Summary: <br> Most people, especially highly ambitious people, are unhappy because of how they measure their progress. We all have an “ideal,” a moving target that is always out of reach. When we measure ourselves against that ideal, we’re in “the GAP.” However, when we measure ourselves against our previous selves, we’re in “the GAIN.”<br> Today’s guest, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, is one of my all-time favorite authors. In his new book, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401964362" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The GAP and the GAIN: The High Achievers’ Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success</a>, he delivers a masterclass on positive psychology, healthy relationships, mental well-being, and high-performance. He explores why unsuccessful, unhappy people focus on “the GAP,” but successful, happy people focus on “the GAIN.”<br> In this conversation, Benjamin makes his third appearance on the podcast to talk about how to stop focusing on the GAP and turn your biggest hurdles into massive gains, and what you can do to stay in the GAIN each and every day.<br> KEY TAKEAWAYS<br> <br> * Why associating our emotional well-being with targets that are out of reach sets us up to be chronically unhappy.<br> * Why you don’t need to make millions of dollars to be in the GAIN.<br> * How to reframe a situation to shift your focus and emphasize the positive.<br> * Why focusing on the GAIN is not the same thing as dismissing pain or disappointment.<br> * Why we’re always moving beyond our former selves–and life as a whole takes on whatever meaning you give to it.<br> * And much more…<br> <br> TWEETABLES<br> THIS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:<br> Organifi makes the highest quality nutritional products, which are made from whole food ingredients (not synthetic vitamins) that I enjoy nearly every day, and have for many years. Visit <a href="https://www.organifi.com/hal/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Organifi.com/Hal</a>, and use the code HAL at checkout to get 20% off of your entire order. I hope you find something there that you love! :^)<br> EPISODE RESOURCES<br> <br> * <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Gap-Gain-Achievers-Happiness-Confidence/dp/1401964362" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers’ Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success</a><br> * <a href="https://halelrod.com/216" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Episode 216: Willpower Doesn’t Work</a><br> * <a href="https://halelrod.com/327" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Episode 327: Why Your Personality Isn’t Permanent</a><br> * <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Willpower-Doesnt-Work-Discover-Success/dp/0316441325" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Willpower Doesn’t Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success</a><br> * <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Personality-Isnt-Permanent-Self-Limiting-Beliefs/dp/0593083318" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Personality Isn’t Permanent: Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs and Rewrite Your Story</a><br> * <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Who-Not-How-Accelerating-Teamwork/dp/1401960588" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork</a><br> * <a href="https://www.strategiccoach.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Dan Sullivan</a><br> * <a href="https://gregmckeown.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Greg McKeown</a><br> * <a href="https://twitter.com/StephenRCovey" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Stephen Covey</a><br> <br> CONNECT WITH HAL<br> <br> <br> * <a href="https://www.facebook.com/yopalhal" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Facebook</a><br> * <a href="https://twitter.com/halelrod" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Twitter</a><br> * <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/achieve-your-goals-hal-elrod/id820889267?mt=2" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Achieve Your Goals Podcast on iTunes</a><br> <br> <br> RATE & REVIEW THE PODCAST<br> <br> <br>
