Summary: If you're usually a calm and reasonable person, it can be very confusing when that calm vanishes the moment your child frustrates you. At first we think, if my child would just stop doing that I would be fine. But the truth is there's an underlying fear your child's behavior is triggering and it usually comes from a trauma in your own childhood. Maybe not a huge trauma, maybe a small way that you learned to set aside your needs. And when your child behaves in this way it triggers those same feelings of not having your needs met. Jen Lumanlan is on the podcast today to share with us how we can defuse and regulate our reactions while giving ourselves grace and kindness. Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed., and hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researchers and the principles of respectful parenting. In each episode she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children. She lives in California with her husband and daughter.
