Thriving at Sixty and Beyond

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? When you do or give something to someone what is your motivation.  If you are doing so to get something back are you clear with the people involved that is what you are doing?  Do you, give them an opportunity to except or decline.  If I sense that someone is doing something for me because they want something back I ask them.  If I am not comfortable with what is expected of me  I respectfully thank them and then decline their offer.  Do you accept and then resent what is expected of you?  Take a look do you give freely or with motivation? Be honest, this is a boundary that needs to be respected to have any freedom in life. .Did you know their are ten main laws of Boundaries?  . Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us.   DID you or do you allow your children to say no and have the no be respected?  Or did you shame or guilt them? Allowing and respecting a child’s NO allows them to grow u[p with healthy boundaries.  You can respect there no and not necessary give in to them.  You can give them a choice.  You can say no to not eating supper and if you don’t eat supper you don’t get desert,  you choose.  They get their No is respected and their is a consequence TO OUR Choices.  When children get they can say no without punishment they get  to choose not be told what to do.  Then when they are 11 or older and older kids are pushing them to do drugs, they don’t feel pressured into doing what they have been educated not to, they get to choose and face consequences of choice. If their No’s are not respected they can give in because of fear of losing love.  CHILDREN HAVE VALUES, THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM US. Respect that.   As we raise our children,  are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don’t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Can you respect others boundaries?  I’m not saying you have to like them, and can you respect them like you want them to respect yours.  At work the boss doesn’t want you using your phone or your personal email.  Do you follow that or use your phone and personal email anyway.  When someone says don’t call in working hrs. unless its an emergency can you follow and respect that?  When your children or siblings or other family members or friends ask you not to do certain things can you restrain from doing them and respect what they are asking?  If you are unwilling can you tell them that and why and face the consequences without making them wrong?   Can you set boundaries and then follow through with the consequences if they are not followed?  That is respecting oneself! .Did you know their are ten main laws of Boundaries?  . Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us.   DID you or do you allow your children to say no and have the no be respected?  Or did you shame or guilt them? Allowing and respecting a child’s NO allows them to grow u[p with healthy boundaries.  You can respect there no and not necessary give in to them.  You can give them a choice.  You can say no to not eating supper and if you don’t eat supper you don’t get desert,  you choose.  They get their No is respected and their is a consequence TO OUR Choices.  When children get they can say no without punishment they get  to choose not be told what to do.  Then when they are 11 or older and older kids are pushing them to do drugs, they don’t feel pressured into doing what they have been educated not to, they get to choose and face consequences of choice. If their No’s are not respected they can give in because of fear of losing love.  CHILDREN HAVE VALUES, THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM US. Respect that.   As we raise our children,  are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don’t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and ...

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Are you noticing that you are angry and resentful with certain people or situations repeatedly?  Where does it seem like you are powerless over  someone’s behavior?  Are you reacting to someone’s behavior or someone? What are you reacting to? Is this reaction a habitual pattern of behavior  when people around you are a certain way?  Whats the impact on others when you react?  Whats the impact on yourself?  Maybe you take things too personal or you yell or withdraw when you are hurt.  Maybe you pay off someones debt when you could allow them to be responsible. Do you have a hard time distinguishing what is your responsibility and what is theirs? .  The law of responsibilities includes loving others and yourself.  We are to treat others as the way we would want to be treated.  Another aspect of being Responsible is setting limits on an others destructive and irresponsible behavior.  It is not good to rescue someone from the consequences of their destructive behavior.  If you do you rescue them you have just reinforced the pattern.  It is hurtful not to have limits with others.  Give to real needs and put limits on their choices to reel you in.  Boundaries help us do just that. Did you know their are ten main laws of Boundaries?  the first one is the law of sewing and Reaping.  If you spend more then you make consistently eventually you will get into trouble with creditors.  If you exercise and eat well consistently you may have better health then people who don;t. Sometimes, however people don’t reap what they sow, because someone else steps in and reaps the consequences for them.Today we call someone who continuously rescues others  a codependent. Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us.   DID you or do you allow your children to say no and have the no be respected?  Or did you shame or guilt them? Allowing and respecting a child’s NO allows them to grow u[p with healthy boundaries.  You can respect there no and not necessary give in to them.  You can give them a choice.  You can say no to not eating supper and if you don’t eat supper you don’t get desert,  you choose.  They get their No is respected and their is a consequence TO OUR Choices.  When children get they can say no without punishment they get  to choose not be told what to do.  Then when they are 11 or older and older kids are pushing them to do drugs, they don’t feel pressured into doing what they have been educated not to, they get to choose and face consequences of choice. If their No’s are not respected they can give in because of fear of losing love.  CHILDREN HAVE VALUES, THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM US. Respect that.   As we raise our children,  are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don’t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part?

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? The law of responsibilities includes loving others and yourself.  We are to treat others as the way we would want to be treated.  Another aspect of being Responsible is setting limits on an others destructive and irresponsible behavior.  It is not good to rescue someone from the consequences of their destructive behavior.  If you do you rescue them you have just reinforced the pattern.  It is hurtful not to have limits with others.  Give to real needs and put limits on their choices to reel you in.  Boundaries help us do just that. Did you know their are ten main laws of Boundaries?  the first one is the law of sewing and Reaping.  If you spend more then you make consistently eventually you will get into trouble with creditors.  If you exercise and eat well consistently you may have better health then people who don;t. Sometimes, however people don’t reap what they sow, because someone else steps in and reaps the consequences for them.Today we call someone who continuously rescues others  a codependent. Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us.   DID you or do you allow your children to say no and have the no be respected?  Or did you shame or guilt them? Allowing and respecting a child’s NO allows them to grow u[p with healthy boundaries.  You can respect there no and not necessary give in to them.  You can give them a choice.  You can say no to not eating supper and if you don’t eat supper you don’t get desert,  you choose.  They get their No is respected and their is a consequence TO OUR Choices.  When children get they can say no without punishment they get  to choose not be told what to do.  Then when they are 11 or older and older kids are pushing them to do drugs, they don’t feel pressured into doing what they have been educated not to, they get to choose and face consequences of choice. If their No’s are not respected they can give in because of fear of losing love.  CHILDREN HAVE VALUES, THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM US. Respect that.   As we raise our children,  are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don’t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Did you know their are ten main laws of Boundaries?  the first one is the law of sewing and Reaping.  If you spend more then you make consistently eventually you will get into trouble with creditors.  If you exercise and eat well consistently you may have better health then people who don;t. Sometimes, however people don’t reap what they sow, because someone else steps in and reaps the consequences for them.Today we call someone who continuously rescues others  a codependent. Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us.   DID you or do you allow your children to say no and have the no be respected?  Or did you shame or guilt them? Allowing and respecting a child’s NO allows them to grow u[p with healthy boundaries.  You can respect there no and not necessary give in to them.  You can give them a choice.  You can say no to not eating supper and if you don’t eat supper you don’t get desert,  you choose.  They get their No is respected and their is a consequence TO OUR Choices.  When children get they can say no without punishment they get  to choose not be told what to do.  Then when they are 11 or older and older kids are pushing them to do drugs, they don’t feel pressured into doing what they have been educated not to, they get to choose and face consequences of choice. If their No’s are not respected they can give in because of fear of losing love.  CHILDREN HAVE VALUES, THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM US. Respect that.   As we raise our children,  are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don’t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us.   DID you or do you allow your children to say no and have the no be respected?  Or did you shame or guilt them? Allowing and respecting a child’s NO allows them to grow u[p with healthy boundaries.  You can respect there no and not necessary give in to them.  You can give them a choice.  You can say no to not eating supper and if you don’t eat supper you don’t get desert,  you choose.  They get their No is respected and their is a consequence TO OUR Choices.  When children get they can say no without punishment they get  to choose not be told what to do.  Then when they are 11 or older and older kids are pushing them to do drugs, they don’t feel pressured into doing what they have been educated not to, they get to choose and face consequences of choice. If their No’s are not respected they can give in because of fear of losing love.  CHILDREN HAVE VALUES, THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS THAT ARE DIFFERENT FROM US. Respect that.   As we raise our children,  are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don’t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us .  As we raise our children are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don;t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. Gratitude is a helpful tool and for some of us it takes practice.  Especially if you have been raised in an alcoholic home or a dysfunctional home.  Growing up i heard a lot of complaints. Seldom did I hear praise or thankfulness I was too busy surviving.  It wan’t until I was in my thirties when I heard Oprah talk about a gratitude journal.  To this day its a daily practice.   I ask God to show me where I can be grateful and I thank God for at least 5 things daily that I am grateful for.  Every morning i wake up I am grateful and thank God and through out the day and before I go to bed. Try it you might be pleasantry surprised.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? Gratitude is a helpful tool and for some of us it takes practice.  Especially if you have been raised in an alcoholic home or a dysfunctional home.  Growing up i heard a lot of complaints. Seldom did I hear praise or thankfulness I was too busy surviving.  It wan’t until I was in my thirties when I heard Oprah talk about a gratitude journal.  To this day its a daily practice.   I ask God to show me where I can be grateful and I thank God for at least 5 things daily that I am grateful for.  Every morning i wake up I am grateful and thank God and through out the day and before I go to bed. Try it you might be pleasantry surprised.   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you? Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? TENACIOUS what does that really mean?  For me it means not giving up.  Being bold, making requests for help or whatever I need even if I feel embarrassed or stupid. It means being committed to something even if I don’t know how to do it and going for it anyway.  Are you willing to be tenacious in an area of life that is  important to you?  Write it down in a notebook.  What new action could you take right now that could move your area forward?  Just one new action could alter something.  Are you willing to try?  Go for it, I say you can do it !   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?   .  Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? TENACIOUS what does that really mean?  For me it means not giving up.  Being bold, making requests for help or whatever I need even if I feel embarrassed or stupid. It means being committed to something even if I don’t know how to do it and going for it anyway.  Are you willing to be tenacious in an area of life that is  important to you?  Write it down in a notebook.  What new action could you take right now that could move your area forward?  Just one new action could alter something.  Are you willing to try?  Go for it, I say you can do it !   Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.   Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?   .  Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counsellor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?   .  Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counsellor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?   .  Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counsellor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?   .  Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counsellor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened. Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!

(it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson .    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?   .  Create 2018 the most magnificent Year yet!  What would you have to give up so you can own your greatness and live a miraculous life!!  Are you willing to let go of being Right even if you are Right to let the love in that you really want?  Are you willing to Risk having love back in your life?  There are no guarantees to love.  People you love will hurt you, they can leave you then can disagree and disappoint you and are you willing to let them in anyway? Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?   Are you willing to be forgiving?  Are you willing to be grateful?   Let Go and Let God.  Stay loving and remember what you really are committed to and take actions from that!  Try it on see what happens.  What have you got to Loose? Where are you not masterful.  What skills could you expand on so that your performance flourishes?  Are you willing to learn and grow in that area?  What actions would you need to take to become more skillful? Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b) I want to  personally  hear about your dreams and goals.  I will give you  one amazing tip that will help you out.  I will call people who let me  know they left a five star rating for this podcast and provide their user name on iTunes, google plus, blubrry the podcast providers I use.  Just hit the button subscribe to my podcast and rate it a number 5.! Anything that is said on this podcast and any before or after are from my views only. Thanks for Listening!