Beat Your Genes Podcast

You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying.  Last episode, we went over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. This show, we'll get to all the listener comments and questions about how to make yourself more attractive. Join Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modern world with what you've got.  A show where you''ll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, lasting happiness.  We are live every Wednesday at 7:30-8:30pm PST. Callers are welcome to call in at (657) 383-0751 at that time with any questions no matter how "simple" or "basic" you think it is - We'd love to chat with you.

You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying.  In tonight's episode, we will go over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.   Join Nate G and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modren world with what you've got.  A show where you''ll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, lasting happiness.  We are live every Wednesday at 7:30-8:30pm PST. Callers are welcome to call in at (657) 383-0751 at that time with any questions no matter how "simple" or "basic" you think it is - We'd love to chat with you.      

We'll be following up from last week's episode on the same topic.  Callers welcome.  We are live Wednesdays at 7:30-8:30pm PST.   If you've always wanted to talk to a psychologist about something, we are happy to take the call no matter how "simple" or "basic" you think the question is.      

This is a follow-up to last week's episode.. We will be going over more common mistakes that we all make in the mating dance that is dating.   ************************ Callers are welcome to call in this episode 657-383-0751 You can ask Dr. Lisle a question about a personal issue or just call in to comment on something ***********************   If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way.  This is a double-edged sword.  On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness.  We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and relationships.  In this episode we discuss how we can optimize happiness in this area by beating our genes. 

If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way.  This is a double-edged sword.  On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness.  We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and relationships.  In this episode we discuss how we can optimize happiness in this area by beating our genes.   

Ever have a pushy friend that's trying to get you to do something you don't want to?   It may seem like the only way to get them to understand "no" is to be rude or leave.   In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD discusses how to get along without going along.  For a variety of scenarios it is in our best interest to get along with our friends, family members, and co-workers.  However, that does not mean that we have to just do everything they want us to.   Learn some unique tips and tricks for staying firm but remaining pleasant. 

We will be discussing personality diffferences and what role they play in different life circumstances.  For example, if you ever had to hire an attorney to defend you, you would want them to be a generally argumentative person.  If you had to hire an accountant, you'd want them to be very detail-oriented.  Similarly, if you are a naturally passionate and highly extraverted person, sitting at a desk job in your own cubicle all day long can be miserable even if it's a great job.  How can you meet these challenges while staying true to who you are?   

We discuss the biological difference between men and women, how this translates into modern society.    

Where do political views come from?  As you will hear, Dr Lisle explains that political differences evolved from our basic need to optimize the survival of the stone age village.  This results in a natural split of political views that essentially desire to either "share more" or "share less".  

More discussion about the concept of "Beating Your Genes"

As Dr. Lisle discusses the purpose of psychology, we begin with a discussion of thoughts, feelings, and behavior.    Some philosophers believe that we can think one thing and then feel something completely different but Dr. Lisle explains these seemingly conflicting thoughts & feelings explains how this relates to stress.  We continue on to discuss different models of psychology and some of the limits of learning theory.  For example,  do we learn our emotions during childhood?     Dr. Lisle discusses an example of a common "beat your genes" trap for women nowadays of staying with a man who's not right for her.    We continue on this topic for the remainder of the show and Dr. Lisle begins the explanation about differing mating strategies. 

Motivation and expectations are supposed to go hand-in-hand.  The idea being - if you're expected to achieve a goal, your motivation kicks in to meet these expectations.  In this episode, Dr. Lisle goes over a concept called The Ego Trap.  Which is the trap we may find ourselves in if the expectations of our performance exceeds what we think we can reasonably accomplish.  Nate G asks Dr. Lisle to describe this trap, how this process works, why it works the way it does, and how to effectively overcome it. 

What does "self-esteem" actually mean?  In this episode, Dr. Lisle goes over the history of the study of self-esteem.  Then he explains his own discoveries of  esteem processes including self-esteem. As it turns out, nobody can give you "self-esteem".  Dr. Lisle explains that self-esteem is quite literally esteem of your self, so it is how you view yourself.  So, what's called "low self-esteem" or "high self-esteem" is entirely based on how you view yourself.  However, this view is not easily changed, as Dr. Lisle describes a concept called the "internal audience" - a sort of social meter sitting inside your mind that views your own behavior & effort in context with expectations.   When you impress your 'internal audience' through diligent effort, you feel higher self-esteem.  In this episode, Dr. Lisle describes what you can do to impress your internal audience and therefore improve your self-esteem.  

In this interview, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD, psychologist with over 30 years experience discusses some of his most important findings regarding health, happiness, and everything in between.   Dr. Doug talks about some important findings that suggest that the purpose of life (biologically) is quite simple - to spread our own genes and ensure their survival into the next few generations.  Because of this, our entire biology, physiology, and psychology is built around this goal.  It's been like this for the entire history of our species and we have survived in nature due to this goal.  All of a sudden, comes the modern environment of convenience and innovation in an incredibly short time frame.  With this new environment comes a new set of challenges that our brains were never designed to solve.  As a result, people may end up chasing happiness in all the wrong ways.   Dr. Doug will discuss a novel approach to find your path to happiness.   

In our very first episode, Nate G talks with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD about the purpose of life, happiness vs. pleasure, and the psychological mechanisms that guide our behavior.    Dr. Lisle talks about some important findings that suggest that the purpose of life (biologically) is quite simple - to spread our own genes and ensure their survival into the next few generations.  Because of this, our entire biology, physiology, and psychology is built around this goal.  It's been like this for the entire history of our species and we have survived in nature due to this goal.  All of a sudden, comes the modern environment of convenience and innovation in an incredibly short time frame.  With this new environment comes a new set of challenges that our brains were never designed to solve. In this podcast and in future episodes, Dr. Lisle methodically describes what role the mind and, therefore, our behavior plays in our life experience and satisfaction.