Sex Afflictions & Porn Addictions with Craig Perra (sex addiction, porn addiction, sexual health)

There is really only one cure for your condition. I firmly believe this is it.

Three adult film actresses have accused porn’s golden boy – James Deen – of sexual assault and rape. This is significant because of the status Deen held in the porn industry and in mainstream media. He’s been called the “darling” of an industry that is now turning on him.Ex-Adult Actress Jessie Rogers talked about her sexual assault at the hands of a veteran male performer - He just slapped me … and I fell and my ears were ringing because he slapped me so hard. He starting banging my head on the floor, and my face started bleeding … he kept beating me basically … he choked me out twice to the point of passing out … making me look at myself with blood all over my face … he spit on his hand and put the spit all over my face … and continued to fuck me like that … he put my head inside of his toilet … every time I tried to come up for air he would not allow me to come up for air … I thought I was going to die.“

In this episode we talk to a brave young woman impacted by porn and she shares her journey to healing and the impact that it had on her.

Craig and Michelle talk about the techniques that moved them forward individually and together the fastest. The cure for a crappy life is action and in this podcast they provide you with a framework for taking more of it.And here's the link to us on Katie Couric - thanks for your love and support - http://youtu.be/NNEd45hReWA

One thing we have learned from our own lives and from working with others is that you must take action every day.That’s what this podcast is about: ACTION. It’s about actually doing something to improve your plight. In this podcast we share lots of powerful tips, teachings, and exercises that you can use right now to improve your relationship immediately.Like everything else in life, a great relationship takes work. Many of us believe that a successful partnership should be easy and shouldn’t require a lot of effort. This way of thinking is simply wrong. It doesn’t make sense in any other area of our lives—from working at our jobs to raising our children to pursuing our creative endeavors—and it doesn’t make sense here.In this podcast we talk about Michelle and Craig's eBook. 5 Tips to Change Your Relationship Now. I know it might sound cheesy but it's true. The reality is you've lost sight of the small but important things in your relationship. Click here if you want a free copy - http://theconnectioncoaches.com/couples-coaching/5-tips/

Craig Perra used to run a website about sex and porn addiction news called The Vicereport. He had a podcast and "I had the opportunity to interview Dr. David Ley and George Collins in what I thought would be a cage match between these two titans about whether sex addiction is real" says Craig. Dr. Ley authored the controversial book called the Myth of Sex Addiction, and George Collins, a former sex addict wrote Breaking the Cycle, Free Yourself From Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession and Shame.Dr. Ley also penned an article in the NY Post also entitled "Myth of Sex Addiction" blasting the sex addiction diagnosis and stating, "sex addiction is nothing more than a pop-psychology phenomenon, serving only to demonize sex, enforce moral views of sex and relationship and excuse irresponsible behaviors." George Collins fired back with two articles of his own, the first one entitled "Sex Addiction is Not a Myth" and the second, demanding personally that Dr. Ley "Stop Mocking Sex Addicts."Things get heated at times in this interview especially when George Collins, tells Dr. Ley his sex addiction bashing is hurting those suffering. Dr. Ley responds that there is no scientific evidence supporting an addiction label for compulsive sex, in fact it's bad for the client and society.

In this episode, Craig and Michelle share why they do what they do - a question they had to ask themselves when the recently appeared on the Katie Couric Show. They talk about their future plans and beg you, their awesome listeners to email them your questions for future shows at craig@theconnectioncoaches.com or Michelle@theconnectioncoaches.com

Craig and MIchelle are thrilled to be back to share with you some solid recovery tips and our new partnership with Feed the Right Wolf (http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/). We talk about a recent study that concludes that using the phrase "I don't" vs. "I can't" to talk about avoiding negative behaviors. Can you guess which phrase produces the most success? Craig and MIchelle also tackle the age old question about whether someone in recovery should watch sexually charged cable TV shows? Craig helps empower the men to enhance their quest for sanity AND bring more safety into the relationship.

Holidays can wreak havoc on your sanity . . . Listen and learn how to use the 3 A's: Awareness, Accountibility, and Action to master the holiday madness and come out the other side closer and more connected to your significant other. We promised ourselves that we would not delete or interrupt an episode even if we screwed so this episode fits into that category . . . . we had fun and found our groove but like the holidays, everthing is not going to come out as planned. We've committed to moving forward either way and you can do.

The big fat elephant in the room . . . . SEX during the healing journey from infidelity and compulsive sexual behavior. Craig and Michelle talking about separating sex and intimacy and focusing on building intimacy and creating the safety to make it happen. If you can breath, see, and hug, you can do the easy but powerful exercise that you can do even in the early stages of healing. We are also starting a couple's workshop to help couple's deal with the insanity of recovery and help you rebuild your relationship and develop the intimacy that you WANT! Here is the link: http://compulsionsolutions.com/groups/ Check it out! Schedule Show introduction: 02:05 Kick Ass Recovery Song: 03:00 Sex in Sex Addiction Recovery 10:00 4 Aspects for Creating Intimacy 19:00 Sex Addiction in the News 33:00 Couple's Recovery Tip of the Week 43:00 Miskhka's Moment of Zen 50:00

In this episode we talk about the beauty of CHANGE and looking at it differently when we are faced with a crisis. When you are in a crisis ... when the pieces of your life are thrown all over the place ... this gives you a HUGE opportunity to see things differently and to see what wasn't working in your life. Embracing this opportunity and opening up to the beauty of what change can provide you is a huge step in the recovery process. If you can look at the crisis in a NEW way, crisis can help you create that change or direction that you so needed in your life! Our recovery song of the week is Katy Perra - Part of Me. She knows what it is like to be with a man who deals with many addictions (including sex) and this song is pretty kick ass for everyone! Hope you enjoy this week's show ... don't forget to listen to sex addiction in the news, our recovery tip of the week and (my favorite) Mishka's Moment of Zen. Send us your comments, recovery songs or thoughts!!!!

Craig and Michelle (aka Ed and Mishka) kicked ass at the National Sex Addiction Conference and they share their sage learnings with you along with tips on how to use your triggers as opportunities. Can you transform the way you look at them so they can help you? Tune in to find out. Our recovery song of the week is a lil slow dancing from Shania Twain, You're Still the One and Craig serves up some solid advice for the guys to woo the woman who's loving and supporting him through this mess, um, we mean opportunity. We throw a little Bruce Lee wisdom at ya and give you three simple tips to get your life back on track. The Compulsion Coaches, Craig and Michelle PS - email us your recovery song of the week

Do you feel shame? Is it a big part of your pain? Embarrassed of your current plight? Can't tell you friends and family? It's about damn time you stopped feeding the shame cycle. We get you started. Learn what it is and how to stop it. Embrace your power and use the worst thing that every happened to you as a source of strength.

Craig and Mishka dish some great stuff about the role safety plays in recovering infidelity and how to use this as a growth opportunity. They ask who is "The Man I Want To Be" . . . . it's our song of the week by Chris Young. In the news, we have yet again . . . Porn and politics!!! They meet again at the Republican National Convention

Motivation - it's like water, we need it every day. What motivates you. Mishka and Craig talk about what kicks them in the ass to stay focused on their dreams; throws a shout out to new blogger sawifeca.blogspot.com Awesome Stuff (0:00) New Blogger Shot-out (7:30) Eat My Scabs (7:30) The Albatross (10:15) Recovery Song that Rocks (12:30) I Want it All (Queen) Motivation (20:40) Ruuuuuuuuuuudy (21:00) Mishka is Motivating (23:00) We Are In Space (29:28) PTSD (42:30) Sex Addiction in the News (44:00)