The Three-Headed Man
Summary: Jimmy, Jazzy, and Phreddie met in the mid-90s at a model railroad workshop. For the next 25 years, they have talked and talked and talked. Usually, they spoke on the phone, and occasionally, they organized trips together. With the universal acceptance of Zoom conferencing, they began to meet every Tuesday, to continue their friendship. The podcast is Jazzy’s fault. He initiated the idea, and Jimmy and Phreddie agreed mostly because all we had to do was talk, and it is more interesting to do something together, than it is to chat together. Their conversations are centered on a weekly topic or prompt. Essentially, the podcast is a recording of their weekly conversations, with some awareness of an imaginary audience. Throughout their years of friendship, they have leaned on each other, shared notes and stories, and helped each other navigate the complexities and challenges of a life well-lived.
SEASON ONE FINALE Jimmy begins by introducing the origins of his pain: cold, hunger, fear. Currently, he does not feel safe. He's feels his aging body and mind. Following Jimmy's lead, Phreddie and Jazzy turn the conversation toward physical and emotional pain. THE THREE-HEADED MAN discovers and discusses his own experiences with pain. Phreddie asks, "Is stress pain?" And, with this question THE THREE-HEADED MAN concludes season one.
This week THE THREE-HEADED MAN discusses discipline. Jazzy asks us about the relationship between discipline and disciple. Quickly, the three-heads move their conversation to self-discipline and responsibility. As the discussion continues, THE THREE-HEADED MAN lands upon the contrasts of internal discipline and external discipline.
This week THE THREE-HEADED MAN discusses communication and things. Phreddie asserts that for a good connection he needs to go where they are at. Jazzy and Jimmy introduce the ideas of reception and reading people; in other words: listeners and talkers. Jimmy worries explains that dishonoring others ends his willingness to communicate.
Phreddie says, "you got heart, kid!" THE THREE-HEADED MAN explore the heart. Along the way, they talk parents, nature, and singing. The heart is a transmitter and a receiver.
Episode 37: Jimmy introduces this week's conversation topic, "Hardening Up the Plants". The THREE-HEADED MAN talks gardening, raising children, and coming of age. THE THREE-HEADED MAN draws analogies between gardening and the upbringing of children, and from there they explore their own childhood stories.
Jimmy leads Episode 36 with a story about Afghanistan on Christmas day. Jazzy follows with a skinhead story in London. These and other stories are the shape of our perceptions.
THE THREE-HEADED MAN probes what is meant by ATTENTION. Is it participation? Attending? Observation? Is it a place? This week THE THREE-HEADED MAN explores their ATTENTION.
Phreddie asks, "what is worry?" He never used to worry and now he does. THE THREE-HEADED MAN discuss world and personal events that cause worry. From the conversation, Jazzy concludes, "Don't be a worrier, be a warrior."
In episode 33, THE THREE-HEADED MAN talks sports. Jimmy asserts that uniforms change the game from fun to competition. He prefers scrub sports, kids playing, and inclusion. For him, winning becomes an issue. Phreddie relates stories of playing American football. He enjoys the competition, and he learned to use his mind to overcome the limitations of his body. Jazzy, as usual, is the bridge between these differing points-of-view.
Jazzy begins the discussion by telling us about his father's health. Phreddie immediately responds by reminding us of the film "Rashomon". Perspectives. Jimmy ask, "Is a painting a story?" THE THREE-HEADED MAN concludes, "It's all a story..." Phreddie adds a phrase that he learned from Robert Flaherty, sometimes we have to "lie to tell the truth". THE HEADS ask, "How do we share our truth? And, they consider memory and it's relationship to story. Phreddie says, "My reality is a series of stories I've told myself." Jimmy reminds us that storytelling was used to pass along information and culture. What happens when reality and one's story don't agree?
Jazzy begins the conversation by wish to self-direct his time. Jimmy quickly turns the conversation toward taking advantage of one's weakness. How can one use their weakness? Or how can one strengthen their weakness? Jazzy reminds the heads that a joke contains a shift in perception, and using the shift in perception contained in a joke one can see a perceived weakness from a positive vantage point. He then asks the heads about hard-wired and soft-wired weaknesses. Phreddie reviews the heads examples within this construct.
THE THREE-HEADED MAN are prompted by Jimmy to have a conversation about a phrase: "Sort of Sorting". The heads explore its obvious and subtle implications. Jimmy begins the exploration by wondering about certainty and messiness. Phreddie replies by saying "sort of sorting" implies a process. We gather data and sort it. Jazzy reminds the other heads that we have begun investing and creating NFTs. We knew nothing a few weeks ago, but we have been working through a process of learning cryptocurrency and sorting it out. From there, THE THREE-HEADED MAN investigates nature's process of sorting things out and the human desire for categories -- categories to help sort out information. They conclude by recognizing that categories can lead to dogma and that the Work they do is a "moving target", which disallows easy categorization and promotes alertness and awareness as we constantly resort the data we gather.
THE THREE-HEADED MAN has a conversation about COINCIDENCE. Thy begin by discussing prompts for creativity, leading them to speak on randomity, limits and teleporting Jimmy introduces the idea of data and connections, while Phreddie asks if a person can massage events to encourage good coincidences. Jazzy continues by adding story to the conversation, which births a conversation about fate and destiny..."surprising events that are seemingly planned." The conversation wraps-up with questions about what is happening and how perceptions of what is happening color a person's reality, and Phreddie remembers stories about jumping time streams.
THE THREE-HEADED MAN discusses their ideas on the topic of belief. Jazzy begins by explaining his mother's dementia. Jimmy reminds us of the definition of belief, which is expectation, faith, and trust. Phreddie considers himself a science person, and THE THREE-HEADED MAN considers data, science, and belief, which leads them to the question, "What is faith?" and "What is certainty?" Jazzy asks what is Maya? Jimmy responds by saying everyone pretends. We are pretending all the time. Story -- Everything is a story.
THE THREE-HEADED MAN discusses, "I don't wanna..." Phreddie remembers bumper stickers -- "Just Say No Apathy" They ask, "Is doing the enemy of apathy?" Jimmy questions the relationship between apathy and depression. What are remedies for apathy? Inner tasks and outer tasks -- what others can see can be used as motivation. Jimmy recalls something his father said, "Be good to yourself." Jimmy continues by saying not getting stuff done is self-torture. Is apathy cheating yourself? "So much to do, so much to do," says Jazzy. "Little by little," says Phreddie. He continues by saying, "breathe in the good stuff." Jimmy compares sadness and apathy, and he says, "sadness is legitimate." Apathy in the now. "if not now? when?"