The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

We all find our soulmate, are successful in our chosen field, fulfill our dreams, and live happily ever after, right? No so much. Occasionally life is a bed of roses, but often it’s a briar patch. What to do when life inevitably lets you down? Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to deal with life’s disappointments. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

The #metoo movement has shed much-needed light on sexual assault and harassment. But sexual abuse of another kind remains hidden even today. In the United States, it is estimated that 1 in 6 men was sexually abused as a child, which means that in the U.S. alone, more than 25 million men are survivors, living with and trying to heal from the effects of childhood sexual abuse. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and comedian Paul Gilmartin discuss the myths shrouding sexual abuse and how survivors can start to heal. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-hidden-epidemic-of-childhood-sexual-abuse-of-boys Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Comparing yourself to others inevitably leads you to feel bad about yourself. Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers 5 ways to stop pining for that greener grass. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-with-these-5-tips Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Almost everybody struggles with it. But no one talks about it. What is it? How to discreetly sniff your own armpits in public? How not to buy the free sample after you just ate three of them? Not quite; it’s the mysterious process of making friends as an adult. This week, in a twist on the usual episode, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen presents an audio excerpt from her debut book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Usually, awkwardness gets thrown around as a personality trait,as in, "I hate parties because I'm so awkward." Or, "I have a hard time meeting new people because I'm awkward." But this week, This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen discovers that Melissa Dahl, journalist and author of Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, looks at awkwardness in a different way: as an emotion. And that’s a feeling we can all relate to, whether we’re Sheldon Cooper, Michael Scott, or you or me. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

The recent tragedy of Robin Williams's suicide—and the ensuing media storm—raised awareness of suicide as a mental health issue, but also generated a lot of misinformation. This week, the Savvy Psychologist cleans up after the headlines. Read the transcript: http://bit.ly/1u8Rnmi

They may not be lions and tigers and bears, but they are dogs and cats and bunnies, not to mention all sorts of other critters. Who are they? Emotional Support Animals, and they’re becoming more and more common on planes, in college dorms, in restaurants, and elsewhere in public life. This week, by request from an anonymous listener, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen explains what exactly emotional support animals are, and whether or not you really have to sit next to one at your favorite restaurant. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/2e5UZDK

Heartbreak hurts, plus it affects our judgment. Suddenly, driving by our ex’s house “just to see,” posting overwrought poetry on our blog, and a six-pack nightcap all seem like good ideas. Is there a quicker and healthier way to make it through the heartache? Fear not. This week, by request from listener Thy, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen tackles 4 ways to heal a broken heart. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/4-ways-to-heal-your-broken-heart Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

The introvert revolution has revolutionized how we view our personalities. But lifting up introverts has had unintentional side effects for extroverts, too often painting them as mouth-breathing party animals dancing on the bar. Is it true that extroverts have shallow relationships and draw energy from others like a vampire? Not so fast. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen concludes our two-part series by busting 4 myths of extroversion. Read the full transcript at Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

To celebrate our 200th episode, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen gives a much needed makeover to 5 pieces of classic happiness advice. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/the-science-behind-5-classic-happiness-clich-s Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

Some myths about introverts and extroverts stick around longer than gum on a city sidewalk: introverts are people-haters. Extroverts won’t shut up. Introverts are neurotic. Extroverts are shallow. Therefore, in this two-part series, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen dismantles the stereotypes. First up: three myths about introverts. Read the full transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/busting-3-persistent-myths-about-introverts Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist On Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety: http://EllenHendriksen.com

“I should probably get back to work,” we say, as we scroll through our Facebook page from 2012 or plan our wedding while still single. We all procrastinate, even at times we know better. How to stop? This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen offers reasons we procrastinate, plus how to get back on task (right after this movie trailer on YouTube). Read the full transcript of Why We Procrastinate and 5 Ways to Stop Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF On Facebook On Twitter Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety

From a wet diaper to a skinned knee to a broken heart, our reasons for crying evolve as we grow. But as adults, sometimes the waterworks start for no apparent reason, or in an inconvenient place (during a work meeting, anyone?) This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen questions everything we know about crying, reveals why we sometimes burst into tears at seemingly random times, and offers 3 ways to stop. Except maybe while reading The Velveteen Rabbit. There, you’re on your own. Read the transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-hold-back-tears-and-not-cry Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety at: EllenHendriksen.com

As a family member, encouraging a loved one to seek mental health treatment is one of the thinnest tightropes we can walk. The stakes are high, the subject is touchy, and years of stressful family dynamics inevitably come into play. What to do? This week, by request from an anonymous listener, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen gets some great advice from mental health advocate Gabe Howard about a family member’s role in a loved one’s mental health recovery. Read the transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-help-a-loved-one-suffering-from-mental-illness Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety at: EllenHendriksen.com

Studies show people who forgive have less depression, use less medicine, have more energy, and are more satisfied with life. All that sounds appealing, but forgiveness can be hard, especially when a transgressor doesn’t apologize. This week, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen weighs in on how to let go of old hurts. Read the transcript at https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/5-ways-to-forgive-people-even-those-who-don-t-apologize Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW SAVVY PSYCHOLOGIST Order Ellen's book HOW TO BE YOURSELF: https://us.macmillan.com/howtobeyourself/ellenhendriksen/9781250161703/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist Twitter: https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych Download free, science-backed resources to fight social anxiety at: EllenHendriksen.com