I Like You

Happy New Year!  One week into 2011 we’re talking resolutions. Glamour Magazine’s 2011 Dating-o-lutions provides the canvas on which we spread our silliness. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Other music provided by: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Akshun “MTL Anthem (feat. Kaybe)” The London Fox Players “Auld Lang Syne Party”

The dreaded friend zone!  Meredith shares a story about her years of friendly frustration and how she managed to escape. Show notes: See more from Meredith at overthinkingmom.com. Elah’s mom drops by to tell us what she doesn’t think of the show. Extra music this week from: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Akiko Moriyako “Sublime” Les Shelleys “The World Is Waiting For The Sunrise” Marc Ribot “Delancey Waltz” Allo Darlin’ “If Loneliness Was Art” Mo-Tunes “Come See About Me”

We talk to researcher Pam Epstein about personal ads from the mid 1800s to early 1900s in America. Missed connections, poetry, crypto-gay ads, s&m, and more! Show notes: Pam’s blog is advertisingforlove.com Romantic readings from regular contributors Sierra & Brendan Music by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke and… [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Marc Ribot “Delancey Waltz” Angel Miller “Bridge Over Troubled Water” Image from Wisconsin Historical Images.

JP and Elah dissect why online dating is such a cesspool of misery, reviewing each stage of the process to identify its unique capacity for inflicting pain. Show notes: Our inspiration is researcher Dan Ariely and his quest to find out why online dating is so unsatisfying. Ariely studies other interesting stuff too, like “behavioral economics”, which is much cooler than it sounds. Check out his book, Predictably Irrational. You can get the audiobook free by signing up for the Audible trial. Theme song by Drew Danburry, and the rest by: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Allo Darlin’ “If Loneliness Was Art” Ian Whitcomb “Somebody Stole My Gal” Luther Ingram “I’ll Be Your Shelter (In Time of Storm)” Starfucker “German Love” Photo by Don Hankins, creative commons

Living apart is no fun, there are no snuggles, no sex, no gazing into each others’ eyes… This week we talk to Ben about his experience with long distance relationships. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry.  Other music provided by: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Archie Edwards “I Called My Baby Long Distance” Salteens “All My Friends Are Different”

Friend of the show Lynn returns this week with a story of a date gone horribly awry.  Don’t worry though, there’s a happy ending. Theme music as always by Drew Danburry, other music by: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Lillix “Dance Alone”

The end of a relationship – how it happens, why it happens, who says what.  Sierra Bellows takes these questions to people in her town, and shares their answers.  As the album below says, THIS WILL DESTROY YOU. The person who will destroy you (Sierra’s portrait by Eliza Evans) Extra songs this week: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] This Will Destroy You “Quiet” This Will Destroy You “The World Is Our ___” Sibylle Baier “Tonight”

Why you should be afraid of commitment, psychics, and living in cages, or why you shouldn’t be.  We didn’t come to any firm conclusions on these issues, but Claire helped us navigate the way through our confused thoughts. Theme song by Drew Danburry of course, and other songs this week by [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Santogold “L.E.S Artistes” Allo Darlin’ “Dreaming” Nick Light “Always Together” Joey Ryan “As It Must Be”

She was 22, he was 39, they dated for 10 years and nearly got married three times… and then it ended. This week we talk to Jenn about her neurotic ex and where she’s headed from here. You can read about Jenn’s adventures in online dating on her blog: The Old Man and the See You Later. Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music by: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] The New Morty Show “White Wedding / Rebel Yell Medley” Dosh “I Think I’m Getting Married” Radha & The Kiwi Kids “Clean Up Time”

Can you ever be too honest? What happens when you’re not honest enough? This week JP and Elah tell it like it is as they discuss the role honesty has played in past and present relationships. Theme and outro music by Drew Danburry, as always.  One other song by: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Cee Cee James “I’ll Ask The Questions You Tell The Lies”  Did you enjoy this episode? If so, consider making a small donation to support our efforts.  If money is tight you can provide moral support by reviewing us in iTunes, calling the like line or commenting below.  Thanks!

Ever had a crush on a teacher?  Wonder what could have happened if you had pursued it? Lynn tells us about the affair she had with a teacher when she was 15 years old. Conclusion: Don’t do it, kids! Music this week by Drew Danburry, Abigail Clarke, and… [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Starfucker “Rawnald Gregory Erickson the Second” Lene Lovich “I Think We’re Alone Now” The Weeks “Hold It, Kid (Your Heart Just Skipped a Beat)”

But I can buy me dates, and you can too.  We talk to Scott, president of Virtual Dating Assistants, a company that online dates on behalf of people who don’t have the time (or possibly skills) to do it themselves.  Scott and his assistants have it down to a science. Show notes: In providing this service, what are the ethics of presenting yourself as someone else online? If you’re a client, when do you tell your partner that wasn’t really you writing? Do you? What kind of clients will Virtual Dating Assistants never work with? Music this week by Drew Danburry and… [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Dragonette “I Get Around” Bobby Broom “Can’t Buy Me Love”

Children need their independence, especially 28 year old children.  This week Jane tells us about her boyfriend’s clingy conservative Indian parents, and how their death grip on their son choked the life out of her relationship. Theme and outro songs by Drew Danburry, other music by [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] The dB’s “What Becomes of the Brokenhearted”

This week we tell you about Dan Savage’s new project: It Gets Better. The effort was inspired by the tragic story of Billy Lucas, a gay teen who committed suicide after being bullied mercilessly.  Savage hopes the stories from queer people who lived happily ever after will give teens the strength to survive, even when things seem hopeless.  We hope so too. You can submit your video by uploading it to YouTube and emailing the URL to mail@savagelove.net Music for this episode provided by Drew Danburry.

Jared of abadcaseofthedates.com shares the best of the worst dating stories with us. Show notes: Sitting on train tracks – good or bad date idea? How a very beautiful scarf got in the way of love… Find The Rebecca Project at Winter Twilight Productions Thanks as always to Drew Danburry for theme and outro music, as well as: [NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.] Elf Power “Stranger in the Window”