Summary: This is a rebroadcast of Episode 211. Synopsis This episode has its origins in a video for Entrepreneur.com. Everyone experiences fear of rejection. In Dr. Misnerâs case, the overwhelming experience came when he was trying to persuade stores to carry his first book. He found himself afraid to get out of the car and walk into the store to ask. Finally he realized that the worst that could happen if he asked was the same thing as if he did nothing at all: the store would not carry his book. So he picked up a copy of the book and went into the store. They asked for 20 copies. When you ask people to do somethingâincluding joining BNIâsome will, some wonât, and either way, itâs not a big deal. Mark Goulston recently said, âWe have a lot less control over winning or losing at something than we have over trying or quitting at something. If you always try, youâll eventually win. If you always quit, you can never win.â Success doesnât necessarily go to the smartest person: persistence is critical. If you think you can, or you think you canât, youâre right. So donât let fear of rejection stop you. Brought to you by Networking Now. Complete Transcript of BNI Podcast Episode 211 - Priscilla: Hello everyone, and welcome back to The Official BNI Podcast brought to you by NetworkingNow.com, which is the leading site on the web for networking downloadables. Iâm Priscilla Rice, and Iâm coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California, and Iâm joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chairman of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello Ivan. How are you? Ivan: Iâm doing great, thanks. Priscilla: I heard itâs your birthday tomorrow. Ivan: It is my birthday. June 30th is my birthday, so Iâll be 55. Everyone is going to be going, âGee. I wonder how old he is.â I started BNI when I was about 28 years old. Priscilla: You are so young. Thatâs great. I hope you have a very happy day. Ivan: Thank you very much. I appreciate that. Today I am going to be talking about an interesting topic. Itâs fear of rejection. Iâll tell you why I am doing this one. I am doing this one because I did a video for entrepreneur.com. They asked me to do something on fear of rejection. This is another one the staff saw and said I had to do this as a podcast. I was like, really? Why? I donât know why BNI members would be interested in it. Iâll tell you I am going to take the advice of my staff because the person who said to do episode 203, The Rest of the Story, where I talked about my background before I got BNI started--we had so many comments. I got a lot of emails and responses on that podcast, just talking about how I got to where I started BNI because most people know the BNI story but they donât know the story before that. We had such a positive response. This is a little bit different. Itâs not about networking, but I think it will resonate with everyone. Fear of rejection. We all have all dealt with the fear of rejection. Maybe you havenât, Priscilla. Priscilla: I have definitely had fear of rejection. I think thatâs a great topic because I think it is universal. We all worry about it. Ivan: I think youâre right so I am going to take the advice of my staff and do the podcast today on this topic. They were absolutely right with episode 203. If you havenât listened to it, go listen to episode 203. Itâs really good. So fear of rejection. What I did for Entrepreneur is talked about one of the more poignant times in my life where I was really concerned about rejection. Thatâs when my first major book, The Worldâs Best Known Marketing Secret, came out in 1994. Let me tell you, if you ever feel like you are a big shot, write a book. That will humble you very quickly in terms of doing book signings and what not. Some people have heard me talk about some funny stories in doing book signings.
