Advice Goddess Radio: Amy Alkon

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in therapy and research.    ***This show is a "Best Of" replay because I'm attending the annual Human Behav. & Evol Society Conf. in Miami. New live shows starting again July 28!   What do men want? In bed and out? What do women want? How does this all tie together? (And who’s getting tied up?)   These are just a few of the questions I’ll be asking and sex therapist Dr. Brandy Engler will be answering on tonight’s show.    Dr. Engler is unique in that she opened a sex therapy practice for women -- expecting to slowly get some clients -- and quickly amassed a full list of clients: all men.    Engler and New York Times best-selling biographer David Rensin have just published a fascinating book about her sessions and her insights, The Men On My Couch: True Stories of Sex, Love, and Psychotherapy.    This is your chance to go inside her sessions -- to see into the erotic minds of men. And not pervos or deviants, but regular guys. Men we all know.     Beyond the men, we will also see into the minds of the women having sex with these men -- or refusing to -- and find out why, and what it takes to balance love and eroticism in a relationship.   All this and more on tonight’s show!   Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. Pacific Time, 10-11 p.m. Eastern Time, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.  

Dr. Gabrielle Principe will ease every parent's mind with her advice for science-based parenting -- parenting sans paranoia. She's smart and interesting even if you don't have kids, and explains a lot of ways we go wrong in school, in how we raise kids, and how we think kids learn and develop.  I'm turning in my manuscript tomorrow and will have live shows starting on the 28th of July, but until then, I'm rerunning some of the shows I think are the best and most helpful. On July 28, Dr. Elizabeth Dunn will be on to talk about what science says how to spend your money so it actually can make you happy.

Nationally syndicated advice columist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science. A word explaining the recent “Best of” replays, including tonight’s: I’m in the final weeks of working absolutely insane hours to complete my next book. This is the only reason I haven’t been doing live weekly shows. I will soon be all-live every weekend, featuring some very exciting researchers and their books. This week, better sex! My guest is marriage therapist Michele Weiner Davis, author of the extremely helpful book, "The Sex-Starved Marriage," which I've referenced in my advice column.  This is not only a show that explains how to bring the sex back into your relationship but how manage things if one of you wants it more than the other (or if one of you wants it and the other wants it not at all).   Unlike all of those "sexperts" who basically tell you that one of you just has to throw on a nurse's uniform before you have at it, Michele Weiner Davis gives real, practical, pragmatic solutions for this problem -- ones that take into account how people really are and how life actually works.   Join me and all my fascinating guests live every week from 7-8pm Pacific, 10-11pm Eastern, and listen to all my previous shows here at BlogTalk Radio. Subscribe here, on iTunes, or Stitcher.   

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science. A word explaining the recent “Best of” replays, including tonight’s. I’m in the final weeks of working absolutely insane hours to complete my next book. This is the only reason I haven’t been doing live weekly shows. I will soon be all-live every weekend, featuring some very exciting researchers and their books. Tonight's guest, social psychologist Dr. Roy Baumeister, will bust all sorts of myths we believe -- to our detriment -- about willpower, which is key to success in numerous facets of life, from relationships to one's career. An example of one of these myths is the notion that it makes sense to have New Year’s resolutions, plural. In fact, willpower is easily depleted, and Baumeister, based on the research, explains that you should have ONE resolution and explains how to eliminate cognitive stress that decreases your chances of sticking to it. One of the most practical and helpful self-help books I've read recently is the one featured on this show, Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength, by Baumeister and John Tierney -- on an issue we all have issues with: Improving our self-control. Many of the studies in the book are from Baumeister's own lab, and he is fascinating guest. I've already improved my life with insights from the book, and I can't imagine that anyone who listens to this show will come away without tips for how they can improve their life -- and be a little more relaxed about the stuff they anguish over related to self-control. Join me and all my fascinating guests live every week from 7-8pm Pacific, 10-11pm Eastern, and listen to all my previous shows here at BlogTalk Radio. Subscribe here, on iTunes, or Stitcher. 

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.    *Best Of" replay due to the Sun night LA Press Club Awards, for which I'm a finalist (for my advice column) in four categories.   This show will help you use the new field of adult attachment science to find love -- or to keep and even vastly improve the relationship you have.   My guest is neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine, co-author with psychologist Rachel S.F. Heller, of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find -- and Keep -- Love. If you’re seeking a partner, by recognizing which of the three attachment styles you fit into, you can help yourself avoid all the usual troubles you get into while dating. If you're in a relationship, by recognizing which form of attachment you exhibit and which your partner does, you can stop battling each other, behave more lovingly to each other, and better meet each other’s needs. The partner who longs for more closeness can recognize their need and stop always acting so demanding of a partner who needs a little more distance to feel comfortable. At the same time, they can come to understand that their partner loves them, and that it's largely their style of attachment that makes them harangue the other person for closeness, which can help them pull back a little. In turn, the person who's more distant can recognize their style but come around in small and regular ways that reassure their more intimacy-seeking partner. This is a not-to-be-missed show. I hope you'll join me -- and all my fascinating guests every week. Subscribe here, on iTunes, or Stitcher.   

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.  This show is a "Best Of" replay -- an extremely helpful one.  On it, University of Chicago psychologist and researcher Dr. Sian Beilock explains why we choke under pressure and how we can avoid doing it.  Her book is Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting It Right When You Have To. Join us tonight to find out how you can exhibit the sort of grace under pressure that makes for winning performances -- in  life, business, sports, public speaking, and the arts.  And join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday from 7-8 pm Pacific and 10-11 pm Eastern, here at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes.    Buy my book, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society, at Amazon, and look for my award-winning, nationally syndicated, science-based advice column in a paper near you, or ask the editor to carry it!

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science. On this show, cognitive psychologist Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman lays out why intelligence tests currently used are far too limiting in determining a student’s true potential.  Kaufman is a rigorous researcher whose work I know and respect, but his new book, UNGIFTED: Intelligence Redefined, offers much more than science. It offers inspiration in Kaufman’s own story as a “late listener” (due to a spate of ear infections) who was put into learning disabled classes. And then, in 9th grade, through sheer determination, pushed his way into a gifted kids’ class -- ultimately going on to Yale, getting a Ph.D., then going on to become a young professor at NYU.   On this show, we’ll discuss the limitations of current testing and a host of other things that matter in whether a child succeeds and how Scott thinks we would better assess talent, creativity, and “the many paths to greatness.”   Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sun, 7-8 p.m. Pacific, 10-11 p.m. Eastern, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher. Please buy my science-based but funny book about why people are rude and how to change things, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society. And ask your local paper to run my award-winning syndicated, science-based advice column...if they don't already!  

Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in therapy and research. This is not just a show for and about men but a show for anyone who cares about equal rights and fairness for all. Tonight's guest is psychologist Dr. Helen Smith talking about how, in America, it's become permissible -- and even fashionable -- to be anti-male and what men can (and must) do to start changing this.  What men have been doing is going on strike -- dropping out of college, leaving the workforce, and avoiding marriage and fatherhood in droves.  There are countless articles sneering at the man who is more man-child than grownup, but Smith, in her book, Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters, contends that men aren't dropping out because they're stuck in arrested development; they are responding rationally to the lack of incentive they see in becoming fathers, husbands, and providers.  On this show, Smith will lay out the problems -- including shocking discrimination against men such as rampant paternity fraud, condoned and even encouraged by the government -- and what she sees as steps toward solutions, for men in general and for the individual man.  Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sun, 7-8 p.m. Pacific, 10-11 p.m. Eastern, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher. Please buy my science-based but funny book about why people are rude and how to change things, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society. And ask your local paper to run my award-winning syndicated, science-based advice column...if they don't already!

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.  This show is a "Best Of" replay for the Memorial Day holiday -- but it's an especially helpful one.  It turns out that our assumptions about the mindblowing sex we think we are "supposed" to be having is the thing that stops us from the pretty great sex we could be having. Or from having sex at all. This week's guest is therapist and sex therapist Dr. Marty Klein, ripping away widely held myths about sex to help everybody listening improve their sex lives. We'll be discussing his new book, Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It.  Listen live at this link or download after the show (click "Play in your default player"). And do call in with questions when the show is live -- 347-326-9761 Join me and all my fascinating guests live every Sunday from 7-8pm Pacific, 10-11pm Eastern at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon  

Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio: "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.  My wee doggie was sick, and this consumed much of my week, so I'm sorry to say I have  a rerun for you this week -- but a very good one. On this show, exercise trainer and rehab expert Fred Hahn explains why slow-speed strength training, for just a few minutes a week, will make you healthier than a fitness fanatic. (He lays out fascinating and solid evidence throughout the show.) Fred is co-author, with Dr. Michael Eades and Dr. Mary Dan Eades, whom I greatly respect, of The Slow Burn Fitness Revolution: The Slow-Motion Exercise That Will Change Your Body In 30 Minutes A Week. He will debunk all the myths most of us hold about exercise and fitness, and leave you with a plan for exercise that will make you fitter and healthier, and will only eat 12-15 minutes of your week.  This is a not-to-be-missed show. This method of exercise has improved my health and my life and I'm hoping you'll follow my lead. Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, from 7-8 pm Pacific and 10-11 pm Eastern, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon And please buy a copy of my own science-based (and funny) book on why people are rude and how to change things, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society.

Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in therapy and research. Tonight's show will help you improve your sex life and diminish sexual anxiety with the latest research on sex. We'll talk about orgasms, fantasies, hooking up, what's changed about oral sex, how people can make Internet dating work better for them, how the proliferation of p0rn really affects the average person's sex life, and whether you can be better in bed -- and how -- among other topics. My guest tonight is Kinsey Institute researcher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia, co-author with Dr. Peter B. Gray of the encyclopedic new book, Evolution and Human Sexual Behavior. Garcia has done fascinating studies on sex and will debunk some widely held myths with straight talk about who's doing what to whom, how things have changed, and how we can do better with a few shifts in our thinking in various areas. Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. Pacific Time, 10-11 p.m. Eastern Time, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher. Please buy my science-based but funny book about why people are rude and how to change things, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society. And please ask a newspaper near you to carry my award-winning syndicated, science-based advice column...if they don't already!

Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in therapy and research. My guest is the inspiring Dr. Temple Grandin, bestselling author, autism activist, and consultant to the livestock industry on animal behavior, discussing her fascinating new book, The Autistic Brain: Thinking Across The Spectrum. This isn't just a show for people who have friends or children with autism or autism spectrum disorders but a show that offers compelling thinking on how to see intelligence, creativity, and differences between brains, and how to help people use their brains in optimal ways.  Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. Pacific Time, 10-11 p.m. Eastern Time, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher. Please buy my science-based but funny book about why people are rude and how to change things, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society.   And please ask a newspaper near you to carry my award-winning syndicated, science-based advice column...if they don't already!

Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in therapy and research.   Tonight’s show is on why friendships matter more now than ever, the ways friends can make us better people, and how to have more satisfying friendships and ditch the dark ones.   My guest is Carlin Flora, the fantastic editor I worked with at Psychology Today, and her book is Friendfluence: The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are.   Flora is one of the few non-scientists to appear on my show, but her book is research-driven and I found her to be very solid on science, and this should be a compelling show.    Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. Pacific Time, 10-11 p.m. Eastern Time, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.   Please buy my science-based but funny book about why people are rude and how to change things, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society.   And please ask a newspaper near you to carry my award-winning syndicated, science-based advice column...if they don't already!

Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.   *Book Festival Weekend “Best Of” Rerun (because I’m leading a panel at LA Times Festival of Books on my usual show day).   Psychologist Jeremy Dean, founder of the popular website PsyBlog, is the author of Making Habits, Breaking Habits: Why We Do Things, Why We Don't, and How To Make Any Change Stick -- which is the topic of today's show.   We are convinced that we are the boss of us -- that we do the things we do because they make sense, because we’ve got goals, because we make smart choices. Often, that’s far from the case. But, by understanding how habits are formed, why we develop them, and what our biases are, we can use habit-forming to our benefit and have some chance of stopping the habits holding us back.    Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8 p.m. Pacific Time, 10-11 p.m. Eastern Time, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.   Please buy my science-based but funny book about why people are rude and how to change things, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society.   And please ask a newspaper near you to carry my award-winning syndicated, science-based advice column...if they don't already!

Nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in therapy and research. This week’s show will offer you numerous substantive, practical tips for keeping anxiety for taking over your thoughts and your life, emphasizing the use of reason. My guest is psychologist Tamar Chansky, Ph.D, a leading expert on anxiety disorders, who has written a very helpful and down-to-earth book on understanding and conquering anxiety, Freeing Yourself from Anxiety: 4 Simple Steps to Overcome Worry and Create the Life You Want.    Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday from 7-8 pm Pacific and 10-11 pm Eastern, here at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.   Buy my book, I SEE RUDE PEOPLE: One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society, at Amazon, and look for my award-winning, science-based advice column in a paper near you or ask editors to carry it.