Summary: Synopsis At the last conference of the Transformational Leadership Council,someone told Dr. Misner an incredible story about making a tough decision about whether to move. Dr. Misner and Priscilla are both people who make lists of pros and cons when they can't decide, but sometimes that's not enough. In this case, the pros and cons came out equal, and it was hard to know what to do. This person invited her financial planner to help her make the decision. He suggested flipping a coin. If your response to the coin flip is "Oh, no," what you really wanted was the other outcome. If it's "Oh, great," then that's what you really wanted to do. Remember this when someone needs help making a decision. (It may not work for your own decisions now that you know the trick.) Brought to you by <a href="http://networkingnow.com">Networking Now</a>. Complete Transcript of Episode 421 - Priscilla: Hello everyone and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast, brought to you by NetworkingNow.com, which is the leading site on the net for networking downloadables. I am Priscilla Rice, and I am coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California. I am joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello, Ivan. How are you and where are you? Ivan: This week, I am at BNI headquarters in southern California. We are doing training Director Consultant orientation. We have people from all over North America coming into headquarters and I am training them. I love going to headquarters and doing the orientation. It is a lot of fun. Priscilla: I am glad you like it. You probably have to do it quite often. Ivan: I do, but you know, you have heard me talking about working in your wax and working in your flame. When entrepreneurs work in their flame, they are on fire. They are excited. Doing things like training, orientation, and the podcast- these are my flame. These are the things I love doing and I am happy to do them. Priscilla: Tell us, Ivan. What is this topic of "Can't Decide". What is this about? Ivan: I am a member of the organization called the Transformational Leadership Council started by Jack Canfield. I was in Tecate, Mexico for the last conference. One of the members there is Barnet Bain. He and I are good friends. He and his wife and my wife and I are very good friends. His wife's name is Sandy Stuart. Sandy, in this offhanded discussion that we were having- they were planning on moving. I have been to their home in Malibu. It is a beautiful home. They were thinking about moving. She told me this incredible story about a tough decision they were making about whether they should move or not. At one point, they didn't know whether they wanted to leave this house because it was beautiful and right on the beach. But they needed more room and they just couldn't make a decision. Have you ever been in a situation like that when you have a big decision to make and you just couldn't decide what to do? Priscilla: Of course. Ivan: Everybody has. What are some of the things that you did to help make a decision? Priscilla: I am kind of a listmaker, so I do the pro and con list and then I try very hard to listen to my inner voice, my intuition. Ivan: That is fantastic advice, and that is exactly what I do. I make a list. Pros and cons. I may do a secondary list of financial pros and cons- a personal, how it plays out individually and then a financial pro and con. And then I try to listen to my inner voice as well. You are absolutely correct. She told me she did all that and just couldn't make a decision. She said it was one of those situations where she was so entrenched, enmeshed with the issue that she had a hard time figuring out what she really, really wanted. I don't know if you have been in that, but I have been there. So she called their financial planner and asked him to come over and give them some advice.
