Ep38 Losing a Parent to Cancer and 5 Stages of Grief and Loss with Aspen Drake

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Summary: Aspen Drake, host of the podcast Loss For Words, joins Tony to talk about her experiences in dealing with the loss of her mother, Amanda, to cancer, while she was in college, being the oldest of 4 siblings and her feeling the need to be a family leader during that time. She also discusses how the grieving process differs for everyone, and despite what many people hear during this difficult time, there truly is no absolutely correct way to grieve. Aspen also gives some background on the 5 Stages of Grief and Loss, a concept originally developed by Elizabeth Kubler Ross. Ross initially developed the 5 Stages as a non-evidence-based guide for dealing with grief and loss, but, much to Ross’s frustration, it was immediately used by many to say that if the 5 stages weren't being followed linearly, when someone isn’t following the exact path of the 5 stages (which Ross never intended to be something that HAD to be followed exactly) that they were grieving "wrong." You can find Loss For Words on iTunes/Apple Podcast app or wherever you get your podcasts. The video of this interview is linked to Tony's Facebook page, https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft/ or on his Vimeo page https://vimeo.com/thepathback This episode is brought to you by Bloom for Women, Bloom offers online programs, expert help, and an empathetic community to help women heal, strengthen, and grow past the trauma of infidelity and betrayal whether it be betrayal from a spouse who has a pornography or sex addiction, or from the emotional betrayal of an affair. Please visit https://www.bloomforwomen.com/ref/virtualcouch and use coupon code virtualcouch for one month of free access to their evidence-based programs, and community designed to help heal, and recover from betrayal trauma. This episode is also brought to you by the fine folks at Eli’s Extracts all-natural, organic shave cream, visit http://elis-extracts.com and use coupon code “virtualcouch” for 25% off of your entire order of their all-natural, organic shave creams scented with essential oils. And please visit http://pathbackrecovery.com Tony's online pornography addiction recovery program for his ebook about the 5 mistakes people make when trying to rid themselves from pornography addiction.