Relationship Red Flags: When Should You Run For the Hills – Episode 0011

Summary: In This Episode: We’re talking about red flags...those little things you notice in your dates or significant others that just scream, “Warning!” By the end of this episode you’ll learn: Why Red Flags are Important Which ones to look for in multiple scenarios And when you’re overthinking Download Episode 0011! (right click, then click "Save Link As...") The Problem We are all detectives, a little bit, when it comes to scoping out potential dates. Part of our “scoping” is innate...we do have primal instincts and can guess, infer or scope out problems right out of the gate. But some red flags are learned or a result of our roles in society. So how do we scope out red flags? Are there some we can ignore? And when is it just time to run. What the Experts Say What are Red Flags? Why are They Important? The Relationship Counseling Center | Pay Attention to the Red Flags When Dating Unfortunately, all too often people ignore...‘red flags’ especially if there is some attraction or ‘chemistry’ happening between the two of you. If these red flags are not addressed in the early stages of dating, then 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years later you’ll be faced with a relationship crisis on your hands saying, “I didn’t know that he/she would be so controlling/critical/self centered etc...“ Singles who ignore the red flags often minimize or deny the meaning of the behavior of the person they are dating. They say, “Oh that quality doesn’t really matter.” Or “It’ll work out somehow; love will conquer all.” Or “They will change.” Nothing could be further from the truth. Margaret Paul, PhD | Huffington Post Healthy Living | Dating: Relationship Red Flags Over the many years of working with thousands of people looking to find a committed relationship, I've discovered numerous red flags that may indicate future problems. Very often, when the person I'm working with has moved ahead with the relationship, one of these issues -- which might not have seemed huge at the beginning -- becomes a major problem leading to the demise of the relationship. Ballaisa | Comluv.com | Dating Mistake: Ignoring Red Flags Do you always end up dating losers? You know, the guy or girl that you think may fit into your life but then ends up being a complete waste of time? While a lot of dating advice is given to help you avoid screwing up your first date and beyond, there is not as much dating advice about how to recognize red flags and a potential loser when you are on a date. But it’s actually more important than making sure the date is a success. Which Red Flags Should You Look For? On Online Dating Profiles: Kris L. | Thought Catalog | 12 Dating Red Flags Most People Ignore 1. They post multiple attractive photos, but barely fill out their profile They think the rules don’t apply to them. Online dating has a standard list of unspoken guidelines by which most people abide. People who think they can get away with skipping the basics strictly because they’re objectively attractive display an alarming sense of entitlement. 5. They reveal that they’re just out of a relationship Someone who alerts you to the fact that they’re just out of a relationship is typically just looking for a quick hook up or trying to get back on the dating horse. Unless you want to be someone’s “get over the hump” hump, avoid them. “Just out of a relationship” is usually code for “Just looking for casual sex.” 6. They reveal sensitive details about their past Sharing with the Internet that your father abandoned you or that you were once tortured by an in home burglary sends the message that you carry heavy baggage and emotional scars. These people are playing to your sympathy... First dates/early dating: Dr. Seth Myers | Eharmony Blog | Dating Red Flags: Signs You Need to R-U-N Asking questions that are extremely personal. Saying “yes” to an invitation for a date does not grant your date a VIP pass to your most private thoughts and feelings.