers, we are called to respond in sincere faith and that requires us to be continually reminded that yes, God IS in control. For that reason, today we are going to meditate on the sovereignty of God! (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)

A few episodes ago I started the conversation about growing character in our kids. I shared how we as moms have a responsibility to encourage our kids to grow in character by creating an environment that will foster that. (Here it is if you missed it: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/bb0fac96/creating-a-healthy-environment-for-character-growth-podcast-282) Today I’m getting into the nitty-gritty of character growth: What it is, why it’s important, how we do it and when we do it.  Then I will conclude this episode by answering a question I got from a mom about the issue of sharing.  This episode ran longer than I expected, but I think you'll find some helpful tips and grow in your understanding of how to walk this out! It's a worthwhile investment for sure! Resources mentioned in this episode: Homeschooling Today Magazine: homeschoolingtoday.com Deuteronomy 6:1-9  Tomato Staking: A Relationship-Based Parenting Tool https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c788594f/the-homeschool-life-tomato-staking-a-relationship-based-parenting-tool-podcast-163 When Character Training Feels Like an Obstacle (https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/1a8032c8/when-character-training-feels-like-an-obstacle-podcast-52) Creating a Healthy Environment for Character Growth https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/bb0fac96/creating-a-healthy-environment-for-character-growth-podcast-282   (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)

Every mom struggles with anxiety to one degree or another. There are countless resources we can turn to and some of them can be useful tools that God gives to help us. However, Proverbs 3:7, 8 warns us to not be wise in our own eyes, but to fear God and shun evil which means we go to Him FIRST and care more about what He has to say than anyone else. Then it goes on to say that this will be “health to our bodies and nourishment to our bones.”  God’s word is timeless, it’s free, it’s living and active and able to transform us from the inside out.  I’m excited about today’s podcast because God has had me on an intense course (once again) of simplifying and slowing down. I’ve been struggling with some physical changes that are part of this season of life. This has also included some ongoing struggles with anxiety. One of the things that have been most helpful is practicing contentment through being still and listening to God’s word being spoken very slowly. This has helped me bring my mind and body into alignment with the truths of God’s word. I will share some important reminders about what God has to say about the power of His word and what it’s capable of and then I will read Psalm 1 to you slowly. You can use this to help you fall asleep at night or help you get back to sleep if you wake during the night. You can use it as a morning meditation before you even get out of bed. If the kids are out of sorts, call them together and have them lay quietly in the same room with you as you play this for them. If they are having trouble getting to sleep or feeling anxious, play it before bed or use it as a bedtime ritual. After enough listens, you and your kids will have it memorized! I'd love to hear if you'd like me to do more of these using other passages and topic-related scriptures that address things like fear, anxiety, faith, etc. (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)  

Sometimes our kids say things that feel like a punch in the gut and kick our fear/guilt response into high gear. The reality is that there could be a serious character issue that needs to be dealt with in them and other times they are just being foolish like children often are.  Make no mistake, God is working in these situations. The key is to take the time to see what He's doing and cooperate with that work. Whether the work is more in us or in them is worth taking the time to discover. Last week I mentioned that birthdays, holidays, and special occasions can bring to light certain negative behaviors in our kids that need to be addressed. Today I want to talk about dealing with a pessimistic, ungrateful child and some simple ways to address that. PLEASE CHECK OUT THE FOUR HOUR SCHOOL DAY ON AMAZON, YOUR FAVORITE BOOKSELLER OR DURENDAWILSON.COM

(I encourage you to grab your teen or graduated daughters to listen in!) This is the second episode that we are talking about that season when our daughters have graduated, but aren't yet married. Johanna, our 19-year-old, graduated in 2019 and chose not to go to college. She is joining me for both episodes to share her story and what she has learned. Our family has never been ashamed of the fact that we highly value the role of being wives and moms because God clearly does. We believe that God has placed that nurturing nature into women intentionally and that it is a great gift. It's also in our nature to want to be loved by a man. There is nothing wrong with that, but how do we honor those desires in our daughters while encouraging them to be fruitful during this season of being unmarried. Once they have graduated, then what? Does God have a plan and a purpose for that season? How does the church view unmarried women? How does the culture view unmarried women? Is being unmarried a gift or an affliction?  Johanna also has a podcast for young girls that she co-hosts with Julia, my daughter-in-law, called Jules and Jo so if you have daughters, please go check it out! https://open.spotify.com/show/5bUzn8arfTumoFE7QswakM?si=1ed41bcca523409f Resources: Homeschooling Today Magazine: https://homeschoolingtoday.com/ A good study Bible (One of our favorites is the New Living Translation Illustrated Study Bible. The translation isn't as precise because it communicates more in ideas and less in literal translation but if you are fairly new to studying the word, it's a great start as it's easy to understand and the study notes and devotionals are awesome!) Bible studies from The Daily Grace Co Femina Podcast with Nancy Wilson  Learning Contentment: A Study for Ladies of Every Age by Nancy Wilson Single and Satisfied: A Grace-Filled Calling for the Unmarried Woman by Nancy Wilson Listen in and share with your friends! (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)

(I encourage you to grab your teen or graduated daughters to listen in!) In this episode and the next, I'll be veering a bit off of my usual topics to talk about that season when our daughters have graduated, but aren't yet married. Johanna, our 19-year-old, graduated in 2019 and chose not to go to college. She is joining me for both episodes to share her story and what she has learned. Our family has never been ashamed of the fact that we highly value the role of being wives and moms because God clearly does. We believe that God has placed that nurturing nature into women intentionally and that it is a great gift. It's also in our nature to want to be loved by a man. There is nothing wrong with that, but how do we honor those desires in our daughters while encouraging them to be fruitful during this season of being unmarried. Once they have graduated, then what? Does God have a plan and a purpose for that season? How does the church view unmarried women? How does the culture view unmarried women? Is being unmarried a gift or an affliction?  Johanna also has a podcast for young girls that she co-hosts with Julia, my daughter-in-law, called Jules and Jo so if you have daughters, please go check it out! https://open.spotify.com/show/5bUzn8arfTumoFE7QswakM?si=1ed41bcca523409f Resources: A good study Bible (One of our favorites is the New Living Translation Illustrated Study Bible. The translation isn't as precise because it communicates more in ideas and less in literal translation but if you are fairly new to studying the word, it's a great start as it's easy to understand and the study notes and devotionals are awesome!) Bible studies from The Daily Grace Co Femina Podcast with Nancy Wilson  Learning Contentment: A Study for Ladies of Every Age by Nancy Wilson Single and Satisfied: A Grace-Filled Calling for the Unmarried Woman   Listen in and share with your friends! (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)                    

Lately, I’ve been sharing a lot about the importance of fully engaging in our roles as parents. I wanted to talk about character building today, but I realized that before I do that, it’s really important to understand that we as moms have a responsibility to create an environment for our kids that is conducive to growing their character.  Listen in, be encouraged, and share with a friend! Podcast and links mentioned: Homeschooling Today Magazine:  https://homeschoolingtoday.com/ https://www.familyeducation.com/how-to-determine-your-childs-love-language  https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/cc187bbd/growing-healthy-families-ways-to-build-your-familys-immune-system-podcast-123 Also, here's a favorite website of mine that has simple, clean eating recipes https://www.thegraciouspantry.com/ (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)        

Now more than ever parents are seeing the need to raise strong children.  As believers, we don’t just want our children to be strong in themselves, but strong in the Lord so that they can thrive in spite of what kind of pressure the culture might want to put on them to concede to secularism. In order for this to happen, it is imperative that we are intentional in our role as parents because, as we heard in last week’s episode, it's one of our primary mandates from God! Our obedience in this area has the potential to affect our culture in a big way! “The Lord your God will change your heart and the hearts of all your descendants so that you will love him with all your heart and soul and so you may live!" -Deut. 30:6  Listen in, be encouraged, and share with a friend! Homeschooling Today Magazine: https://homeschoolingtoday.com/ Related podcasts mentioned: https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/bbcf7598/guarding-against-deceptive-narratives-podcast-277 https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c047db34/a-call-home-the-biblical-importance-of-family-podcast-279 https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/c1b2508b/homeschooling-be-the-parent-podcast-221 https://www.durendawilson.com/podcast/episode/3acc1f6e/why-discipline-podcast-65 (Please check out my latest book, The Four Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life on Amazon, durendawilson.com, or your favorite bookseller!)