Summary: Do you feel that you have to be perfect? Do you go through life as if you're on a stage? Is it hard to have compassion and love for yourself? Let's talk about imperfection.<br> <br> This episode was inspired by the book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené Brown. The gifts of imperfection, according to Brown, are courage, compassion, and connection. And with them, we can begin to live whole-heartedly.<br> <br> Think back to your first meeting. How did you find the courage to walk in? How do you now find the courage to openly speak of what is happening in your heart and soul? We practice courage every day, and with it we can begin to embrace our imperfection.<br> <br> I found compassion for myself as I worked the steps, and in particular as I worked the steps in the company of others. I was able to see my wholeness, to see that I was not uniquely flawed, and to start to accept myself as I was and to find compassion for myself as an imperfect person. And in finding compassion for myself, I could more easily "suffer with" (have compassion for) others. <br> <br> And the last is not least: connection was the first thing I found in Al-Anon. At the end of my first meeting, I was no longer alone in my struggle and fear and desperation. I found connection, soul-deep connection, with others who were walking my journey. This connection, more than anything, kept me coming back.<br> <br> What blocks us from living with a whole heart? Brown suggests 10 "guideposts", each described as a positive attribute, and also described in term of letting go. This resonates strongly with me, because the first slogan I adopted from Al-Anon was "Let Go". ("Let God" came later.) What are these guideposts?<br> <br> Authenticity (Letting go of what people think)<br> <br> Self-Compassion (Letting go of Perfectionism)<br> <br> Resilient Spirit (Letting go of numbing and powerlessness)<br> <br> Gratitude and Joy (Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark)<br> <br> Intuition and Faith (Letting go of the need for certainty)<br> Creativity (Letting go of comparison)<br> <br> Play and Rest (Letting go of exhaustion=status and productivity=self-worth)<br> <br> Calm and Stillness (Letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle)<br> <br> Meaningful work (Letting go of self-doubt and “supposed to”)<br> <br> Laughter, Song and Dance (Letting go of being cool and in control)
